Should I ask him why he updated his bumble?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and a half and we’ve gone on seven dates.

We love to be together we’re constantly taking and our sexual chemistry is great.

We hung out 4 days ago and it’s like a switch flipped and now he’s hardly talking to me. I didn’t wanna read too much into it cause he did say he was just busy but I have a weird gut feeling he’s not.

I went on his bumble profile cause I was curious (that’s how we met) and he updated it.

I just feel like a total idiot now cause last time I saw him he told me I’m the only girl he’s seeing and everything was so sweet that night, it always is.

should I confront him? If I do should I bring up the bumble thing?

[HollyK21]

Talking about being exclusive vs solidifying it are two very different things. You two are still pretty new to one another, so you don’t really know him or if you can trust what he says, and it’s made clear by the fact he’s still active in his bumble despite telling you otherwise.


I don't know what that says about his character and the true nature of his intentions vs what he’s told you to try and achieve what he wants, but it’s a red flag to me. If he’ll lie about the small things like still exploring his options (which would be totally fine so early in) then he will lie about the big ones. I know naturally you want to trust a person based off how things are going, but it’s so important to protect yourself first. Ask the right questions, use your good judgment, improve how you date by knowing what you want from a man and not settling for less. You’ll see a great improvement in the quality of men in which you give your time and attention.

[boggboss]

U can are u guys exclusive

[Asker]

We talked about it so yes

[boggboss]

Clearly he ain't that exclusive or going to keep to what was said then