I’ve never been through a talk phase or dated, so input is appreciated. I’m 27, started talking to a guy on social media and he wants to meet me. He’s wondered why I don’t post pictures of myself. I told him I’m surprised that he never caught on. I explained I’m on a weight loss journey, have lost over 100 pounds and wasn’t ready to show myself. I can tell he was taken back and asked for a body picture. I told him I was embarrassed to, he said I shouldn’t be and he likes thick women. However, I’m not thick. I’m 225 pounds, more of an apple shape which means I have a bigger stomach, large love handles and smaller hips. Also, I’m a virgin and because he wants a body picture, it makes me suspicious if he wants to have sex. I don’t think I can lose it to someone I won’t see often because we live states away. I told him I’d send a body picture in a couple days, but I’m scared of his reaction and think it’s best to block/ghost him. I know ghosting is frowned upon and it’s hard because I like him, but I don’t think this will work because of my body.
Girls, should I ghost him?
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Never ever send pictures of your body to anyone. Don’t ghost him or block him. Tell him that you don’t send pictures like that to anyone and carry on getting to know him. If he’s just after nookie you’ll know by how the conversation goes on. If he’s really interested in you he will let you know. Send him a picture of your face and try to be more confident. You can lose the weight if you really want to. If he’s not a pervert and he stays connected you can get in shape to look good for your new man. Good luck and be more confident in everything c
This won't work out but not because of your body. He's more interested in your body than you. Beauty is in all shapes and sizes but sex should come second to romance. Not first.
He has placed more emphasis on your body than anything else. It is clear where his priorities are.