My boyfriend is so popular it's crazy?

[CoolCatMar1]

Everywhere we go he will always find people who knows him and they will greet him. It's men. He is popular in the street car racing and has won many races with his opponents (friends or just mates) . He also has many people who know him from his band era when he was in a punk rock group he was a guitarist and a vocal. I sometimes feel left out when he stops to talk to them. The dudes don't even look at me or say "hi what's your name" or something. Are they waiting for me to say it first? It's always when i am with him when guys treat me this way. I mean i feel bad when they say hi to every guy in the group and leave me or other girls out and don't even say hi. Why are men like this? And how not to feel weird because of how popular my boyfriend is?

[MrOracle]

Your guy is popular, which means tons of people know HIM, even though HE doesn't really know THEM. They're mostly STRANGERS or people he barely knows - and maybe a handful he knows a little better. But most are virtual or real strangers to him.

And in these situations, those guys aren't going to acknowledge you UNTIL he introduces you to them. Why? Because to do otherwise could be perceived as them being (romantically/sexually) interested in you, and that would be disrespectful to him, and to you. And at the same time, your man probably isn't going to introduce you in most situations because he doesn't even know these people in any real sense, and so he doesn't want to seem like he's vouching for them in any way, since some of them could be creeps or worse, and he has no way to know.

I'm assuming that he introduces you to his close friends, right? Those are the people he actually KNOWS, and can vouch for as being good people that are safe for you to be around. Remember that is "fans" are strangers, even if they feel like they know him.

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly thanks

[jamesgoldman]

Men generally will avoid talking to another man's partner because they don't want to be perceived as flirting or overstepping a boundary so often wait for the man (in this case, your boyfriend) to make the introduction so as to say you can speak to her (in this case that would be you)

If she speak to you first then you might engage in small talk for as little time as possible to remain polite

[CoolCatMar1]

Makes sense

[msc545]

Yes, it makes very good sense actually. Well done!

[Billlewis]

It's not crazy at all; it's happening because it should be happening. I'm still hoping you'll ask him if I can have his autograph. You're a Goddess and he's a stud. In other news, water is wet:)

[Billlewis]

Thank you so much for today, Goddess... there is no one else like you in the whole world, and you've made such a tremendous difference in my life.

[CoolCatMar1]

You tell that to all women stoppp

[Billlewis]

No, only one other woman has received such effusive praise from me. You know her. Between the two of you, I'm at risk of having a nervous breakdown... lol

[dolemite58]

it’s funny how women act when they’re not the center of attention 😂

it depends on the occasion but i usually make it a point to at least say hi to a guy’s girlfriend in a social situation unless it’s not a good time to do so or something.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't care about attention i get plenty when i walk on the streets i think it's just disrespectful to not say hi to you while saying hi to every male. I don't think it would be nice if all women ignored male counterparts in the group

[Huntingnfishin]

Just hang back and be arm candy. While you might feel left out, if they don't engage you personally they aren't interested in talking to you. I don't say that to be mean, just to be honest. It's kind of on your boyfriend to introduce you

[CoolCatMar1]

They don't talk to the loud girls there as well if tehy don't talk first so I am not the problem

[Huntingnfishin]

Nope you're not the problem. If he's proud of you he will introduce you

[CoolCatMar1]

He has introduced me to a lot of his close homies and they love me and my company.

[CoolCatMar1]

Those guys i guess he doesn't think it's that serious to do so or something because they aren't his close friends

[CoolCatMar1]

Maybe

[Truthatanycost]

He should be introducing you to those people briefly. Also be careful that you don't end up idolizing him...

[CoolCatMar1]

He is a really great guy and all that

[Billlewis]

I'm still hoping that if I'm really good, maybe you'll get me his autograph:)

[CoolCatMar1]

@Billlewis lmao

[Billlewis]

I think I'm becoming a groupie of yours. You know how rock bands have groupies that follow them when they're on tour, and they're basically obsessed with them? I think that's what's happening to me... as soon as you get on here, I'm excited to see what you'll say next, what pictures you'll post... I'm your warped, perverted groupie from across the pond... lol...

[CoolCatMar1]

@Billlewis 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Billlewis]

I'm sure he's a wunderkind in his own right, but what if the main reason he's so famous, popular and a burgeoning celebrity is because CoolCatMar1 is his girlfriend? I can just imagine him someplace, as a throng of ardent fans, having heard he might be in the area, waits expectantly, hoping for a chance to meet him, or at least catch a glimpse of him. Most of the banter among the assembled crowd is along the lines of -- 'So, isn't he an athlete or something?'. 'I think so, but I'm just hoping to see, in real life, his girlfriend... have you ever seen a picture of her? She's hot as hell, and I guarantee you, she knows, it, too!'

[Billlewis]

It's so incredibly hot to hear a beautiful woman just go on and on, telling everyone how awesome her boyfriend is, and no matter how much she praises him, I'll never disagree with a single word of her effusive praise, because if he weren't the hottest guy in the world, he wouldn't have MsCoolCatMar1 as his girlfriend.

[AngryCarl2]

The guys are waiting for your befriend to introduce you to them. It's considered rude to start talking to another guy's girlfriend without being introduced first. So the question you should really be asking is why doesn't your boyfriend want you talking to other guys?

[WhitneySnow]

They have guy crushes (friend crushes not romantic) on your boyfriend

[CoolCatMar1]

Seems fair if i was a dude i would also feel that way towards him🤣 he is amazing

[WhitneySnow]

Awesome!!! Glad you guys are happy 🙂

[CoolCatMar1]

🥺🥺aww

[sirderpsalot123]

They just don't want your boyfriend to think they are flirting with you. Don't take it personally.

[CoolCatMar1]

Like they glance but like for a split second at me and then stop looking like at all!! Like i am not even there.

[sirderpsalot123]

A lot of awkwardness would be avoided if your boyfriend introduced you.

[CoolCatMar1]

You are right
..

[sirderpsalot123]

Talk to him about it

[CoolCatMar1]

I will talk

[Christoff92]

Does he do a lot of general stuff on IG, FB, Tiktok, etc 🤔

[CoolCatMar1]

No he doesn't he is private

[Christoff92]

Maybe his body language and personal traits

[CoolCatMar1]

Nope

[Christoff92]

Then. Don't really know either that all something else.

[CoolCatMar1]

Okay

[Christoff92]

Maybe just his looks

[CoolCatMar1]

Maybe he is pretty popular

[DryGermanGuy]

You are young after all, kid. Didn't you know that a male group of Greeks does not need any women? That's what they invented butt sex for! True story!

[CoolCatMar1]

It happens everywhere actually. Even girls from Spain and America complain about guys not saying hi to them

[CoolCatMar1]

And no my boyfriend is not gay or bi

[PrettyCrumblBb]

It's your boyfriends job to introduce you to them not the other way around. Lol