Girls, How long should I make a guy wait before I have sex with him?

[Anonymous]

I've been dating this guy for two months and I think he's a good guy. He has stood up as a man for me a few times. Like when my room door was broken, he fixed the hinge and put on a new handle. When my car tire was flat, I called him and he changed it for me. I saw a guy following me, and I told him and he offered to walk me home and make sure I got home safely. I invited him in for a bit. We started making out and then he lifted my shirt so my belly was exposed and I made an excuse to go to the bathroom. I came back, it looked like he got the hint. When he was leaving he said "Hey, I won't pressure you to do anything you're not ready for. Can I get a hug? No pressure". He hugged me, and then mischievously lifted my shirt and tickled my belly and I couldn't help but smile at him. He left, and I pulled my shirt down. How long should I wait to let him get it?

[Anonymous]

I agree with Spongebobssocks. My answer to this question is always the same. Ask yourself if he would be a good father, and would stick around and be that father if you were to get pregnant. That is my litmus test. It's why in the past sex before marriage was so frowned upon. And the fact so few people apply that principle today is the reason there are so many single mothers and fatherless children, and that is rough for both the mothers and the children. Men who get a woman pregnant and don't step up to be fathers are worthless "men". Women who allow it to happen to them are poor decision makers. Don't put yourself in that position. No one thinks it's going to happen to them, but yet it happens all the time. Sorry, probably not the answer you wanted to hear.

[Ozanne]

There is no magical timeline to make this a correct answer. The time will be when you both want it--it's just that simple. It could be tomorrow for all you know. If you have to ask, then you're probably overthinking it. Just enjoy the relationship for what it is, and one night you'll find yourselves in bed and it will be the right time to have done it. If you keep pushing this down the road in to months and years, it seems to me like you're making a point of waiting for the *sake of waiting*. If you know in your heart you want to wait until marriage, then make that clear. If you want to wait until you move in together, make that clear too. But this limbo-state of when it's a good time is always personal and nothing anyone on GaG can answer for you. It will be the time that it was meant to be. :)

[Rei13]

You should wait until you’re ready, there is no timeline for when things should happen and if he ends up pressuring you later then he isn’t it. If it is today or a few years from now that is all valid. The worst thing you can do is to do something you’re not totally comfortable with just to please another person. If he likes you he will stick around whether you’re putting out or not

[A_Bell]

I am a bad girl to ask because I always jumped into bed too soon because I had a high libido myself. I am married now, so it's no longer an issue.

Just remember, relationships are a two way street. You have every right to wait, but he has every right to find someone else if sex is important to you.

If the roles were reversed and I guy hadn't wanted to have sex after 2 months, I'd have lost interest.

[cnj421]

It’s not about “making a guy wait.” It’s about when you feel ready to make that decision. Sex is for you as much as it is for him. So when do you want to have sex? It’s not a reward he gets for being a good boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

why are you stating things he's done like he's owed sex now just because he fixed your door... the bare minimum...

you have sex when YOU want to... but not because you feel like you should because he's doing something for you that any boyfriend should do. IF he's even your boyfriend...

[Anonymous]

It really depends on who the guy is and your relationship with him. You can sleep with a guy within the first week and he’ll be loyal to you and value you. You can make a guy wait for months and the second you sleep with him he’s out. Just listen to your guts and how you feel about him.

[WhitneySnow]

I feel like I’ve read this before, but that being said, I think you should wait till you feel comfortable to do anything with him. Are you a virgin?

[Aishakaba]

Make him wait till you ready because you will be surprised. They say no pressure and 4 months in it's all the pressure

[Paris13]

When you are Official and Exclusive. xxoo

[electromagnetic]

Have sex with him today.
Why wait if you wanna faq his nuts off his body?

[Chelsdope0]

Give it 6 months…. Make sure his intentions are good. Men will do and ACT for sex. I’m telling you…

trust your intuition. Always