I am 27M and dating with a 22F. We met through bumble and it's been two months.
Since 5 dates, when we had a sex, we are seeing each other 3 to 4 times a week and everytime we sleep over each other's place and spend time until lunch so I feel like we see everyday.
After one month we started dating, she wanted to date exclusively. I wasn't seeing anyone so I told her yes. After half a month, as we see this often and I feel 100% comfortable and found us very much serious and compatible in many ways in life, I asked her to officialise but she said, emotionally she is already ready to be in relationship but as the labelling brings social pressures such as introducing to friends and family, she isn't ready. She had a few datings before shorter than 6 months and she said they weren't relationships. But she've never been this emotionally attached to someone. I knew this and also did not want to pressure her so I didn't ask more. But her sisters visit here and she will spend time with them + their partners but she said she is not sure to introduce me this time. I didn't ask more and she seems like so stressed and unsure about this. We plan things in the future like lets travel in December or January casually and for me, It is 100% relationship and ready to introduce to my significant friends but her reaction makes me feel a bit sad and very uncertain about us. Maybe is it too soon?
What Girls Said
Hm really? Big red flag but also give it like 10 dates?
I'd not like that relationship given to me by my sister.
Really these 5 year apart 20 year old relationships never work out!
It's her not you she is in her exploring phase your in the let's settle down.
She needs her options open simply searching for someone new while enjoying you.
Being exclusive so she won't be jealous or worry about you being with someone else. While she is shopping for a actually relationship her age or when ever she feels like pulling the cord for what ever reason.
If she was your age I'd say yeah give it a few more dates. But I'd not want it official either with my sister visiting to judge.
For the traveling don't pay for everything! I repeat make her pay for it also!
Either her tone will change about the travel or she will pay for it and be happy with you.