Would you tell a guy that either we have a relationship or nothing at all?

[Anonymous]

I was casually seeing this one guy for quite a while. We ended it and now he’s back.
From what he tells me it sounds like he still wants the casual thing. I would like a relationship. I’m prepared to tell him either we are together as a couple or nothing at all.
Does it sound harsh?

[Pinay_ako]

Yea put your foot down and tell him you’re not into casual setup anymore. That you want more. If he’s not down, then tell him that it won’t work.

[Asker]

Especially that he told me he has feelings for me. It’s weird he would still want casual.

[Pinay_ako]

Coz he wants to keep his options open. And you don’t want to be an option.

[kylee2437]

Sounds like a proper boundary to me, especially if plenty of time has gone on. I have pretty much told a guy this and it’s because he set the tone of the relationship to fast pace when we could’ve taken it slow

[Avicenna]

No, it's not too harsh and it's good to remove any ambiguity.