So one of my friends has been seeing this new girl that he likes. And one of my other friends suggested to give her flowers at work. And I said it’s not really a good idea to go all out on someone you just met. But him and my friends don’t believe me. They said so it could show the girl that you could give them the world when they’re with you. But I think flowers, gifts, going the extra simp step for them is just going to not work. By the way, this is the same guy whose girlfriend broke up with not too long ago. And would do anything for her. And how did she repay him? Nothing but a cold shoulder. And the friend we’re trying to help out got cheated on before. I believe you should only go the extra mile and above when it’s actually deserving. Like a birthday, or big event in their life. By the way, this is the same girl who didn’t show up twice when he asked her to spend time with us. So she isn’t even that into him in the first place. I think it’s a waste of time and effort on a girl who doesn’t give a shit about you. And this is partially why I’m single too, because I don’t go out of my way for girls who don’t really care all that much about me. Am I wrong?
Do you agree with my friend?
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Ok hear me out from this picture of view. As a woman if a guy I just met asked me to hangout with him and his buddies once I'd decline because we kinda just met and I'd like to get to know you more, not you and your friends (later on yes but not so early).
Second time if I was asked to hangout with a guy I just started seeing to hangout with him and his friends again sounds like some kind if set up. And her gut feeling and or friends probably told her don't do it because it sounds weird. If it's not in a super public place or at someone's house I personally would've declined too.
The only part I agree with you with are the gifts so early on. It could show how anxious and needy your friend is of company given that he just broke up with someone. It's giving rebound vibes from him tbh.
You are correct. Not necessarily about the giving, but about giving too soon. It's like if the guy takes her to Coliseum or some other nice, pricy place for a first date. after that she's likely to have the attitude of the lady who refused to get out of the car because her date took her to Cheesecake Factory.