I don't know any statistics... But I feel like most people have a back up plan... Maybe not like you think... Not like... "If this dissent work I'm getting with x"... But I think a lot of people have that great of being left... And it might not be the entire time... But people notice other people... Even if you'd never act on anything... You can tell if you have a close relationship with a friend or find someone else attractive. So it might be more of a situation of... They don't have a "PLAN" for a back up... But I think most people have it in the back of there head who they would go to if there current relationship dissent work...
Though that's not too say that's arnt both men and wemon who actively think about plan B. Especially at the start of a relationship or of there having problems. I used to be like that when I was younger.
But I don't know how common it is for wemon to actually come up with a back up plan. Though I do know some wemon really do that
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Absolutely! It's not even because we do not love our #1 man or because we want to replace him or cheat. It's really just smart, and some people like to know what their contingency plan is when life happens and horrible things come into play. None of us ever know for sure if we are in the percentage of people who will end up divorced, cheated on, left, widowed, or financially struggling single moms when our other half disappears unexpectedly.
Let's face it, men die. They die much faster than we do. The cheat and leave more often than women. These events should be expected. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Then, you will never find yourself struggling for long. I could suffer for 5-10 years after losing a partner, or I could cry a few days or a few months and move on with life easily and successfully. Why would I put my children through anything I do not have to?
I've always had backup plans. My male best friends are backup plans, my exes are backup plans, even my female best friends are backup plans! On the other hand, I am the same to them. My partners have had backup plans. It takes a village to raise a child, and there are so many suffering children and single moms and dads based on this American idea of needing to do everything the hard way with no logical planning. Why should I?
No, I will always be adored and cared for. My friends and children will always be adored and cared for. My husband will always be cared for. It's sensible.
Did I miss that memo? Because when I used to be in relationships in the past, I was only focused on ONE guy: the one I was currently dating. Not having a backup plan. I didn't even assume things would fail because guess what- I try to pick my guy wisely so I won't need a "backup plan." When I date a guy, I go into the relationship assuming he's going to be a longterm partner that I'm with and we're going to last!
See crap like this nonsense is why dating is so convoluted y'all: people actually assume their partners have backup plans instead of trying to find a good partner the first time that makes you only want to be with them and no one else.
That would be like me asking the men on here do they have a backup plan in case they don't like the woman they're dating- I would love to see what they say to that...
Do some women have a backup plan? Sure! Reading your description though and looking over the responses, I think many people are looking at this the wrong way.
A lot of people are thinking about this way - A girl is dating a guy and just in case the relationship fails, she has a backup boyfriend she can turn to. Does this happen? In some relationships, but it depends on the girl.
Now... here is the way I look at it - Before you met the girl, she has had/still has good male friends. During the relationship, she is probably still communicating with those guys. Again, because they are friends she may have known for years prior to meeting you. Now... when you and the girl break up, those male friends could be a shoulder to lean on or a friends with benefits situation. That's the way I think about it. It's not like women are plotting a backup plan if the relationship fails'; however, things can happen with her and her male friends after the relationship has ended.
This has happened to me once. An ex of mine had some male friends she would keep in contact with. I met them. They were nice guys and I was never insecure with her talking to them. We dated for 2 years. After our relationship ended, her male friend asked me if we really over, because my ex had asked if he wanted to fuck some time a few months after our relationship ended.
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Maybe it's the girls you dating... Or what videos/stats you referring to 🤔
Because I've seen some guys on here taking way more about having a back burner chick, or giving that advice to other guys... But I still wouldn't ASSUME ALL men are that way, just like you shouldn't make assumptions against MOST WOMEN.
And this right here is what is ruining dating... Forget the me me me culture, there's a new one on the rise...PICK APART CULTURE..
If people would take more time to REALLY get to know people instead of spending all their time picking apart, bashing people by their gender instead of their own personal actions, maybe there wouldn't be all the dating issues people complain about but are guilty of creating in the first place.I am unable to emotionally invest in one person, let alone two or more lol
Nope I’d rather be single than with a guy I consider to be only good for leftovers
It isn't.
What is the case is that, since someone spread this story on the internet that women are ALWAYS looking for a BETTER deal - it means they want a different guy.
We are all looking for a better deal, but it doesn't mean a different person.
The trouble is that the girls who are happy to stick around and get a bit less got abused, and those that manipulate got things given to them - so it became a 'well she is always looking for someone better'
Nothing to do with the truth, just asshole boomers who wanted to commoditise relationships, sex, people, skills - you know, you're a brick in the wall - now how do we make some money off of that? Ah, well, we say that each woman always wants better, you get depressed, you work your ass off for us, we never give her to you - we get our retirements at 4000 euros per month, and you are a sucker - ha ha
Those morons won't stop until we force them to (I am thinking the civil servants of the European Union - the biggest asses there are, corrupt morally - but 'clear' on paper - because they are 'special' and they passed their 'concour' to get a contract for life)
The thing that saves it is that their rule book says that in the interest of service they can be fired at any point - they just didn't read it (because they are assholes who are grander than the rest of us - as if they do anything to keep Europe together - nothing more than just milk the young and blame the rich)Not necessarily a backup plan, but if I were to get dumped today I’m confident I could have a new boyfriend this very same day. I’m faithful when I’m in a relationship, but at the end of the day I’m still a pretty girl with a cool personality and I can’t force guys to stop liking me. I get compliments and asked out multiple times a day on a daily basis. I don’t have any backup plan, but if I were to get dumped all I’d have to do is put on makeup, do my hair, put a cute dress on, and go outside and the men would come flocking.
I don't think that its that common in the way you are saying but I do think that most women who sleep around today have a backup guy. This backup guy is normally a good friend of theirs who is interested in taking things farther but she "friend zones" him because while he would be a great husband/life partner for her. But in her head, she is still looking for that 10/10 perfect guy they see in media who doesn't exist so they spend their 20's dating around and trying different options while feeling safe that they always have a guy to fall back to. But that guy will find a different girl after years of watching the girl he loves have sex with a bunch of d-bags and comforting her after they break up.
So when the girl is 29-30 she gets fed up with all the d-bags and goes to be with her back up and finds out that he is married and has a family and then normally you have a breakdown.Can't speak for most or all women. I know for myself if I'm in a relationship I don't have a backup plan. And I never really liked anyone who would wait around for a relationship I have to fail, I cut them off. I think it's weird.
But if we break up and I find someone I like not long afterwards, it's more coincidence than anything. I didn't plan it. Also, if I think there are better dudes than who I'm with I'd break up with who I'm with anyway, cause I don't like to settle or feel like I'm being mistreated/missing out on something.Um. No. I've never had any guys line up for me lmao. Also I'm strictly monogamous AND demisexual so like... literally there's no space for anyone in my heart/brain other than the guy I'm with. Plus going through a breakup is the worst, and the last thing on my mind when I'm going through shit, is guys. And what the hell would I be doing in a relationship anyway if I had one foot out the door? Sounds like emotionally immature shit people pull who aren't even ready for a real relationship. I just don't have the capacity to deal with more than one guy at a time, nor do I even WANT to do something like that because it honestly sounds so disrespectful and disgusting.
That's disgusting. If that's true I am certainly not one of them. I am in a 3-year relationship and I've been hit on and asked out during that time. I always politely decline and would never ever accept a phone number. It's so disrespectful.
I would never have a 'backup' for a number of reasons. First being that I adore my boyfriend. The idea of being with anyone other than him is repulsive to me. Secondly, in the unlikely event we were no longer together, I would need a looooonngg time to get over that pain. There's no way another man could get straight in.I don't know if you can call them backup plans but it's known that every woman has at least five or six guys in her dm's.
They came on their own she never had to chase them and she doesn't really give them a shot but keeps them around to stroke her ego since she enjoys the attention.
So naturally if her relationship falls apart there will always be options she jump on right away which makes it look like they were backup plans she deliberately made.
See that's not exactly her fault society is the one who dictated that men have to be the chasers and women the chased. So a woman will be able to sit back and have guys lining up for her but guys actually need to put in the effort when they meet a woman.Yeah and some of them use guys as “placeholders” as well. They date a guy they are only semi interested in until something better comes along.
But as for the “backup plan” I’m really getting sick of generalizing women but yeah I believe it is true. Some of them are so insecure and shitty they will keep orbiters around them “just in case”. They friendzone these guys but throw “them a bone” if they start to fall out of orbit.
Of course there are decent women who are not like this at all. But I tend not to trust women who have lots of “guy friends”. They always try to justify that bullshit. You don’t see straight guys with lots of “gal pals” unless they are white knights.Women are hypergamous. That's why they go for the 'better' dude and ditch their current partner. And yes, it's safe to say that most women DO have a back-up dude. They often allow male "friends" orbiting around them and turn to them when things go south with the dude they actually want. Don't let them bullshit you by telling you that's not true and that they are "just friends".
I have an ex who is like that. The second I broke up with her, she immediately started following her old orbiters back on IG. And that's just 1 story of the thousands out there.
That's why it's important to find yourself a girl who isn't like that. How do you spot a high quality woman? If she has no or very minimum male "friends" around her. And she is focused on her own life rather than fishing for compliments on social media.Dude, my guy, my bro. They always do. I've been with chicks and they show just about 90% dedication to the relationship and 10% on finding a fall off plan. I've been told straight up and i quote "I won't cheat on you and I hope you never take it wrong, but I will flirt with some guys because relationships are difficult and there is a chance for a fail on either side". There was nothing bad running in my head because I knew she was right. Although they don't mean to make you feel as less than your worth they still have to have plans beyond relationship. You can't say they are wrong for taking care of themselves.
I do not know any female friends or colleagues that do this. So I'm not sure where that vid you watched get their stats.
For me, I'm currently seeing someone and I liked him a lot. I would never think of doing such a despicable thing as having another back-up guy nor do my friends.Well this girl, when I’m in a relationship, there is no back up man or other guy I would think of seeing. The guy I’m seeing now we’re very much into each other, I don’t want anyone else with him. If a girl is doing that, she doesn’t need to be in a relationship, just date around.
What research have you taken this from? Some do have back ups, but it isn't that high of a proposition...
And "women" dont "always" do shit all, like guys some do and some dont so people need to stop generalizing it the the whole genderYes, they naturally do this, even unconsciously in most cases.
I guarantee you every woman has a least a guy or two in the wings she could call if she needed to.
Guys would do well to do the same.
The term you're looking for is 'hypergamy'. You can google it, or just go to this site and read up on it: www.therationalmale.com
And yes, women are snakes. You'll see.No as a mormon girl this is wrong on my agenda. If a girl has a backup plan it shows she isn't mature and emotional ready for a serious relationship that is just my opinion. When a girl truly loves a guy she deals whatever it takes and puts up with whatever the guy does. If she had a back up plan that means she isn't ready for a relationship.
Sure. My backup plan is to adopt a bunch of cats and swear off men for years to come.
This is a stupid question, at least for me.
When i’m in a relationship, i’m loyal and won’t think about someone else. Instead of having a backup plan, i try to improve myself as a person everyday and make sure to make my boyfriend happy.
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