How to make a Temporary Long Distance Relationship work while we can’t meet in 10 months? (He 26, Me 22). I want him to want me everyday. He has ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Lack of dopamine can low down the “fire” in regards to the ADHD in men. How to do not let it happens during these next 10 months distant?

[Anonymous]

You keep mentioning his adhd in your other post as well, but that’s not the main problem. It’s also not the reason why his communication hasn’t been great. The issue is simple: long distance is not made for everyone. The first few months can be cool but after like 3-4 the foundation can start to wobble. It’s hard for some to carry on through texts and phone calls as their only source of communication. No intimacy, can’t touch or hug, no dates or making memories together. Topics run out, phone sex and dirty pics slowly get boring, conversations become lackluster until there’s maybe one in the day. It’s a shitty arrangement.

[Asker]

But that’s the only choice we have for now it being shitty or not. And it was him who asked me for us to date. Also, wym with I keep mentioning about his ADHD in my other posts but not the main problem if I’m posting this anonymously and many people on here also ask of long distance relationship advices? Maybe it’s my first time using this site, you don’t know.

[Opinion Owner]

Fortunately and unfortunately this community isn’t very big, so it’s not hard to notice if it’s the same issue. I’m not trying to call you out by any means, my only point in mentioning that is the ADHD aspect, sounds like he gets away with a lot due to this and I don’t believe that is mainly what’s caused his communication issues. Like yes it can contribute but I think it’s more than that. I get it, LDR is your only option right now, and that’s cool he asked you first to date, but maybe he just wasn’t aware of the obstacles that come with it. If anything, I’d say to have a serious conversation with him about how practical 10 months of distance is for you both. Like how will you work through it? How can you keep the spark up? Will you be able to see each other in this time? Make some silver linings.

[Asker]

Yeah, he asked me to date and we started dating about 1 week. And yeah, I’ll talk to him about it. Thank you. We will work through it.

[Opinion Owner]

If it’s only been a week then yeah, talk about it I’d also say ask yourself what’s bothering you as well so soon, that way you’ll know what exactly to address with him. Like you say you want him to want you all the time, but what does that entail? More texts or calls? Deeper conversations? Consider all aspects of what you’re getting into. Wishing you luck with your talk!

[Anonymous]

LDR is just a scam n waste of time.

[Asker]

That was not my question. We’ve known each other for 4 years. In 10 months I’ll get graduated and the distance will end.