The men I do meet in real life don't typically appeal to me, but I'm still in search of a boyfriend, and I don't think most guys my age are interested in long-term relationships, which would just like to have some fun. In addition, the meetto movement will make it difficult for me to find a boyfriend in real life. Now I'm stuck in waiting mode and I don't want to. Yep i'm single. Men do approach me but seem friendly then all i see are friends and nothing much. I hada horrible previous relationship i been in a toxic prevous relationship got 9 ex boyfriends all my previous relationships ended up with breaking up. My mum is going to be a problem with me when it comes to dating men because I can only date men with a learning disbities What do you think about my problem of not being able to get a boyfriend?
I think it might the case, maybe, that you're focusing too much on it. You're being goal-oriented, when really all you should be doing is explore life and when it feels right you go for it.
It's like going around with a cookie-cutter trying to fit anyone inside of it instead of taking the time to find out what shape of cookie they thrive best as.
Sometimes having tunnelvision on that goal will stop you from seeing the potential infront of you. You might need to ground yourself and explore what's in front of you more closer.
As for finding men that want long-term relationships, you know it's very common for women past age 20 to date up, way up, like 10 years up. It's not wrong.
As for me2 and all the shifts in society the last decade.. it's just something we'll have to live through. Just keep exposing yourself to different environments, other types of men will be there. You know, not everyone cares much about me2 and I think the bulk of the issues it caused is fading as it totally backfired as a movement.
Now we all just have to provide the space and support to learn from our mistakes and move on.
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You and I are in a similar boat. In real life most women around me aren't very interesting or appealing to me either, even when they are attractive. I think you and I may be looking for specific kinds of partners, and have very specific kinds of needs that most everyday men/women are probably not going to meet. But I think my struggle is maybe more difficult than yours because I mostly like women of other cultures, and those really do get me going, but the struggle in that is that we tend to be different religiously. It's a tough world out there.
It's completely understandable to feel frustrated about your dating situation and long for the companionship of a partner. However, it's important to remember that you don't need to rush to find a partner.
It's also possible that your feelings of dissatisfaction come from unresolved frustrations about the past relationships that ended up with breaking up. If you haven't already, it might be helpful to reflect on those past relationships and what you learned from them.
You can turn to your friends and family members for support and advice while you take some time to focus on yourself and build more confidence.
It sounds like you have a picture in your head of the kind of guy you want but the guys you meet irl don’t measure up
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I think you have always have faith that you and your soulmate will find each other someday.. no matter how many boyfriends you'll try but be sure eventually will be with someone in a relationship without breaking up...
Each person may have a lot of failed relationships, you don't know when is "the one" will be there... So just don't let yourself give up...
And I wish you good luck 🍀
Men act friendly because ever since #metoo it became abundantly clear we can't be upfront with our interest without knowing she is open to it.
So a large population of younger men play coy and wait to see if she is into us; if she choose to play hard to get she will play herself - because we're not going to risk putting our neck under the guillotine while blindfolded and hoping the blade is a pillow...
You (like most women these days) have their expectations set to unrealistic levels.
and see how unreachable your standards are.
Sounds like you are looking for love in all the wrong places. Maybe you should try to find some new groups to hang with.
You already have 9 ex boyfriends af your age? 🤒🤯❌
So, a tall and handsome man is not appealing to you?
I don't understand the "I can only date men with learning disabilities" thing
You might be in love with boyfriend image you have created and no guy might fit that description
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