Why do girls / women say men should approach them? If girls don't like then just say No. Why do they reject men so harshly and rudely?

[Anonymous]

[blueonblack22]

I had a long chat with a colleague about this the other day.

Women have always been more picky due to evolutionary reasons. There was a time in history this was necessary for their survival. But most of them have not evolved out of this. But to make things infinitely worse the following is happening:

• Women have been told to have no filter and just indulge “their truth”. In other words if they can totally indulge their negative feelings and expect the world to cave to them with zero disregard on how they make other people feel in the process. Especially in regards to how they make the man they rudely rejected feel.
• Dating apps and the digital world has screwed up interpersonal interactions especially in dating.
• I have no doubt that #metoo had exponentially f*cked up everything. It’s not “over” either. You see women in gyms secretly recording “creepy” guys (without their consent). I’m some cases these men deserved it. But in many cases it was grossly exaggerated or worse. So of course bs like that scares the hell out of men approaching women.

Anyway not all women are bad. But men usually don’t know the following when approaching a woman:

• if she’s having a bad day or not
• if she’s taken or not
• most importantly if she likes him or not. Men aren’t mind readers.

Singlehood rates are skyrocketing in the west. You can blame digital technology as the main culprit but it’s just a (big) factor. No the biggest problem is many guys have concluded there is more risk then reward when it comes to approaching women and this is also making women miserable.

The only way to steer the ship is for more women to approach men whether they like it or not.

[DextroShade]

The modern average basic bitch is very narcissistic thanks to feminism and social media so she thinks she's a 10. When an average guy who is actually on her level makes a pass at her she gets insulted that this guy who she believes to be very beneath her is thinking that she is at his level and the narcissistic injury causes her to lash out at him.

[Rei13]

I prefer it when approach me, generally those relationships have been the strongest for me and there was no question if the guy liked me or not. When I’ve approached guys I might get a ‘yes’, spend some time together and generally they would end up pursuing another woman. The one commented that it felt too easy for him when it was the woman pursuing. However I don’t think anyone should be mean to someone that approached/pursued them. It’s okay to reject but you can be both kind and thorough with it.

[chrissykerdock]

don't take it so seriously if you do... i mean it's a big world and you can meet people so many different ways... who said you have to walk up to a girl cold and ask her out without ever speaking to her prior... you can't get upset over that.. that's a cold call... there's other ways and other situations.

[Asker]

I am a sensitive and emotional guy. I know it's a big world. There are tons of sweet girls out there. Unfortunately, most of the girls I have approached rejected me rudely. This is the reason I have bad opinion about girls/ women. I don't get it, why is every girl I approach is so harsh on me. Who is teaching young girls to be rude and disrespectful towards boys / men? Where is that sweet girl who can make me fall in love with her?

[chrissykerdock]

it sounds like you keep cold calling girls

[Asker]

Both yes and no. Tell me what is the perfect way to succeed in dating? How to win her heart, impress her?

[Asker]

@chrissykerdock Hey, are you wifey material woman?

[chrissykerdock]

apparently not nobody married me yet

[Asker]

Good to know! 😊 Are you prepared to be wifey?

[chrissykerdock]

i'd like to be

[Asker]

Nice! Do you hangout with men? Do you love kids?

[chrissykerdock]

why do you have kids

[Asker]

I love kids, I want to have kids. Would you like to make babies with me?

[Asker]

@chrissykerdock It's okay! If you don't want to. I am an Asian guy and looking for a classy American woman. I want to start a family ASAP.

[bededazzle]

only some women do that. and they are doing you a favor because they suck

[Billlewis]

Because that's part of the appeal of being approached -- she can utterly emasculate you if she so chooses. I personally think it's quite sexy and erotic.

[WhitneySnow]

Not all girls are harsh and rude. Most aren’t.

[Asker]

Most of them are.

[WhitneySnow]

Well, I mean, if you just flat out ask a girl out without even getting to know her a little first, maybe you deserve a harsh rejection

[Asker]

Girls lashed out at me without even giving a chance to know them. May be I am not their type, I understand. But that doesn't mean that they have the right to break my heart. They should have been humble and nice. These are their humble words,

" Have seen your face in the mirror".
" You look like a poor guy ".
" I will slap you".
" I will call the cops ".
" Can you buy me an iPhone? ".
" I have high standards".
" I don't deserve a guy like you".
" Nobody will date you".
" Guys like you will never get a girl ".
" Don't come near me, I will kill you".

You know, I have cried many times. Forget it, you can't understand me. No girl can ever understand a guy like me. All girls/ women are superficial. They treat men like slaves.

[WhitneySnow]

Are you sure you weren’t approaching them in a hostile or entitled way? What exactly did you say to them?

[Asker]

I just approached them. I said I am interested in you, I like you, you are beautiful, gorgeous. That's all I said.
I don't know why everyone hates me? I am not lucky in love. May be I am not good enough for any girl.

[WhitneySnow]

Just approach them normally. Think of an excuse, like ask her about the homework after class. At least pretend you’re interested as a person rather than just for her looks. And if she does say no, don’t just dump her as a friend. That’s really mean. Maybe if you sincerely be her friend after she turns you down she’ll decide you’re a nice guy and set you up with one of her friends.

[WhitneySnow]

Interested in her as a person

[Asker]

Thanks:) I got it, I will do that. I just want to convey my message to girls/ women all over the world that, " don't yell, don't be rude and lash out at good guys, nice guys, kind hearted guys, emotional guys. It makes us feel like we are losers and good for nothing. I hope girls like you will understand and spread this message. There are tons of sweet guys waiting for their dream sweet girlfriend. Just don't broke our hearts.

[WhitneySnow]

Good luck. And I agree with you. No one should be rude for no reason.

[Asker]

Thanks:)

[Anonymous]

the better question is why do people still listen to women and their trash dating advice?

[chrissykerdock]

would you consider dating a man maybe you'd rather date a man if you have such a hard time with women

[Anonymous]

Some girl just want to reject men? Or maybe they want specific guys to approach them?

[Asker]

It's fine if they reject. I hate it when they are aggressive and reject rudely.

[blueonblack22]

“ Or maybe they want specific guys to approach them?”

So they want “specific guys” to approach them. So in other words they want men to magically read their minds?

[Asker]

@blueonblack22 😅😂🤣 how can we read girls minds?

[blueonblack22]

We can’t but they really do expect us to. So what ends up happening is we take a risk and if we are right then great. But if we are wrong we risk a lot in modern times.

Women used to just ignore or if they are classy they would politely but directly reject you. Some still do this (they are not all bad) but more and more of then indulge their negative feelings with zero regards to yours. They are being encouraged to be that way more and more nowadays and it’s wrong.

[Asker]

@blueonblack22 Most of the women do this. When women are rude to men, it's right. But when men are rude to women it's wrong, bad behaviour, not acceptable, inappropriate. Modern women are taught wrong lessons about dating men which in turn is ruining their own personal lives.

[Opinion Owner]

@blueonblack22 When I said 'specific men's that mean attractive mean. I didn't want to be rude.

[Opinion Owner]

*men... wow I made so many typos

[blueonblack22]

More of then not the guy has little idea if you find him attractive or not. Some women make this obvious but most don’t. They are usually very subtle about it.

Men are NOT naturally able to pick up on “signals” the way you wished they could.

[Opinion Owner]

@blueonblack22 okay when I said attractive I meant handsome

[blueonblack22]

You know over the course of my life I have been often extremely surprised which women found me handsome vs. which ones didn’t.

Back in college the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life thought i was attractive but I never approached her. I thought she was out of my league. Thankfully she said hello to me and introduced herself in the university fitness gym. We briefly dated but I screwed it all up later (another story).

Then I have confidently approached women who I thought for sure find me attractive. But they didn’t at all.

Bottom line is men are NOT mind readers OP and nowadays there are more and more risks for men approaching women. It’s really up to WOMEN now if they want to make something happen.

[Opinion Owner]

@blueonblack22 interesting can I message u?

[blueonblack22]

Sure :)

[Opinion Owner]

@blueonblack22 oh it doesn't allow me

[blueonblack22]

I think you need to add me as a friend first.

[Opinion Owner]

@blueonblack22 ok I sent a follow

[Opinion Owner]

It still doesn't let me. I'll just ask u here...
How did u mess up?

How were u sure that those women would be attracted to you?