Should I be cautious of her?

[Anonymous]

So I met this woman on Reddit. And she has three kids, and she’s my age. Anyways, I was chatting up with her. And then all of a sudden, she just ghosted me out of nowhere. I thought that was weird. So I didn’t bother to reach back because I’m not a desperate guy. But i did check out her history. And she has a husband. After she stopped talking to me, she made mentions that her husband was a great person in her life and all that. And after like a month and a half of her ghosting me, she messages me again today, apologizing because she was busy with school and the kids. But I went to see her history again, and apparently she’s been talking shit about her husband. I don’t know what to think? This also might be weird for me to say this, but we’re both Hispanic. And as a Latino, I’ve never been with a Latina because I just always grew up with Latinas who were horrible people. I met cheaters, women who don’t respect you, seen abusive relationships with them, and so much more. So I’ve never met one that I really connect with. Or wanted to be with because I don’t want crazy women. I have no baggage, so I expect the same. I want a calm and peaceful life. So I’ve always dated outside my race. So should I just give her the benefit of the doubt. And say she wasn’t doing anything wrong? It’s not like we were dating or anything. Just talking.

[Anonymous]

She felt guilty about talking to you and went back to being lovey-dovey with her husband. Then when things got tough in her marriage, she reaches out to you. Chances are, she’s not going to leave her husband.
You would be wise to be cautious, but you’d be even wiser if you stopped chatting her up altogether.

[Asker]

I stopped my conversations with her. I didn’t need that drama.

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you! Keep drama where it belongs, in high school.

[DreamLife7]

I stopped reading at met a woman on reddit. Um, why can't you meet someone like a normal person? What's wrong with you that you have to resort to a faceless site filled with people who have issues instead if going out and meeting a woman Casually like a normal man

[Asker]

I have. And honestly, faceless women are nicer to me than women I meet at bars. In person, I’ve gotten yelled at, made fun of, had women treating me like dogshit. That’s why I no longer go to bars because I don’t want to be disrespected. I rather a person gets to know better first. Instead of making false accusations about me without knowing me.

[DreamLife7]

Something is wrong with you. You need a mental health evaluation. Not normal behavior

[Asker]

Again, you don’t know me. Yet, you’re saying this? Who really needs a mental health evaluation based on this solely?

[BoopBoopBeep]

You have no baggage and expect the same but you're chatting up a lady that might as well change her name to Chicago O'hare. You're acting desperate. Move along. She has a husband and is clearly drama.

[Asker]

I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt. I try to seek good in people before I judge them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't. I'm not trying to seek shite in anyone. They can demonstrate if it's there good there or not, it's not on me to find/force it. This lady's cheating on her husband, spending way too much time with you when she should be un-f'ing her life and then ghosting you like some emo teen when home life gets "hectic?" Leave the trash at the curb don't bring it back inside and tuck it in bed.

[Asker]

So I stopped talking to her. I figured it was for the best.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Good job man. Next iteration will be better.

[Anonymous]

Yes most definitely. I wouldn't pursue anything if I was you.

[Daniela1982]

If she is married you have no business even having an interest in you. She is just playing with you anyway in my opinion.

[Asker]

Not really bothered, because I didn’t know what to expect. But I stopped all together with her

[RavVid]

Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas.