She Ghosted Me After First Date?

[Anonymous]

She gave me number in a slip of paper without me asking at the mall. I then asked her if she wanted to meet up at starbucks, i asked for it to be one on one. We both went to starbucks, got drinks, headed to my car. We were talking a lot, I then asked her if she wanted to kiss or not, she said, “I dont care”.

I didn't attempt to kiss her.


I texted her last night at 7:59 pm, for another date and she didn't respond, i checked my phone at 9:00 am and still nothing

Why would she go on a date with me if she does not find me attractive?

Updates

8 mo

Thanks you for all your advice! I did probably turn her off asking for a kiss, because i am supposed to go in for it without asking.

[_Maya_]

Did you not try your patented, tried and tested moves?

Is this how to initiate sex in a car?

That should have won you a second date for sure. It is not going to work if you mix up the order though. Make sure you follow those steps exactly as you have them. Like did ya grab her thigh? @snowedin what do you think happened? I mean if that isn't a recipe for success I don't know what is. I think she missed out.

[SnowedIn]

Sigh. I think either it never happened or that our friend Zach is too pushy and that's a turn off

[Asker]

no i didn't try to initiate sex

[_Maya_]

Darn. I get the sex out of the way first. After I have a coffee. After sex Starbucks is like a cigarette for me. Gets me all WIRED for more!

[Anonymous]

Give her a chance to respond before assuming she’s ghosted you. She could be busy, it is early morning, so try not to overthink it yet. If you don’t hear from her today, you can send a follow up text this evening or tomorrow, but it may be safe to assume it wasn’t a very good date. Doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive to her, obviously you are for her to take it upon herself to give you her number. Sometimes people are incompatible though, and that’s just life.

[WhitneySnow]

Sadly I think asking her to kiss turned her off. Maybe it was the way you said it. Either way I think she’s definitely not into you anymore. Sorry dude.

[Asker]

Okay, I will just move onto the next girl

[WhitneySnow]

Fair enough. Next time don’t ask. Just kiss her slowly and romantically at the end of the second or third date (not the first) if your intuition tells you she’s into that with you.

[Jazzy54]

She’s probably busy.