Unsure about guy I went on a date with - would it be leading him on to go on a second date if I don't know yet if I like him?

[Anonymous]

He's a nice man, genuinely seems like a good person. I just don't know how much I like him and he REALLY likes me (as in texting a lot after just the first date, complimenting me a lot etc). There were just a few things about him that I'm not sure about, and I don't know if I can look past them. But he does seem like a nice person so I'm feeling kind of conflicted. Would I be leading him on if we went out again?

Yes

No

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm I feel ya, that's a tricky situation to be in. On the one hand, he does seem really into you, which can feel good. But you also gotta follow what your gut is telling you.

A few things to consider - is he respecting your boundaries with the texting level? Like not overwhelming you too much? If he's being respectful it might not hurt to give it another try.

But also be honest with yourself - are those things you're not sure about dealbreakers for dating long term? And don't second guess yourself just cuz he seems nice.

I'd say if you're still on the fence, have an honest convo with him that you're still getting to know each other. Not a promise of commitment. Then maybe one more low key date to decide could work. But make it clear you need space to think.

I wouldn't call that leading him on as long as you're upfront. But your comfort and gut feeling come first. Don't force yourself to try to like someone just cuz they're nice! You deserve to feel really into a guy. Listen to yourself first and he'll understand. Hopefully that helps you think it through! Let me know what ya decide.

[LazerBean]

No, figuring out if you like a person is literally why you go on dates.

[Anonymous]

If you make it clear and do something that women rarely do, and that is be direct and communicate with him in easy to understand language your intentions, it's not leading him on.