Would you guys care if a girl
cuts you off during a call to speak to her bff? And when texting she sees your text but replies to her friends' first and foremost?
Would you guys be bothered if she gave more importance to her friends than her boyfriend?
u When you are married, your spouse should be the most important person in your life. Dating is like an audition, a chance to see how the other person treats you, how the two of you work together.
If she wants to spend more time with her friends, that's fine; I encourage that. But if we are in the middle of something together and she cuts it short to go be with her friends. . . that shit ain't gonna fly! She can do that, and I'll use the free time to start looking for a new girlfriend. I'm not going to be there for her just when it's convenient for her.
I feel like its a bit of a red flag if his girlfriend's female friendships threaten a guy...
I know there are caveats to this statement such as some girls being jealous of their friend's relationship and wanting to ruin things, but this is only in extreme cases.
The reason why so many people are lonely at older ages after their relationships deteriorate is because they did not spend enough time curating their friendships.
You're born into your family so they owe you a duty of care from birth, your lover will choose you based on how much you match their criteria (nothing wrong with this). But friendships that are born from purity lack the superficialness that can be found in other relationships, a friend will choose you for your soul, if you lose and arm or gain 20lbs+ a friend will keep being a friend, this is not always the case for romantic relationships.
No one should be made to feel bad for loving or cherishing their platonic friendships.
There's a balance between these relationships, and they do not overlap. I won't ditch a call with my boyfriend to take one from any of my friends unless it was an emergency. If my boyfriend is calling while I'm on the line ornhanging with a friend, it's as simple as taking a minute to answer and see if he's OK, letting him know what I'm doing and then hang up if it's not important.
We both give eachother the freedom and space to spend time with friends as those relationships are important to maintain, but we do not deny eachother either. That's something neither of is would tolerate
It's not a question of "more" or "less", it's a question of whether she will make room in her life for me. I wouldn't want her to drop her friends or activities she enjoys. I likely enjoy activities that don't interest her and I expect her to understand that I'm not always available. It's simple: never make someone a priority if you are only an option.
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Women who love their female friends to that degree are almost always a red flag. I cannot stand a woman who is that deeply connected to her "sisters" who she probably also gossips about. Hard pass for me as well.
Yeah, neither partner should do that. Sends a message that the partner doesn't really matter.
I know my friends much longer than my boyfriend and he has to be aware of that. Being in relationship doesn't mean I would abandon my friends.
The relationship between me and my man is different than between me and my friends. And I respect that.
As a girl, to the boys, please do, many of us ladies our friends influence us a lot especially if she's the only coupled one in the midst of singles, our dirty single friends mostly seek to take our man away, that's how I lost Ted... Please pay attention to your queen's friends, very important!.
Family comes before partners until you're married and moved in with your partner. Partners come before friends, but you shouldn't completely neglect your friends just because you're in a relationship either. A healthy balance is best. It's best to try and invite your partner to your friends stuff, unless you just want to have a girls night out.
I mean your partner is supposed to be your best friend and family, so if she cuts me off just to speak to her friends... It's time to cut her... Off as well.. LOL.. Not that she should abandon her friends.. But, I mean we are in it together against the world..
Yes! If it became a pattern I would view our relationship from a third persons perspective and realize I'm just being used by someone who'll never prioritize me. That would end the relationship emediately.
That said, I can understand prioritizing ones friends depending on situation. Maybe the friend has a crisis or about to get married or similar such that warrents extra attention.
Yup. Relationship first. Now if it was communicated that she was going to spend time with her friends that is fine. But the relationship is the priority.
The whole point of a text is it happens when it happens, so that part no. The rest it would depend on how serious we are, and her actions may affect that.
I dont want love, kids, nor anything sexual from my friends. So i would not put them before anyone i date and intend to build a future with
No because I do the same thing with my friends. Being a guy or girl does not overly change how we interact with out friends.
That's a hard pass. I should be the priority and she should be my priority.
Bhhhhpp , what absolute rubbish ! More bullshit , absolutely I would be and it would simply never happen.
I don't think that guys care as long as she put out, girls like to talk more than guys.
I wouldn't really be bothered. If it did bother me I would discuss it with her.. meanwhile I knew when dating her how she was. It would have been my decision to accept it then how she was
Of course but there's a difference between the chick you pump n dump and the one you marry.
The boyfriend should get the attention and the friends all know that. Just make sure the boyfriend doesn't prevent the girl from doing things with her friends when she wants to.
Yes I would be bothered by that. It's ok to spend time with friends, I encourage that. When it comes time to spend with your boyfriend or husband, he should have your undivided attention
I just would have stopped dating her and moved on to someone else.
Yes I care. It's a hollow and demeaning experience.
I suggest that a relationship where each do not place one another as number one will always be limited and prone to failure.
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