What do you do when you are single but just feel lonely and want to cuddle up with someone without a relationship?

[Anonymous]

j/w. I enjoy my single life and really dont want to be in a relationship with someone. but I'll be honest, sometimes I feel like an incel and want to just cuddle up with someone like I used to with my exes in the past.

if you can tell me a way to do this without sounding like a creep then that would be a plus because it doesn't take rocket science to know that women are rarely in the same page as I currently am. a lot of women nowadays think that one night of cuddling and fucking is instant relationship and want to cling on to you afterwards, and then want to play the victim card when you lose your temper and tell them to fuck off the ugly way.

till then I was just wondering, is there a way I can find drama free cuddle partner? do these even exist?

PS: Please do not tell me to use dating apps! I tried those 7 years ago and they were nothing but a waste of time.

[Ozanne]

Well, there are certainly women out there who do want something similar. I just finished answering a question to some guy who complained his girlfriend doesn't want a relationship with him but still wants him around "sometimes".

The thing is, it's a hard thing to advertise because it's confusing for a lot of people. Even if you ask a female friend, they may not want to do it because they draw the line at friendship.

Meeting someone to cover this grey area of relationship-meets-single-life verges into finding a partner because the other person has to be a willing participant along with you on this one. You would meet someone the same way as meeting a woman looking for a relationship.

And I know you don't want to try dating sites, but at least leave those options open, because if you make it quite clear, leaving nothing to be explained, you might find there is a woman who might agree that is what she is looking for too. Instead of it being friends with benefits, it's just friends with affection.

Ps. I got a kick out of you saying you feel like an incel. Any guy who says that in my opinion is not an incel! LOL :) I think it's very sweet that you are looking for what you want, know what you want, and don't intend to hurt anyone in the process. Nothing wrong with that.

[provokeesmokee]

I've heard "Professional Cuddlers" exist. They're like sex workers but without the sex.

Frankly, I've considered becoming one, as I'm physically affectionate and can get on well with many folks.

I remember early on in COVID days, a then-single friend of mine was also feeling physically needy for cuddles. And we were in each other's cohorts. So I headed over and we just snuggled on the couch while watching movies. Nothing sexual, just chilling.

It helped us both immensely. I'd do it again.

[Anonymous]

Hire a higher end escort. Higher end because a simple prostitute isn't going to cater to that.

Why do you think women today just want to f*** guys. Because they want the human interaction the closeness etc. But they don't want the responsibility of a relationship. So they f*** a guy and delude themselves into thinking that this guy cares about her (and some may on some small level). You can't really have sex unless your some kind of automaton, and not have at least some transfer of feelings.

But these women are essentially doing the same thing as hiring an escort. They're just able to get it for free because... well I don't have to explain that one to you.

But generally these women are just as dissatisfied long term and in MOST cases it makes them feel worse long term (even if they won't admit to it).

I would advise you to get a pet. Probably a dog because dogs are most affectionate. But despite what you posted I don't believe you JUST want to cuddle. So even a pet isn't going to fix your problem.

Actually the BEST dvice I can give you is, learn to ACCEPT that most people in life go unfulfilled. Whatever you're feeling right now, most people are feeling. Regardless of the front thier putting up (even ones in relationships).

[Asker]

I've hired a few escorts in the past and unfortunately for now I dont have the salary for it, or at least for now. I guess I should just stick to strippers, even though they can't spend the whole night with you

[CatVader]

been soloing for more than a decade.
totally feel that, there are just those periods, where having just a hug can mean the world.
generally though I don't see my life as being very welcoming to a love interest so i choose to stay single.
and 1 nighters is not my thing. also dating apps are terrible so haven't used those for some years at all. agree with that point.

so if i have a year i haven't had any hugs or near conversations. i lean towards god more, start praying, improving myself with skills.
sometimes i watch sweet movies. like osaki drop (the jap movie with English subs). which delves into the pain but also absolves it somewhat.
other times i start exercising, listening to music to get my mind away from it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am single too and have thought of having a cuddle partner haha

I just really miss cuddling sometimes

I don’t want and can’t have sex outside of a relationship and to be honest, I have been disappointed pretty often to look for relationships,

so I can suggest you getting a pet, get a little pup and cuddle up with it.

Pups will never get tired of loving you, they’ll never betray you and they’ll be happy to show their love to you.

[CatVader]

a human cuddle partner is such a dangerous road though.. and also hard to find IG.. seen that end in a sexuel rl, or not and it still gets ruined because of that.. even if one is not feeling it the other might.

if you only ever want a cuddle partner and nothing else, getting a pet can be a way. but it does shut the door somewhat for love interests. since the connection will be poorer due to having a pet getting all the attention. so just be aware of that.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@CatVader I am not really getting any cuddle partners. I wouldn’t want to cuddle with anyone randomly.

[CatVader]

yea..
privately I've chosen to not try and get a cuddle only partner cause i know, it will be difficult to only get that and then there are other urges as well.. I mean.. keeping that separate, the emotions that go with it etc.. it's tough.
do miss hugs... but can't complain this year since I've already had one. so... maybe ill complain next year lol

- 90% celebate/10% incel

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@CatVader cool.

I am not getting any cuddle partners cause I don’t want to, I don’t do everything that suddenly hits my mind as a thought.

But good for you whatever you decide. Good luck

[CatVader]

I guess i just decided many years ago to run my own show and fly solo.
it does give the bonus of not needing to deal with BS, but there is a lack of affection ofc.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@CatVader Nice choice. Good luck flying solo.

[CatVader]

well.. it's not like I absolutely want to, but.. finding a Good partner is just. Hard. reason i write 10% incel.

[petitedollbabee]

Definitely does not make you an incel. What you’re looking for is reasonably common. I can’t remember what title people give to cuddle buddies, but I’ve heard the specific title for it before. Where you have someone only for cuddling, especially during cold seasons. Someone that you’re not dating or having sex with, but they’re not exactly a friend either, they’re just someone that you call on for cuddles, and they do the same back to you.


I’ve never had someone like this but my partner has had some girls in the past (before we started dating) who were strictly just for cuddles and sleeping together platonically. He met them through mutual friends, dating apps and his previous jobs.

[serious]

Well, I don't think cuddling is possible unless you have a partner. Which means it is something that happens only in relationships.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I don't know. I just wrap my arms around my pillow and hug into it

I know it sounds like I’m trolling, but I’m legit being serious

[pianogirlmeow]

Go on tinder and find someone who is cool with being in a situationship.

[Sasha0426]

Ok, I was with you until you mentioned about losing your temper. Yeah, I wouldn’t even want to touch you if you act that way.

[Asker]

then you must be clingy yourself. thanks for the headsup, I wish those women were as honest as you

[Sasha0426]

You’re welcome 👍

[CatVader]

nothing wrong with being clingy if she is loyal - JS.. would be a huge plus for me at least..
and yea.. honesty is great, but also really need a second thing to be really good.
for instance, if someone is assuming a bunch of things and then are honest, that's really hard to deal with. meanwhile being reasonable while honest is super great.

guess there is a huge attitude difference here also with the no ons vs ons people...
someone into ons who wants a cuddle partner is gonna be a long stretch.

[Asker]

@CatVader where I'm originally from we have a saying that goes "Calling the devil is not the same as seeing him come"

[CatVader]

that's quite wise.

[Asker]

@CatVader you will most likely remember it if you ever end up with a clingy chick

[jimmy2]

Cuddle leads to sex leaders. To relationship

[KrakenAttackin]

Be a man and suck it up.

[Anonymous]

Sex Doll

[Anonymous]

Look for a friend