Should I say something? If so, how long should I wait before saying something?

[xbaesevans]

Hey! Need help 🙃
Long story short: I have been in a situationship with a guy since this summer, but we didn’t talk for like 3 months. Back in October he started liking my pictures again and somehow started talking again in November but not completely. We had things to talk about and met twice in December to talk, where we talked about what happened in summer and what was happening, he said strong words like in his head he knew I might be the right person but he is scared of getting hurt. After the first meeting I texted him I respected his fear and I was there whenever he was ready but I would not pressure him or run after him. He never addressed that text until last Wednesday when he asked me to explain it. We met for the third time and talked a lot. Long story short I told him I was interested in him but I would not do anything if he wasn’t. I told him he confuses me bc I know why I want to see him but why does he? He asked me if I wanted him to be more than I friend and I said yes. His response to all this was first to hug me and kiss my head and then we kissed a lot. Things got heated but nothing happened bc I had my period. He acted like a “sweet” boyfriend, wanting cuddles, kisses, stuff like that. Before going home I asked him “what should I wait for now?” and he said he was busy the two days after and added “let’s see!” and then said to give him a kiss before getting out of the car.
When we started talking he said he hoped I would take initiative and tell him what I wanted to say, whatever it was, always. Now, I haven’t heard from him. He always does that, he doesn’t text and then out of nowhere asks to hang out but I’m so over it. I can’t do this anymore and wonder everyday if I will hear from him or not, especially after the kiss which I thought would change something. I wanted to text him that his fear was hurting me and not him as he thought.

[Truthatanycost]

You've adopted the language of a fallen society. Call it what it is, not these vague terms that mean nothing. This guy wants sex and make out sessions when ever he feels like having them and nothing more. The issue with you is attraction to uncertainty and emotional unavailability. You said you 'can't do this anymore' while still doing it more.

[xbaesevans]

This summer was different, so I thought it could become that again but the guess not. I convinced myself it would go well

[Staximus]

Sounds like two people that can't commit to each other. Typical gen z wishy washy bullshit. Are you going to wait around forever for this nutless wonder? Go find a man who already grew up mentally and believes in having a real relationship. If you keep having sex with somebody who isn't looking for a relationship, they are basically going to think "why buy a cow when I'm already getting free milk?"

[xbaesevans]

Just so you know, we didn’t have sex lol just kisses. But I get what you mean. You’re right.

[Anonymous]

More texting fails.

Learn to communicate.

[xbaesevans]

I’m trying! Ugh. What’s your advice?

[Danny_dan92]

Tell him you wants him. Got nothing to lose

[xbaesevans]

I did! His response was kissing me but haven’t texted me yet so I’m just? Confused

[Danny_dan92]

Give it time

[Iron_Man]

What is a Situationship

[In_Trance]

Say it rn

[xbaesevans]

You think I should?

[In_Trance]

Absolutely