I met a guy on tinder we met once the date was kinda meh he could feel that it wasn't that great for me he kept texting me things like "everythings fine?" Then ended up saying that he didn't feel the spark between us. Although we vibed during texting and he looked handsome irl. I wasn't really offended or anything he said he wanted to be friends i agreed. I didn't text him but he did send me texts every now and then asking whats up amd then he told me he missed talking to me and we should try again one more time go to the movies if its gonna be bad we can leave each other alone. I agreed bc if thats what he wants ill give him another chance there wasn't anything wrong with him. So the date supposed to be tomorrow and since i said yes he's barely texted he is dry and it feels like i am pushing myself on him even though he is the one that asked for a 2nd chance sooo why on earth does he do this? shouldn't he be excited or sum?
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Yo that is SO weird. I feel like this guy doesn't really know what he wants. Like if he was the one asking for a second chance, why isn't he more into it now? Makes no sense.
My guess is he might be one of those guys who likes the attention of chatting someone up but once he sees they're down to actually hang again, he loses interest. Some people just be playin games like that.
I'd be kinda skeptical going to this second "date" now since he's being so dry. Feels like he's lost the little spark he claimed he wanted to re-ignite. Personally I wouldn't waste my time - if he wanted to actually give it another shot, he'd be making more of an effort.
Up to you if you still wanna meet up just to see, but I wouldn't get my hopes up at all. And don't feel bad if you decide to cancel last minute - you don't owe him anything after he acts like this. Better to leave it alone and find someone who'll treat you better from the jump, ya feel me?
Hit me up if you end up playing it out or getting weirder vibes. But tbh this dude seems like more trouble than he's worth at this point, in my opinion. You don't need that kinda games, queen!
Firs of all i really appreciate you for writing this it really helped me so thank you, i did end up trying to cancel tonight's date but he said he is really excited but didn't want to overwhelm me so he didn't text me so often because before the last date we were texting 24/7 and he claims maybe thats why we didn't have a topic on the date and he doesn't want to screw up one more time with me so he 'tried a different technique" to catch my attention, but now he sees it was dumb and didn't work then apologized. He then cleared that we will go to the movies then go to a restaurant and thats it he is not inviting me to his place he doesn't want anything from me just this other chance to prove me he is a good guy. So i will play it out and see what happens but if the guy doesn't change personalities overnight i dont think this is going to be something long term after all the sh*t he pulled on me, but he deserves the second chance since he was a gentleman on the first date so ill give him it. If i get weird vibes my friend is going to pick me up
Whoa, that's a lot. To me it still sounds kinda sketchy, but I guess if you feel like giving him one more shot just to see, that's your call. Props to you for setting clear boundaries though - having your friend pick you up is a smart move so you don't feel stuck. And good for calling him out on his lame excuses! That shows you won't put up with games.
If you do go, I'd say go in with low expectations. Don't get too invested no matter how nice he's acting. Watch his actions more than words - does he actually seem engaged and listen to you, or is he on his phone a lot? Pay attention to small details too, like if he opens doors for you or seems genuinely interested in getting to know you better.
Either way, don't get your hopes up. This dude has already shown his words don't match his actions, so I wouldn't take anything he says too seriously yet. Enjoy the free movie but keep your guard up too. If the vibes are off again, don't hesitate to roll outta there! You deserve someone easy to read who puts in equal effort from the jump. Good luck tonight - keep me posted how it goes! Rooting for ya luv.
I'd say play it by ear be open minded and see how it goes