Did I say something wrong/come across as not serious?

[Anonymous]

I’m purple & he’s grey

Yes

No

[WaterIsland]

Nope. I would have followed up further if I were him. I don’t like “very casual” uses of dating apps. Some people seem to do that when they’re just looking for hookups. Which isn’t what I want. If it’s casual with the possibility of it being serious, and not hookups or one night stands, then that’s fine.


You didn’t specify what type of “casual” you meant. Maybe you mean hookups or one night stands. Maybe you mean friends before relationship. Maybe you mean not desperate. Maybe you mean just wanting to see where things go.



But the reality is you did nothing wrong. You kept it high level. And if he was truly interested in what you meant, he should have asked. Or if he didn’t care, he could have changed topics.


But I think you handled it perfectly. It’s all on him for not responding.

[WaterIsland]

I should also add. It’s good to keep a bit of mystery. No need to reveal everything all at once. Nor is it possible. He should have engaged in the conversation better.

I think I might have made it sound like you should have elaborated more. And that’s not what I meant. There was no need for you to say anything different from what you said.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your first response and last response. I hate women that are trying to get into my head from the outset. "What makes you like someone's profile"? Why do you want to know? So you can can PRETEND to be someone you're? Want not just be you and I'll decide whether I like you just like you're trying to decide whether you like me.

And the 2nd response that could easily have been taken as you saying " oh, I'm a serial dater".

[Nikki1989]

Hard to take anyone seriously while you are texting.

[ohsheeT]

No not at all he was trying to tell you that he's the cheapskate and when it comes time to for food and drink it just doesn't happen because he's too cheap so you don't want to go out with that guy anyway

[DarkWinterNights]

Well, I’m not one for dating apps, but your last message is a bit of a tell. I would probably assume you aren’t looking for anything serious.

[Paris13]

lol!!! Facebook Worthy. NP. xxoo

[DreamLife7]

You talk too much