Am I a backup plan?

[Anonymous]

I have been with a guy for 8 long months and it wasn't easy. We weren't dating but more like a situationship. About a few months back he was acting weird and distant and randomly accusing me of being with other men with no evidence. A little bit after, he blocked and ghosted me for a month and a half and I never knew why. I let him back in but he never did explain why he left. He had an excuse but it changed frequently. We've been back on for months but it's slowly starting to happen again where we barely talk and when we do it's mostly him accusing me of fucking other guys. It makes me feel like he's doing something with other girls and putting it on me but I don't have proof.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, this situation sounds mad sketchy sis. A few red flags stand out to me:

1. He ghosts you for over a month with no explanation? Nahhh that's not cool at all.

2. Constantly accusing you of cheating with no proof is major gaslighting and deflection. Sound like he's projecting.

3. The excuses changing makes me think he's bullshitting to cover his own tracks.

To me, this dude is keeping you on the back burner as an option while he screws around. Classic "backup plan" behavior. You deserve way better than that sneaky ish!

My advice - drop him for good before you waste any more time. You don't need that stress. Focus on your girls, school, hobbies - live your best life without his drama bogging you down.

The right guy will treat you like a queen from the jump. Don't settle until you find him, feel me? Chin up sis, his loss!!

[Staximus]

Get rid of this wishy washy shady bum, he's probably screwing around behind your back. That's what happens when you're not in a real relationship, what did you expect from a guy who doesn't want to call you his girlfriend or a guy who you don't want to call your boyfriend? Try having a normal relationship next time.