Why would a guy want me to move in with him if we are not dating?

[catarecute]

i dont get this logic this one guy asked me to move in with him but we are not official a couple. and then when i went out at midnight he started worrying about me like if he was my dad and telling me to go home. i have been walking at night my whole life and this guy tells me i should stay home. does anyone else think this is controlling.

[DaveJord]

YES, he trying to back door you in to dating him... or use you to pay his rent... but the whole dad thing at night... yeah, that's controlling and if you moved in with him... you would not be able to fart down wind of him without his nose up your ass.

[catarecute]

you are right thank you.

[Anonymous]

Why aren’t you dating? Unless you’re the type of woman to jump into things early on, my guess is that there’s been adequate time for this to even be a discussion. My reason for asking this is, if it’s been a while and he has his reservations about commitment, then he wants both wants someone to share costs with (even if he’s the kind of man to pay the majority), and to have the convenience of in-house sex.

[provokeesmokee]

He doesn't know he's not in an official relationship.

Clarify, quick.

[Ironic_Method]

I mean... he doesn't sound like a stable person to ask you to move in without dating unless you've talked about being roommates BUT I grew up in a bad area and I would probably say walking alone at night isn't a good idea. Just because you've been doing something for a long time doesn't make it a good idea, but then again you can't let fear get in the way of living the way you want to live.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Split costs? Are you even dating? I've lived with 4 or 5 women I wasn't dating. You said you're not a couple but did you date at all? If not then either one of you is confused on the status of what you are or he's just looking for a roomie.

[Sevenpointfive]

it's not for real. i've actually asked this a few times. they are targeted questions to see how far you are willing to go with an attractive complete stranger.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive What do you mean?

[catarecute]

@Jamie05rhs i dont get either its not a targeted question this is a real question about me and this one guy who seem controlling. the fact that this guy said he asked this a few times means maybe its time i block him.

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs like a test to see where you're at in a relationship, friendship or whatever.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive Really? Wow.
Well, what if she says yes to moving in with you, but you don't really want her to?

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs well don't offer to someone you wouldn't consider a relationship with. girls know what this question means. if they're looking for an escape, a place to stay or be taken advantage of it's a good idea to move in

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive That's interesting. This girl wanted me to move in with her. She was asking me about it a lot. But we weren't even dating. (I told her no.)

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs why'd you turn down her offer? she ugly? an addict or bad with money/no job

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive She's mentally insane. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

And regardless, I'm not interested in moving in with anybody right now. I value my freedom and independence.

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs well if she's cute you can still invite her over to spend the night ;D

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive No, sir. I am a Christian.

[Sevenpointfive]

@Jamie05rhs it's just a sleepover. where's your christian mind at?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sevenpointfive. I highly doubt that it's just a sleepover. Considering the fact that you chose to use a "wink."

[Anonymous]

Yeah sounds like a set up. It’s very controlling and I wouldn’t do it if I were you. Screaming red flags……

[ProbablyClueless]

Eh... controlling isn't the first place my mind went, but I could see how a situation like that could get controlling.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, that does seem a bit forward. Although some people live together as friends before they date. So I wouldn't say he's bad person necessarily because he's suggesting that. But just be careful.

[dragoblack]

This screams red flags. This dude cares for you, but is controlling and doesn't understand boundaries.

[catarecute]

thank you yes i agree. i will try to drift away from him.

[gxddess_]

You guys don't even have any label yet he has the audacity to control you like that? 🥴 What more if you start to have a relationship with this guy?

[grey_bunny_555]

Red flag. dont move in with him. This is giving controlling vibes

[Violeta_54]

Multiple time sex in the way he will make his house in your kitty so 😘

[BLP11520]

This doesn’t sound good to me at all don’t get in to deep

[catarecute]

thank u i will follow your advice.

[catarecute]

you was cute when you were young.

[BLP11520]

Thank you

[catarecute]

are u realy 63

[BLP11520]

Yes I am

[BLP11520]

Many people requested a young picture. I may put a current picture up?

[catarecute]

no dont this one is nice do you still look kind of like that.

[BLP11520]

Well my hair is white but my face is about the same.

[catarecute]

can you send me pictures of you now

[BLP11520]

I have to go do something for a bit

[catarecute]

lol ok

[strateguy632]

so you pay half rent. like partners

[catarecute]

honestly half the rent for his flat is like 500euro its nothing to him. i don't think its that i think he wants to control me so he can tell me what to do.

[artgorgeous]

who is this one guy? who is he to you?

[catarecute]

he was my best friend as i dont have many friends as i ditched all my friends when i went through a heart break and none of them were supportive. now i feel may he knows i dont have many friends and is trying to use this in his advantage. i feel maybe he could end up being controling.

[TallAnon]

Yeah, he's moving too fast for you

[Anonymous]

To talk to you and be friends

[catarecute]

lol you are a bit naive guys dont like to be friends. some do but they are rare. they want to take your money (when you have some), if you dont have money they want to take your body.