Do women's preferences in the men they date change as they age? If so, what are those honest things women look for in a man they want to be with?

[Anonymous]

I been thinking of this everytime i see a couple in public. I'm only looking at this from my perspective the outside view of it. And from what I found most females classmates, and more usually went on and chose some guy that was tall, generally good looking, and I guess respectable , I'd imagine. So what I guessed is those 3 things were generally the things most women look for in any guy they would want to be with, is this really true or is there more to it?

[jennifer_bloom]

I wasn't religious before high school so I had different standards when I was a child. After I became religious, my standards did not change too much from the date I first became religious, I wanted a virtuous and humble and honest and compassionate and loyal and understanding guy.

When I became an adult, I also began to consider intelligence and career and work ethic too. It's not about the money, cause I have my own money, it's about the fact he does something productive and useful with his life, even if all he is doing is working as an usher at church or collecting donations for Samaritan's purse or giving his friends rides to the doctor's.

I have friends who do not have jobs but they are busy, whether it's decorating birthday cakes or picking out clothes or cleaning the home or delivering food to pregnant females they know or going to working out classes in the dance hall. I might be attracted to a guy who is not productive but I would be less attracted to him, if he is not productive.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude, I think women's preferences definitely change as they get older just like anyone's tastes can change over time. When we're younger a lot of girls might focus more on looks and status, wanting a really attractive/popular boyfriend.

But I think as they get into their 20s and beyond, they start caring more about other stuff too. Looks are still probably a factor, but I've heard girls say they care more about a guy being mature, independent, kind/respectful, has his stuff together with a good job/place to live. You know, more boyfriend/husband material qualities.

And I guess something I've noticed is girls seem to care more about a guy having a great personality and sense of humor the older they get. Sure being confident helps too, but being genuinely fun to be around can go a long way.

Money isn't usually a huge deal either - they just want to know a guy can support himself. And being passionate about your interests is appealing, shows you have drive.

So in the end I think the biggest things are mainly being mentally/emotionally mature, treating her well, making her laugh, and just generally being someone they can see themselves enjoying life with long-term. Looks fade but personality is forever, right?