Did I say something wrong?

[Anonymous]

So I went to a party last night and my boyfriend asked me to bring him a little container of food which only had a piece of Mac pie and a chicken in it…. The next morning I informed him that there’s nothing there and I’d have to eat the food…. Keep in mind I’m pregnant and i was extremely nauseous and hungry…. He said it’s cool so i asked if he’s sure to make sure he’s not mad and he began asking me if i think not getting what he asked me for is cool and if being disappointed is cool then proceeded to post about being heartbroken…I was annoyed at this all because i expected him to understand that i needed it…. he’d be angry with me if i was like this over something like that…. anyways he said he wanted to move on because it was small and i said ok…. now I didn’t wake up at 4am with him before he goes to work he’s upset with me and said he won’t be able to make it to the ultrasound….. did i do something wrong?

Updates

10 mo

He broke up with me

[_Maya_]

That is incredibly childish and selfish. You did nothing wrong at all, and I am actually a bit shocked by his behaviour. You are pregnant for goodness sake. He should have some understanding. I hope he doesn't continue to act like this because you are going to need support, which he doesn't seem to have at the moment.

[Asker]

I’m realizing that he’s a narcissist and i feel like it’d only get worse

[Asker]

He is verbally abusive and the last argument we had i broke up with him then found out i was pregnant the same day

[_Maya_]

Omg I am so sorry. Do you have family and friends around for support?

[Asker]

I do…but it hurts a lot…we had a 9 year friendship before we got together and he was always the best

[Asker]

He was mad at me for telling my mom I’m pregnant while he was in the room and argued with me

[_Maya_]

That is horrible. I feel so bad for you. Being pregnant should be a happy thing.

[Asker]

He wanted a baby so I don’t understand

[_Maya_]

I don't get that either then. Despite everything going on, just want to say congrats on the baby!

[Asker]

Thank you ✨

[ShesRad80]

he is acting like a child not a man, he did it on purpose to hurt you not showing up which shows what a loser he is. unfort this is just the tip of the iceberg with him. you didn't do anything wrong you are pregnant

[Asker]

Thank you

[ShesRad80]

congrats on the baby and i wish you so much luck

[Asker]

Thank you so much 😊

[boggboss]

What I Dont understand is if you decided to get with a guy thats clearly immature and sont seem like this is a one off thing why are u asking why he is essently not acting like a normal person when it's pretty clear he is selfish and shitty

[Asker]

He wasn’t like this before and he started being like this when I got pregnant

[boggboss]

Clearly he ain't that excited about u being pregnant then and is essentially punishing u for it or u ignored red flags beforehand

[boggboss]

Like no normal person would see his behaviour and think yeah he was in the right lol

[Asker]

And he’s the one that seemed the most excited when talking about having one

[Asker]

🤦🏾‍♀️thank you…he’s asking me why I’m mad at him when I disappointed him and to get myself together

[boggboss]

Lol not really sure what to say other than this is the father of your child thats vary interesting

[Asker]

The baby will simply not get his last name

[boggboss]

Fair enough

[Asker]

We were supposed to rent a place together and he said he wants somewhere where he can kick me out if he wants to and still pay for himself

[boggboss]

And what did u say about that

[Asker]

I told him i changed my mind and I’ll be getting a place for me and the baby alone

[boggboss]

Good I honestly don't think u should be planning a future with him it sounds like he is unstable

[Asker]

He recently admitted that he sees all females like his mother…basically saying he thinks I’m a whore and also he said the baby could possibly be his and he isn’t sure

[boggboss]

Great stuff and he showed absolutely no red flags before this

[Asker]

Nope

[boggboss]

And how long was u guys together

[Asker]

Was caring and attentive

[Asker]

We’ve been together for 6 months but we had a 9 year friendship before

[boggboss]

U was together for 6 months than got pregnant from him sounds a bit quick but fair enough as it didn't sound planned hopefully things work out

[Asker]

I’m gonna focus on me

[boggboss]

Sounds like thats the best thing u can do

[Anemone978]

This is why you don't mate with immature idiots.. And you should never have a kid with someone before marriage because they can just walk away easily.

[Asker]

He was acting different and also we we’re engaged but I wouldn’t change having my child

[Anemone978]

Yeah but you should never give boyfriend's husband treatment because until they actually marry you they are just a boyfriend and not fully committed to you. Most people don't understand the sacrifices that have to be made in serious relationships, so once things aren't so lovely they think maybe this is a bad choice and want to leave. Men also do not like that women usually will put their children before them and even my husband didn't like that, even tho they were his own kids, so imagine how a new boyfriend will be when it isn't his own kid. So all I can say is good luck..

[Asker]

I’m going to just focus on me and the baby…I have a good support system without him

[Anemone978]

That is good! Best of luck to you

[In_Trance]

No I don't think you did