Who are these "alpha" guys and who do they like to date?

Question

There is this friend group of mine who told me that alpha males only date white girls. I don't understand this criteria. It sounds extremely racist to me. Asking this makes me feel bad but I do hear it a lot. Is it true? If it is not, who dou you consider "alpha" male as?

assistant · Accepted Answer

"Alpha" guys are often associated with dominant, confident, and assertive personalities. They can be found in various aspects of life, such as in business, social settings, or even relationships. When it comes to dating, their preferences can vary widely, but here are some general insights based on my experiences and observations:

Confident Partners: Alpha guys often appreciate confident partners who can hold their own in conversations and social situations. They are attracted to individuals with a strong sense of self.
Independence: Many alpha guys are themselves independent, and they often value partners who are also self-sufficient and have their own ambitions and interests.
Challenges: Alpha personalities are often drawn to challenges. They may be attracted to partners who present them with intellectual or emotional challenges and keep the relationship interesting.
Shared Goals: Compatibility in terms of long-term goals and values is crucial. Alpha guys may look for partners who share their aspirations and have a similar outlook on life.
Mutual Respect: Respect is vital in any relationship. Alpha guys tend to seek partners who respect their independence and boundaries while also asserting their own.

It's important to remember that the concept of an "alpha" guy can be subjective and that not all alpha guys fit a single mold. People have unique personalities and preferences. While some alpha guys may be drawn to assertive and confident partners, others may seek different qualities in a relationship. Ultimately, successful relationships are built on mutual respect, communication, and compatibility, regardless of personality type.

TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

Depends what your concept of alpha male is. An alpha in the animal kingdom is the one that is stronger and therefore is at the top of their group, if we follow suit it’s a guy who commands through either brute force like in the animal kingdom, through manipulation or through respect. The only one I believe to be relevant here is respect, and to what extent? Would I consider myself an alpha male because I have guys who work for me, why do they work for me, because I pay them so is that just manipulation? 😂 I do have some form of respect but I am younger than most bosses in my line of work and area. So I am like part of the guys it’s best that way for me because I can develop trust. To me unless your like minded I wouldn’t go for the "alpha" I would go for one of the guys who works well, who gets payed well and is efficient in his line of work. He’s not making as much as his boss but logically if he’s smart enough he’s negotiated his pay and time on the job. My best worker starts early and finishes early every day I just ask that he does the job given to him. Sometimes when we have big jobs he gets the week load in one job finishes late on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and goes on a long weekend by Thursday at lunch with his girlfriend. He teaches the apprentices well and brings in good money. Also we work significantly less hours than in the us and are supposedly more effective. Personality wise as well why would you want an alpha, these guys seem more toxic than most men. Ps: I don’t consider myself an alpha just to clarify it was for the example. ✌️

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Dating a particular racist does not inherently mean that someone is racist. Many people are attracted only to members of their own race. Just like many girls only date tall men. We don't choose the qualities that we find attractive, and this does not mean that we are inherently racist. That is a word that gets so overused that it has lost its meaning, and you should be more careful calling people names that are meant to be derogatory.

2. "Alpha" is a label that guys apply to themselves, and often an associated attitude that they adopt, to compensate for insecurities and flaws.

3. "Alpha" is supposed to denote someone who is a leader and, therefore, a role model for others. Anyone who must tell other people that he is a leader by referring to himself as "alpha" . . . is not a leader or a role model.

Singing_Hollow · Accepted Answer

Its not so much colour of skin than it is how you carry yourself. No man wants a yappy, demanding, weak woman. There are white girls that Alpha males stay away from because they dont fit what an Alpha male stands for. If you want a man who you can control and walk over then an Alpha male isn't for you because he won't tolerate that. So instead of looking at skin colour, look at how that person carries themselves.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

If "alphas" wanna keep themselves restricted to white ladies, then I'm sorry white ladies but YAY!

Lmao, anyone who uses "alpha" terminology is a complete loser who needs ridicule, and their opinions can be whatever they want. They're irrelevant and best ignored or memed on.

dynamicyandere · Answer

The term alpha comes from the concept of an alpha wolf that’s the leader of a pack of wolves.

So in essence, an alpha is supposed to be leadership material. Someone who has great leadership and can command respect.

These ‘alphas’ claiming to only date white women doesn’t make any sense. That’s not an ‘alpha’ thing that’s a THEM thing.

Besides, no true leader needs to announce to the world that he’s an ‘alpha’ in order to be taken seriously. A true leader is able to command respect with or without labels and titles.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I don't really buy into the whole "alpha male" thing, but the base definition in my head is basically a bad ass who is on the top of the hierarchy of people. Which is why I don't really buy into it, because values are different in different cultures. I could be considered the coolest and most awesome in a specific group, but that's not going to mean I'm super popular in some other specific group that has a different set of values.

But anyway, the answer to who does a top of the hierarchy guy date? Whoever he wants. At least in that group/system. So it depends on the individual's preferences. Do ALL guys who are in the top of their hierarchy only date white women? That seems to me a theory that is beyond ridiculous.

Who are these "alpha" guys and who do they like to date?

mobiusforniner · Answer

Really? Alpha males date only white women? Bunch of shit. Since when does alpha male mean specific racial preferences? Never heard of it.

An alpha male is someone who commands respect, is kind but assertive, knows who he is and where he is going; confident yet humble. Charismatic. Very charismatic. People like to be around him- men and women. Women feel safe with him and other men want to be him. He poseses unique skills which define his character, he means what he says, and he seeks the best interest of others without sacrificing his personal dignity.

AmeerX · Answer

There is no alpha or sigma or beta. Just people are people.

Just for convenience sake, Beta feels like simps or those Eugenes or those guys desperate for a woman's attention to the point they will dance to a woman's words. Sigma seem like guys who are just plain rude to girls. Lots of sigma stupid videos of guys mocking a girl or being outright rude to them. And now this Alpha. Red and blue pill nonsense 🤣

Grow up and get mature. That's all I can say. Don't people have anything important to do. There are people living in hunger and corruption in the world and people dying of disease and then we have trash debates like this

Sonorous · Answer

I really don't like when people use that term in a serious way 😂 it's so cringeeee

Ignore people like that. They don't realize that the word doesn't have much meaning since the criteria that make it up are highly subjective. Anyone can interpret any man they like or respect as an "alpha male." Anybody can perceive someone to be on the top of a hierarchy. Especially since humans are able to exist in many important ones simultaneously due to how complex we socialize.

BadApple69 · Answer

I’m not sure who this friend group is but I can tell you as a (old school) alpha male that we can date whomever we want.
I’m not sure alpha male means the same thing that it used to. Definitions on so many things have changed over the past few years. Sounds to me according to your friend group alpha males are now racists.

We are not.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I don’t know if I could agree with something as dumb as that. Men are men and men all have preferences. I know guys who love Asian women, or Arabic women, or whatever. I love Hispanic woman and one of the most alpha dudes I’ve ever know whose professionally at the top of his game dates (and now married) only black women.

Billlewis · Answer

That's not true, about them only wanting to date Caucasian women, but an alpha male is a guy who is very confident, masculine and has a certain appeal. Although many people have attempted to debunk the idea that there is such a thing as an alpha male, they undoubtedly exist, and I actually enjoy serving a woman who dates alpha males regularly, and when I'm fortunate enough to serve both her and her boyfriend, it's tremendously exciting for me.

Miristheiss · Answer

Alpha is kind of slang, more guys are actually Kappas and Gammas.

I kid.

The term usually means guy who is strong, smart, a leader, ambitious, confident, a take charge guy, he is goal oriented and has discipline and is always moving forward in life. He is successful.

There is no formula for the women men like that go for. Race wise, people usually date in their ethnic group. Whatever race the man is, more than likely he'll date women of the same race.

slatyb · Answer

There isn't any such thing as "alpha" guys. I work with a lot of young tech bros making $200K/year and up. They are happy to be where they are, and most understand how lucky they are, but none consider themselves "alpha" males. I can't tell you who they like to date, but there's certainly no notion that they only date white women. Mostly they will date other professional women.

JohnSmityJohnson · Answer

"The Alpha," is not actually a thing, and relative to each situation. "The Alpha," actually comes from a study of wolves. There would be a leader that leads the entire pack. However, it was later discovered that the pack didn't have an Alpha at all, but merely a parent. The Pack of wolves were merely siblings and other family members.

There is no Alpha male.

Unit1 · Answer

It is time to get to work!

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Alpha" guys is a generic term for guys who have strong, masculine personalities, are very successful with women sexually, and date multiple women at any given time... no commitment. There are "Alphas" of all races and they bang all races.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

a "alpha" male is someone to stay the fuck away from basically. No man of substance believes in the alpha/beta shit *and remember, even the fucking creator of it all now is trying to undo all that damage!*

love_conquers_lust · Answer

This OP account isn’t real and puts out anti-white racist bull shit.

That being said, the whole alpha bull shit came from some guy observing a pack of wild wolves. The “alpha” behavior was a breeding male wolf fathering his pups.

IF, we subscribe to it, it is very beta to cry about racial preference.

Anonymous · Answer

An "alpha" male is someone who sits around watching youtube videos from other "alpha" douchebags that are trying to rip off vulnerable young men.

They think certain things they say and do will instantly grant them vagina or will give them an excuse for just generalizing an entire gender and treating them like garbage.

The poster boy for this movement is Andrew Tate. Enough said. He proved what type of human he was.

RyanK9b · Answer

White females tend to be more peaceful and feminine.

Latinas, blacks etc are more masculine, obnoxious, rude etc.
Males don't like those traits. We want peace and beautiful.

Thats why the alphas go with white chicks. Most likely from the region east Europe or japan

sage2021 · Answer

I don't see that as racist. It more like preference.
Shoot, I'm not going to end up with someone I'm not attracted to just to show people I'm not racist.
He has a preference. He is allowed to have a preference. It's still America!

Sabretooth · Answer

Eh, it's all bullshit. Nothing that I've heard would indicate that they would make good leaders and partners as they don't really care about anyone else. If you're familiar with Kratos--you'd know that. He was an general... who ended up getting his men killed and killing his wife and daughter in his bloodlust.

MissBoogus · Answer

I haven’t met many men in my life so I don’t have a big roster to compare to, but I believe my boyfriend is a “alpha” . And just to answer you’re question I’m white. He is very tough, stoic, and manly and kinda has that chad look

spiritGirl13 · Answer

Alpha guys are usually the guys that are traditional, disciplinary and and does it put anything over what is right.

A woman of his caliber is a woman who is soft-spoken, agreeable obeys to what the man tells her. and live decently.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Trust a woman to say that only dating whites is racist. if that is the case then dating because of physical appearance is lookist and rejecting because of disability is ablest. Both of which women are notoriously guilty of.

JackCarter · Answer

Childish to use the words "alpha" "beta" and stuff LOL

DarkWinterNights · Answer

“Alpha males” are of either little substance or are so successful that they have basically unlimited options for dating they’ll likely never actually settle.

exitseven · Answer

I do not buy into the concept of alpha males. Everyone has gifts that they are born with or are born into. Everyone is worth getting to know and everyone is worthy to have somebody to love them.

Skull_Anon · Answer

"Anyone who uses the terms Alpha, beta, sigma etc... are a freaking Beta"💀 Or maybe a Physicist

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Listen, 99% of men in this world aren't alphas no matters what their delusional minds think.

Alpha men are typically very harden and very dangerous criminals that dominate and lead other harden criminals in prison.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I don't really understand all the "alpha", "beta" stuff to be honest.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Alpha guys date women of all races. They like to date women that have more gentle personalities.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Not ‘alphas’, just racists… Guys might have preferences, but there’s always exceptions!

AngryCarl2 · Answer

You wouldn't consider Barack Obama or Will Smith alpha males then? Actually I agree Will Smith isn't very alpha but he does have a lot of money, so there's that.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Check out the “red pill community”.. it’s really cringe

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Alpha and beta are terms used by idiots who can't get an actual relationship.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Whether the "Alpha" concept is accurate or not, rest assured that anyone who claims to be one is not.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Alpha males don't date JUST one race. Alpha males don't need to prove they're alpha. they're just alpha

Kudos4U · Answer

Its a marketing gimmick used to sell desperate men the illusion of masculinity.

zagor · Answer

Don't take advice from friends. Most people are idiots.

Still-alive · Answer

They want women they can dominate over and make them feel superior.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm alpha and not interested in dating women, I have more important things to do.

Summeroflove · Answer

Lmao. They’re weird.

Jkgordon · Answer

It’s not racist it’s a preference

MaxUsefull · Answer

That’s a lie that you friend told you

Anonymous · Answer

That's not true at all, lol.

Sugarberry37 · Answer

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