I need help from you guys.
I do want to show my affection to the man but I lack experience and that's how I alwayse end up getting nervous and then I can't really do much more than to smile awkwardly, bashfully at the guy *facepalm*... I want to move past this shy little me, become more confident.
What kind (what lines) and what specific parts of their body (or the aspects of their personality) are guys happiest and most grateful to receive a compliment on?
I'm usually more physical. Physical touch is my main love language so I like to get close soon because I believe it all matters very much (the closeness, if we smell good to each other and how we behave when the other one tries to move forward).
So yeah, my question stands + is it desperate/wrong in any way if I, as a woman, am wondering about this? Should it always be the guy first who initiates touch/compliments the woman and after that the woman now can do the same? Or it doesn't matter?
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Touch his arm and compliment his looks. Or initiate a hug at the end of a date.
What about comparing hands? To get closer and then touch his arm and/or back of his hand.
That would be OK too.
Is it wrong you're attracted to someone and want to have a more intimate connection? Jesus what? Of course not. Compliment anything, his eyes or smile seems to be easiest because it can also be benign. As for touch definitely like bump shoulders or something similar when laughing together, but if you really want to break the touch barrier go for the hands- not like direct hand holding, but like tracing the veins or knuckles in them with your fingers. Hard to explain but someone (apparently had a crush on me) did this to me before in HS and I've never forgotten her.
Also, in this day and age it may feel uncomfortable for a caring guy to initiate the first touch. BUT if all else fails, you can always fall back on the classic- a good strong hug
I just feel like I do it out of nowhere when I try to compliment him. I can't always pin point the right moment. :
The hands OK, that could work. I was also thinking of trying the old "look at how large your hands are compared to mine" trick.
Is a hug at the end the safest choice of goodbye? Or would a kiss on his cheek be also welcome?
That's fine, you always gotta feel it out and wait for an opportune moment.
Definitely, the hand size comparison thing is a great way to break that ice.
As for the hug, one when you first meet up is kind of not thought of at first (people usually worry about the goodbye) but it is a nice way to set a feel for the date/hangout. As for the goodbye, that would have to be up to your discretion depending on how it all went prior to the goodbye. But a hug is a safe bet, a kiss on the cheek is daring, and both will probably send a message.
Ok, we'll see how it goes. I'll try to play it safe and be breezy.
Thank you! :)
No problem good luck 😊