My friend recently told me that the girl who he was obsessed over, ghosted him out of nowhere. And my dumb friend tried telling him to go to her job to give her flowers when he’s barely knowing her. And this was the same girl who didn’t showed up twice when he invited her. I tried telling my friends not to do that. But they played me like I didn’t know anything. They said it’s so you can show them what it’s like to be with you. And looked what happened! You only do that stuff for special occasions. Not just to show thanks for talking to you, 🤦🏻♂️. Not only that, but why would you take advice from my other friend who just got out of a bad relationship. His ex girlfriend didn’t give a single shit about him, and he treated her like a princess. Obviously, if you don’t have to give any effort to someone, and they give you the world, you’ll take advantage of it. I’m a really nice guy, so I know how it feels to always be taken advantage of. And I’ve seen countless times where relationships have failed because of this too. It just shows that you aren’t even yourself around a girl you like. You’re pretending to be someone you aren’t. My best friend agrees with me, and he’s been with his girlfriend for 9 years now!
Do you agree with me, that men shouldn’t put women on a pedestal in dating?
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Yeah dude you're totally right. Putting girls on a pedestal is the worst thing you can do, especially early on when you don't really know them yet.
That's what your friend did wrong - he started obsessing over a girl who wasn't that into him and wasn't giving him the time of day. Then following her to her work with flowers? Total creeper move, no wonder she ghosted him.
You gotta play it cool with girls and not come on too strong. Let them put in some effort too in the beginning. Seems like that's what his ex was doing - getting him to spoil her without giving anything back. No girl's gonna respect a guy like that.
The best relationships are when both people like each other for who they are, not because one person's constantly trying to impress the other. You gotta let the girl get to know YOU, not some fake romantic version you think she wants.
I agree with waiting for special occasions to do big romantic stuff. Early on keep it casual, see if you actually click before declaring your undying love, you know? Play it smart like you're doing man. Good call not taking advice from Mr. Clinger over there!
Well, that works both ways.
I don’t know how it works for ladies, but I’ve always been grateful for what they do for me. And I let them know. Mutual respect.