hey guys, i haven’t had a real job in two years. i’ve been working with my mom since then. i’ve been in school full time so thankful to my mom for her giving me a part time to pay my car and gas. anyway, since i don’t work full time and im mainly home studying or just bored can that be a reason i crave for my boyfriends attention? I don't know what’s wrong with me lately. i’ve been wanting my boyfriends attention so much more than usual. i’ll admit, i haven’t hung out with my friends at all in the two years. i’ve been craving his attention and he’s just pushing me away. i’ll also admit that all i do is nag and complain. this man doesn’t give me the bare minimum. meaning he doesn’t open door for me, he doesn’t take me out to dates. when i nag or complain about something he gets super rude. anyway, since im home or bored all the time can that be a reason why i crave his attention?
Can I be craving my bfs attention more because im bored?
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I was in your position almost exactly a while ago lol I didn’t have a lot going on, barely hung out with friends and my boyfriend doesn’t take me out on dates. My boyfriend was pretty much the only person I hung out with so I bugged him a lot and like you, I craved for his attention. I got clingy to the point where my boyfriend ended up getting distant and pushed me away bcs he needed space.
I decided to pull back, got myself busy, got into knitting, basically look for other things to do to keep myself busy. I also work with my mom and most of the work that I do, I can do at home so I don’t really go out. But I’ve been making myself more busy so that I can let my boyfriend breathe, I think it would do you and your boyfriend good if you can give each other space and just be busy with yourself so that you can miss each other more 😊
thank you anonymous :) i will try my hardest to get busy. what sucks is since i don’t do much i dont even know what to do. i live in touriest place so everywhere you go there is so many people and a lot of craziness. so i feel like staying home is safer than going out. but i will do it anyway. i dont want to continue to go stir crazy. i called my boyfriend today and he was quiet because i was complaining and he said he doesn’t want to speak to me and he doesn’t care if i block him or not.
I would just start with something small, maybe start watching a new series, go out for a quick walk, start journaling every time you feel like you miss your boyfriend too much. I think he’s in need of some space away from you, he sounds burnt out. My boyfriend is kinda similar, he gets rude when he feels like he needs some “me time”, I usually would leave him alone and he’ll be back to normal pretty soon.
yes i’ll try that out tomorrow. i haven’t talked to him all day today and when i did call him to complain lol he says that im annoying and he doesn’t want to talk. like you said though, he is probably burnt out. i won’t reach out to him until he wants to.
What were you complaining about? Maybe try to just write down your complains so that you don’t bombard him with it every time you talk on the phone, that way you’ll leave a positive impression on his mind for every time you do talk and not have him worried that you’re just gonna dump him with complains every time you call lol
That’s good! Just give him some space to breathe, in the mean time you can just focus on you ✨
i complained how he was super rude to me yesterday and how what is the point of hanging out if all we are going to do is hangout at his house not doing anything. like we legit don’t go out on any dates. then he tells me that he tries to take me out but i make it difficult. i told him that he only wants to take me out when im upset about it. like if we go out when im upset, ill have a bad time about it. and i also complained how he was at a party yesterday with a girl in it and when i asked who it was, he hung up on me and then told me it was his friends sister. then he tells me that when i hangout with my girl friends that there is always a guy there. i told him that he’s been our friend since highschool and we are all 30 now. we’ve been friends forever. also i complain how in the past he used to like girls bikini and butt pictures and how he would DM a few of them saying they were pretty.
Okay your relationship’s dynamic do come across kinda toxic tbh. I think there’s a lot of compromising that the both of you need to do. You might also want to work on your communication, instead of “complaining” about not going out on dates maybe next time just say “I feel like we haven’t been spending some quality time in a while, let’s go out on a date!”.
Not gonna lie tho the thing about liking butt pics and DMing girl is high key a red flag. So I guess that was pretty much one of root causes of your insecurities in this relationship, you didn’t even trust him bcs of what he did. If he has shown and proven to you that he’s changed tho then you need to learn to trust him again. I know you’re probably anxious about his whereabouts and what not when you’re not together, that’s why I think it’ll do you good to keep yourself busy and your mind off of him 😌
Because he’s your boyfriend
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