Guys, how do you deal with an immature boyfriend?

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Id like to have opinions from males. How do you even manage to keep the relationship going?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So honestly, I do not know how to deal with an immature boyfriend. I am heterosexual.

As far as how do we manage to keep relationships going, I think most of us don't manage all that well. Look simple truth is that men are pretty basic, and the more complicated things become the more unnecessary it all seems... but all we heterosexual men know is that we love women. So, if you want to be with woman, you have to expect to deal with them on their level.

Gues what, the same is true for women who want to be with a man, you have to deal with them at their level, and in that process you two hopefully can find a manageable balance.

What gets me all confused, is that woman want to say men are immature, and there is real scientific study that indicates that man brains doe develops later in life mentally and emotionally than a womans, brain. But then why is that woman, who are proven to mature mentally and emotionally faster than men, are not equipped to understand this and compensate for it?

Most men I feel have a basic understand that women are more emotional than men are, but we still try to compensate for it in one way or another. What does it mean to be immature anyway, who has ultimate authority on who is mature and who is not?

I mean you can sitll be the most mature person on the planet and be completely silly, and undatable.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. You can't change a partner. You accept them as they are, or you reject them.

2. Remaining in a bad relationship and complaining about it is a reflection on YOU and YOUR choices much more so than being a reflection on him.

Why have you not broken up and moved forward with your life?

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I can't deal with immature men. It is bad enough putting up with them online.

lightbulb27 · Answer

hugh? you are a woman asking guys to help you figure out how to deal with an immature boyfriend?

you'll have to accept you selected an immature boyfriend. Decide to expend effort helping him mature as a man, as a boyfriend, husband. Specific tactics would be therapy for specific issues, reading books, going to church, discussing relationship/emotional topics, mens groups, talking to other mentor men, sending him to GAG.

The challenge is that NOBODY wants to change... not even you, right? So he has to see value in changing and decide he wants to change... e. g. he wants to address issues in his inner child development and become a better boyfriend and man and human being.

so goals would help.

you'll have to learn to breathe and let be...

Fireguy17 · Answer

tough call, if he doesn't shape up, I see your age posted under your name and by then every guy should have matured, but some just don't seem to do that.
probably it might be best to move on and find someone that is more mature.
Maybe try guys a few 3ish or so years older than you that have a good job, career, house, so they will be more focused on their future, and future with you.

Nifrayu · Answer

Do you really want to keep the relationship going? What is he bringing to the table that makes up for his immaturity? Income? Great sex?

I guess you just have to weigh everything together and decide if he is worth it to you. If you decide that he is worth it, then all you should have to do is remind yourself that his good qualities outweigh the bad ones.

If he isn't worth it, then maybe it's not a good idea to keep the relationship going.

Anonymous · Answer

What makes him immature? Is he incapable of holding a job and smokes pot all day? If that's the case, you should dump him.

A lot of women think a man who doesn't take himself too seriously and plays video games for a couple of hours is immature.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Sounds like the pot isn’t helping him sleep. Could also be contributing anxiety, if he’s keeping you up texting. See if he’ll switch to CBD. Although, probably time to show him the door…

Billlewis · Answer

Spank his bare bottom, and if you have to have someone else help you do it, then ask them to provide you with some assistance.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't know, I've never had a boyfriend. How about just dropping him and trying to find someone that's grown up?

ImHere22 · Answer

Dump his ass.   There's plenty of mature guys out there, and no one should waste time with someone who's immature and can't handle life

jojoiwiwbwjo · Answer

Use him for sex whike you look for a mature boyfriend

MJtheCoach · Answer

you picked him.. And went into a relationship and now looking for a solution?

JesseP1nk · Answer

What is the point of having a relationship with this junkie?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Everyone is immature in some ways have to put in effort

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

You can't he is being himself and you don't like it you should leave asap

Anonymous · Answer

Same way you deal with an immature woman. You don't!

BLP11520 · Answer

How old is he?

jjj101010 · Answer

Manage ur expectations, we r all immature!

jahaims · Answer

Super vague

Anonymous · Answer

Break up 💔

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