How do I deal with a very immature boyfriend?

[dallas]

[PizzaDaddyo]

Please don’t think that you can change him because he’s grown you most likely will be wasting your time and effort on someone that may not change anyways and your better off changing yourself or perspective on men and what you want in a man. Obviously maturity is now a key trait you desire in a man. I personally think a “grow the fuck up!” Won’t happen overnight.
To answer your question tho. You deal with it or you leave him if he’s not growing up to the standards you need in a long term partnership. Looking on the bright, dating this guy is showing not only how he truly treats his woman but also how he treats himself. What you can take away from this is now you have a better understanding of what is need or what you value in men.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Boyfriend or fiancée? Your profile says you are engaged.

2. At the age of 35, most women are mature enough to understand that an immature guy is not going to change for you, so. . . do you really need anyone to answer this for you?

[Sushi2405]

Dealing with an immature boyfriend sometimes gets irritating cause you have to tell them even the most basic things. They don't understand the seriousness when we address something. Rather than putting things in a confronting way, try to have a normal conversation. Try to understand his mind let him grow with you. Don't suddenly expect him to act maturely and change for you. Things take time. And deal in a different way, start everything with a sweet conversation make him understand things in a loving way rather than in blaming him for being like this. If he really cares about the relationship he will try to change.

[sheikalana]

Do not settle for less than what you deserve. I understand that age might be a big deal for you but if this person is not ticking all the boxes let them go. You're going to waste your time and he's not going to change.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a little wisdom on the rocky road of love here! 🌟 Dealing with an immature boyfriend is like training a wild, yet adorable puppy. It requires patience, consistency, and lots of love, with a gentle nudge towards growth. Communication is your magic wand. Open, honest, and as sweet as your grandma's peach pie, talk about your feelings and needs without making him feel like he's in the naughty corner. Encourage him to express himself too; this isn't a monologue. Lead by example, darling. Show him the mature horizon you're gazing towards, but remember, change is a slow dance, not a race. If all else fails, consider if this is the tango you want to dance long-term. Love is a two-player game, and both need to be aiming for the same high score. 🌈💖

[Massageman]

Gee - only 8-9 metaphors on this one. Your bad AI is slipping even more!

[Bondage_Bruce]

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[PavlovsCogk]

@Bondage_Bruce I don't care about emasculation. I just hate when people prea h about age gaps because I love @dallas's grandmother's sweet peachy pie.

[nurse]

Dealing with a very immature boyfriend can be challenging, but there are constructive ways to address the situation and work towards a healthier relationship. Here are some steps you can take:

Open Communication
Express Your Feelings: Have an honest conversation with him about how his behavior is affecting you and the relationship. Use "I" statements to express your feelings without sounding accusatory. For example, "I feel frustrated when you don't take responsibility for your actions."

Listen Actively: Give him a chance to express his perspective.

Set Boundaries
Establish Clear Expectations: Clearly communicate what behaviors are unacceptable and what you expect from him as a partner.

Consistent Boundaries: Be consistent in enforcing the boundaries you set. This helps reinforce the importance of mature behavior and shows that you are serious about your expectations.

Encourage Growth
Positive Reinforcement: Acknowledge and praise him when he shows signs of maturity and responsibility. Positive reinforcement can motivate him to continue improving his behavior.

Suggest Self-Improvement: Encourage activities that promote personal growth and maturity, such as pursuing hobbies, reading self-help books, or attending workshops on emotional intelligence and relationship skills.

Lead by Example
Model Mature Behavior: Demonstrate the behavior you wish to see in him. Show maturity in how you handle conflicts, responsibilities, and communication.

Evaluate the Relationship
Assess Compatibility: Consider whether his level of maturity aligns with your needs and expectations in a partner. Reflect on whether the relationship can realistically improve or if it may be best to move on.

Seek Support: Talk to trusted friends or family members about your situation. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and support.

Consider Professional Help
Couples Counseling: If his immaturity is causing significant issues in the relationship, consider couples counseling.

Personal Therapy: If his immaturity stems from deeper personal issues, suggest that he seek individual therapy. Professional guidance can help him work through these challenges and develop greater emotional maturity.

Be Patient and Realistic
Allow Time for Change: Personal growth and maturity take time. Be patient and give him space to improve, but also be realistic about the pace of change and whether it meets your needs.

Recognize Limits: Understand that while people can change, there are limits to how much and how quickly someone can mature. Recognize when it's time to reevaluate the relationship if his immaturity continues to negatively impact you.

[Summeroflove]

If you’re unhappy you break up. Don’t waste your time and don’t waste his for that matter.

[Aubrey97]

If he's a similar age to you and hasn't grown up to be an adult yet, it seems unlikely to happen. You'll have to decide if it's worth dealing with it or not but don't count on fixing it.

[standardguy]

Women sometimes say immarture but just want him to have the same opinion like her. Marriage is about a relationship of two persons who want to live together forever. So have a look if you can live with a guy evennif he won't change completely. You can put pressure on him and he will change but he stays the same person though

[dustybiker2]

Let them marinate with someone else? Find someone on your own level. It can drive you crazy.

[Billlewis]

Take him over your knee and give him a good, hard bare bottom spanking with a hairbrush or wooden spoon, etc. repeat as necessary.

[provokeesmokee]

Dump him.

Especially if he's your age or older. There ARE good and functional adult men out there. You deserve one of those, not a manchild.

[northerngal]

Its up to you... is his behavior a deal breaker? If it is find a new boyfriend I guess. Otherwise learn to live with it. No person is perfect.

[mandyfire98]

If he's a grown ass man and still immature, he isn't changing. It's called arrested development.

[molonski2]

The fact that you are with him is a reflection upon yourself , immature? Get rid of him.

[anusha126]

Break up with him and he himself becomes mature😂😂

[In_Trance]

Give him this

[Anonymous]

Tolerate it or leave him. You aren't going to change him.

[Booklover_90]

Best response.

[Opinion Owner]

@Booklover_90 😎

[SotiCoto]

You gave him boyfriend status in the first place. It is your problem to deal with.

[jahaims]

Why would you be in a relationship with someone who is immature?

[Kingofkings1992]

If you need to ask us, then it is you who is immature.

[Moxie72]

You RUN. He will never change and if he's irritating you now imagine years of this.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by immature? Could you please share an example?

[Flatmanlewis]

Nothing you can do except leave.

[HelpfulWoman]

get one that is mature.

[LaurenM1997]

Dump him because he ain’t worth time

[John_Cobretti]

Lack of ANY context shows your immaturity

[Anonymous]

In what way is he immature?

[ohvanillalattegal]

Drop him

[ceren27]

Lack of ANY context shows your immaturity