Why do some men with poor communication skills resort to blaming women instead of addressing their own issues?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

Honestly it goes deeper than just communication skills

They're also not confident within themselves

They can't be honest
And they are usually a right fighter they have to be right no matter what the scenario or what is going on they have to be right about it

It just means that they're young they want to think they're in control they're probably bossy people and they try to probably control other people but they're not honest with themselves the day that they can become honest with themselves they might change but until then they will do no wrong LOL

[Djaay]

All men at some point are addressing solution based interpersonal endeavors for the milestones of life. Women who are feeling based seek remedies for hurdles of their journeys amongst the masses of society and of men also. It's NOT about a man's comunitive skills any more than a woman's feelings Array her destiny of her choices set forth. In others words , women claim poor communicational skills of men when the gap of communication is bc of the lack of emotional support or the lack of understanding towards solution vrs remedy. In conclusion , women should be more kind and understand a man's standing rather than take notion to they're own emotion.

[Radiate143]

I know that I can feel pain if I have a problem like this. I guess some guys really can't handle all the feelings.

Men are way more domesticated now than ever throughout history. They now have to navigate interpersonal relationships way more.

When they just had to go hunt, kill the enemy and make babies, it was way easier for them.

Obviously males and females have to try to communicate well. It's the same as being at work. Everyone wants to try to dump crappy tasks onto some other sucker. Right?

[Nikki1989]

You just described 90% of men on this site. They say crazy garbage and then complain about not being good enough to score a woman. It would be comical if it wasn't so sad.

[OlderAndWiser]

Blaming someone else is easier, and that is the route some men and women choose.

[ManOnFire]

What makes a man a poor communicator to you? And is he really blaming you? I would like to hear his side of the story too before I can give any good answer.

[ronaldo75]

Poor communicator means anything she disagrees with or a guy who fights back when she won't let him get a word in.

[ManOnFire]

@ronaldo75 That was my same thought. That's why I would want to know what the guy has to say about the situation.

[coachTanthony]

I would imagine if they can't speak properly then their argument for blaming others will go on deaf ears. Who would listen to that?

[Anonymous]

The patriarchy is somewhat real, and boys behavior is policed our entire lives to ensure we reject femininity and homosexuality.

It creates beliefs in our heads that women only desire "real men."

Since every man's greatest desire is a woman, we will do everything in our power to become attractive to women.

Since we have been ingrained with the belief that we must be a certain way, this shapes everything about us.

And it is very hard to see past that. It is hard to imagine women liking you when no woman likes you. And you don't know where to go.

Women like me so keep your advice for someone who needs it. But I know what it's like.

And so lots of dudes are lost because they don't know how to be attractive to women.

Women can give advice all day but until the belief that women only want the top 1% is broken. Nothing can change.

[jongreat46]

It is the patriarchy 100%.

[Inbox]

@Anonymous... yet we're also taught to "be a man" and take charge because that's what men do. The "real man" is supposed to take responsibility for their actions, so no it's not the "patriarchy." Rather, it's immature men or beta males as they say that don't know how to take responsibility, learn, and grow from their mistakes.

[Opinion Owner]

@Inbox Women have to do all of those things too.

Or are women born perfect?

[Inbox]

I never said that women aren't responsible for their actions - I'd rather date a woman than a little girl who pretends to be a woman. I'm focusing on your argument and that context specifically.

[Opinion Owner]

@Inbox So what is becoming a man than? What is it a man must do, that a woman must not?

[lightbulb27]

It's easier than making changes. applies to all humans regardless of comm skills.

nobody wants to change, it's hard. easier to blame others or require others to change.

power... is implicated. those in power will require others to change.

[FellowTraveler]

Poor communication skills in whose opinion. Maybe he is trying to keep it simple. Maybe he is trying not to say something that will blow the relationship up. Some people are naturally quiet. You haven't quite clarified what you deem a 'poor communicator'!

[Anonymous]

They just refuse to see they are wrong, they have been coddled by their parents, friends and society that they are the best thing in the world just for being a man and when they meet a woman that doesn't put up with their crap they can't handle it. So instead of really being a man and owning up to their insecurities and mistakes, they are now blaming you or their ex for not wanting to put up with them. It's not your fault that said boy can't handle being told no and being told the truth, and don't come at me saying women do it too, no men do it most and I don't care if you say I am not a real man for exposing you incel playboys.

[TheSpaceGnome]

What counts as poor communication skills is vague at best outside of things like learning a language. Usually most people aren't very good at communicating, but if you get along with someone, you don't have to be.

There were times where me and friends just sent gibberish back and fourth just to be silly, and that was enough.

[IHateBeingaMan]

because women can get away with being socially awkward or socially inept and still date, having dating options, but men can't, plus, women never risk having their social awkwardness or social ineptness be perceived or dismissed as weird or creepy like men do

[VanillaSalt]

Why do women always blame men for the problems they have? I could argue it’s your inability to talk to your man that makes him such a poor communicator.

[ArrowheadSW]

Psychological issues. Personality issues. Maturity issues. Could be a number of things.

[Radiate143]

This sounds like a perfect storm for this problem.

[TheBootyChest]

Because it's too hard for men to admit they are wrong and to apologize. Maybe they think it makes them look weak.

[DarkLegacy]

The problem with modern women is that they think they are never to blame for anything. Women are to blame for being shallow, judgmental and so unreasonable. As for communication problems, that could be something like Autism

[DaBiggestBird]

Like you said, poor communication. Their communication skills are so down bad they can’t even communicate to themselves their own flaws resulting in them always looking for someone else to blame.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

This isn't a gender problem, but rather a character problem.

People with bad character tend to blame others for their shortcomings rather than take personal responsibility.

[Archferret]

Because it's easier to blame someone else than to take responsibility.

[Archferret]

And It is impossible to know who is to blame without evidence and cannot simply rely on assumptions.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I admit that I have communication issues, i was homeschooled since elementary school so you can imagine i have a hard time communicating.

[Bitterness]

Some people like to blame others for their failures.

[prakhindev92]

If he had a bad communication skill , i assume he is somebody you knows , how come he had a chance with you to go on a date? , Its funny

[DizzyAster2]

Doesn't this answer your question?

Also, ego, pride and they generally suck.