Long story short, I met this girl for the first time on Hinge, texting was great for 5 days, then our first date was actually a flight to Denver where we spent 4 days together (I spontaneously said “what if I went with you” to a trip she had already planned). First 2 days were amazing; great rapport, building our connection, nights out, first kiss.
Last two days of the trip, we hung out with her friends. And for some reason, my social battery just turned off. I was quiet and reserved for the most part around her friends, and my fear is that this turned her off to the point where it tainted the good days we had in the past. She was also annoyed that I stayed both at her hotel and Airbnb (more so than my social awkwardness), as well as me getting pretty drunk one night. We had a phone call last night and cleared things up, as well as me apologizing for any discomfort and annoyances.
She was understanding for the most part, and but when I asked her how she felt about us after the trip, she said “yeah there’s potential.” What does this mean? Her texting energy has died down significantly and isn’t as candid (she’d text first usually and be playful; flirty) and just feels like she’s just entertaining me just to text.
What’s your guys’ take on this? I like this girl and want to start a relationship with her, but I fear we may no longer by on the same page.
Last two days of the trip, we hung out with her friends. And for some reason, my social battery just turned off. I was quiet and reserved for the most part around her friends, and my fear is that this turned her off to the point where it tainted the good days we had in the past. She was also annoyed that I stayed both at her hotel and Airbnb (more so than my social awkwardness), as well as me getting pretty drunk one night. We had a phone call last night and cleared things up, as well as me apologizing for any discomfort and annoyances.
She was understanding for the most part, and but when I asked her how she felt about us after the trip, she said “yeah there’s potential.” What does this mean? Her texting energy has died down significantly and isn’t as candid (she’d text first usually and be playful; flirty) and just feels like she’s just entertaining me just to text.
What’s your guys’ take on this? I like this girl and want to start a relationship with her, but I fear we may no longer by on the same page.
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It's tough. On one hand, it's reasonable to expect a woman to not choose to be in a relationship for a while. One way to find out would be to ask for clarification, but since her first answer was already a bit vague, this may not be a good strategy. So I would start by accepting that she may or may not be into--too soon to tell. If you like her, just keep asking her out and see what happens. Or, if you've been initiating things, you could disappear a bit and do your own thing and see if she reaches out. Lots of us are awkward at times.
Also, you may want to consider about yourself wanting to start a relationship. I totally get it--you're attracted to her and want to keep seeing her, but you may want to give it a little time yourself. Protect yourself and be careful to decide if this lady is right for you too. You got this.
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