Girls, Have you ghosted a guy on app after meeting them and saying yes to a second date before?

[Anonymous]

Yes I have

No that’s not nice

[Anonymous]

I have, and while yes I would say it’s “nicer” to actually say goodbye to a person rather than ghost, often times we hardly even know them and don’t feel the need to end things formally like a breakup or stopping dating. Back when I used those apps I didn’t wait more than 2 weeks at most before meeting that guy in person, mainly since I don’t like carrying on too much through texts when we can just meet somewhere public and local for food or even a quick drink. At one point I remember matching with a dude who worked near my job and we grabbed a quick bite/coffee during my 45 mins and never met again, it wasn’t a great vibe in person.

[Asker]

But what if she goes on a first date with someone for 3 hours and then when he messages her, she says she had a great time and would love to see him again. But then she ghosts after that.

[Opinion Owner]

Even in that case man. I have a lot of stories from dating experiences but one that’s similar to yours is me meeting a guy through hinge, talking for close to a month (before I made my 2 week rule), he picked me up from my house on a Friday at around 6 for dinner date, walked the beach, caught a movie, took me home around midnight. He called on his drive home, texted me when he made it in, lots of positive exchanges in that time and on the date, it was great! He called early the next morning expressing how much fun he had, we talked about the movie and date, made plans to hang out that Sunday to watch a game and grab wings. I never heard from him again. I’m not a desperate person so I didn’t blow up his phone, I only called Saturday night then texted him Sunday about the plans, no response. It’s crazy because I was like why did he do all that? Why call the next day, talk about what a great time and all that only to ghost? This wasn’t the first case of ghosting, I’ve had it happen in the past too but all I’ve learned is that we can’t expect the same respect and sentiments from others like we give to them. That why you shouldn’t set expectations too soon so when this happens it’s not deeply disappointing and sits better with you.

[Asker]

In this case he ghosted and he was rude.

[Asker]

Have you ever ghosted?

[Opinion Owner]

This situation was separate from the one I initially mentioned, and I only shared this story as I feel it relates to your response to my comment, like when it comes to the confusion surrounding them ghosting when things seemed totally fine. In my initial comment, I was the ghoster in that instance and shared why.

[Serenitykayyy]

Never, I just say thank you for the date but I don't see it going further and wish you the best.