Girls, Should I just lose weight before pursuing women?

[Jimrat86]

Hi all. I keep getting matched with females on dating apps, only to get ghosted very quickly in before any depth in communication. I cannot get a single date.

I'm tired of having no options.
All of my life, the ONLY time I have ever been able to get dates and garner interest has been once I've reached about 15% or less bodyfat, and looked like a fitness model. All of the traits like compassion, mystery, playfulness and sense of humor are not doing anything for me. They just simly ghost me. Is it a good idea to just get off the apps until I drop weight (my pic doesn't show the gut)?

[Anonymous]

Dating apps are kinda tricky, if you have no problem getting matches then I think you’re doing good in the looks department. It’s just really hard to maintain the attention of a girl
especially if she has a ton of other matches so you really gotta stand out. I think it might be better if you just move in quick, do some mini introduction and then immediately ask her out for coffee or something with the excuse that you connect better with people irl.

[Jimrat86]

Thanks for the input.

I can see that from an efficiency standpoint.

Going along with keeping the attention, it is literally impossible to know what will grab each woman's attention since what one might find intriguing another may not.