“I dare white girls because black girls are too ratchet”
“I date white girls because black girls are too ghetto”
“I dare white girls because black women have too much attitude”
Why can’t this self hating niggas just say why they like white women and not drag black women in the process? Is it that damn hard
Another common thing is for these men to talk about not wanting a dark skin baby with nappy hair? Half of this dudes are dark skin with nappy hair.. if you see those features as ugly that’s literally the definition of self hate 😒 and I don’t buy into this racial preference bs.
If you exclude an entire race from your dating pool, it’s based off of stereotypes. Plain and simple, you’re judging an entire group of people based off of your own internalized racism. Same goes for if you have a preference for a certain race -> it’s rooted in fetishization, which is objectifying since it also reduces people of certain backgrounds to stereotypes
I don't know girl but I have so much more respect for black girls than for black guys, as a general rule of course. They're a lot more hard working and ambitious in my opinion, have their shit together and are just more productive members of the society. And I really disrespect how common fatherless homes are in black communities... I was appalled when I heard the men blaming black women for it because I've known situations when they did the exact same things to the white girls they were with. My opinion is not a result of prejudice but my own observations. Men have the power in a society, they dictate how it's ruled so when I see black men shitting on black women and praising white women or white men shitting on white women and praising Asian women... it's just disgusting to me, how can any woman respect such a man? I can't. And again, yes of course I know I'm generalizing about black men, some are definitely amazing and great partners and fathers etc... but from my own personal observation of how they impregnate both young black and white girls and then leave them I just think the odds are stacked against you black girls and honestly, racial price and all that bs aside I would seriously consider other men or at least warn your daughters to keep it in their pants until they're married or something but even that... ok, some men of any race are just dogs. But the few situations I've witnessed with the shit that black men did to women, their lying, deceiving... I knew a white girl who dated one and his ex messaged her and told her he already had 2 kids with two different women and she could prove it. Something he completely hid that that acquaintance of mine. I just think there's something really wrong with it and for how amazing black girls often are and how badly black men tend to fail at being men (ambitious, providers etc) I think you really deserve better. This might be insulting to you that a white girl tells you think about your race but you asked this question so you opened this can of warms and I'm going to be honest with you like I always try to be.
As for the supposed attitude that black women have... I'd have attitude too if I had to deal with shitty men like that chose to have multiple children with all different women and don't tell me it's not very common in the black community. Like wtf what are these women supposed to do, they're literary at the mercy of such shitty men who lack ambition besides fucking more and more girls and ruining their lives. At some point you have to try to stand up for yourself and not just be a beating bag which I feel is what some of those black men appreciate about white girls.
I dislike when people feel offended to the point of hating people for not loving or liking what that person has.. as if they should like and say what YOU want?
I for example I am not black but I have dots on my body. I love myself however I HATE my dots. I would NEVER date anyone with dots like me because I feel sad about them and insecure, why would I purposely cause the future of a possible kid (my kid) growing up with what I had to grow up with knowing how I felt? Sure the baby could still possibly carry this trait I don't know for sure, nobody does, but finding someone without dots could mean less or no dots for the offspring.
hating my dots and feeling sad and or insecure about them means I HATE myself according to you and those who think like you.
I hate when people tell me you have to LOVE yourself!! Accept yourself how you are. blah blah etc etc. ignorant people. I DO LOVE MYSELF! and I DO accept myself. that doesn't change the fact that I do not like these dots.
Most time I also do not like my hair because it takes a lot of time and effort for it to look 'tamed'. Once it's tamed I get admiration from people saying they love my hair, and it makes me feel sweet inside like lovely. YET I much rather prefer to have straight silky hair if I had the choice because I wouldn't have to spend so much time for it to look good. Almost all my family has curly hair, except my brother and sister, aside from them, parents and other brother and cousins and aunts, all have curly, that doesn't mean I want my kids to have curly hair. I prefer if they have straight hair,.. OH NO! it must also mean I am self hating and hate all around me because I don't want it. RIDICULOUS! I love my hair I just don't love it all the time and I don't wish for my kids to have it. .
you need to FACE REALITY: You just feel offended because someone said they don't want something that YOU have. so therefore you feel insulted simply because someone doesn't like what you want them to like. It's understandable, I would feel sad too if someone said they didn't want someone with dots for the same reasons I stated, or curly hair, but yet I understand it 100% , someone else will want me. I don't have to hate someone for not liking me for whatever reasons they may have, I should not insult them telling them they have self hate or something like this simply because I felt insulted.
Learn the difference between actually being insulted and just you feeling insulted just because someone doesn't like what you want them to like.
I am black who prefers whites only, but never remember bringing in black girls to justify my right to like whites over them. I just find blondies the prettiest and thats all there is to it.
The movie Ready player one, hit me hard when one of the avatar girls refused to believe the boy's I love you statement. She said that here you see only what I want you to see, you hear only what I want you to hear and know only what I want you to know about me. That is what you are in love with, not with the real me.
In my case that is true. I am more in love with the looks of a girl than everything else combined. I never, and nobody ever chooses who or what turns them on or off. This is as painful to write as it is to read.
Pretty much every black guy I've ever known who preferred to date non-black girls did so almost entirely because of "their attitude," and the rest could loosely be interpreted as a preference for "exotic" (from their perspective).
Interestingly, I could say the same about black women I know who try to date outside their race, and just about anyone else from anywhere else who does the same. It's almost like bad experiences growing up create patterns of aversion...
Great question! I'm a black woman and I have no issue with black men dating/marrying white women as long as it's not out of racism. I guess they always mention black girls because they hate being black, therefore they feel the need of attacking someone who is also black. They're projecting their self-hatred to someone else just to pretend that they don't hate themselves. They're sad and ridiculous!
Got a question for you: what if someone is attracted to a difference race but they don't know why, they simply are. Would say that's self-hatred too?
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I’d say it depends. But racial preferences in general in my opinion are always a result of internalized racism because there’s nothing about a specific race of people that should make you more attracted only based on their race.
Race was a made up concept created by racists to justify so many horrible things and as a result race as a social construct is based around racism. Like for example, a lot of men in this thread are claiming that their preference for Asian women isn’t racist but notice how their explanation for why they like Asian women is because they think Asian women are small, submissive, etc. these are all racist stereotypes that have harmed Asian women in the past and still do in the present. So many men participate in sex tourism abroad in Asian countries where they are abusing Asian women. Or worst they’ll participate in mail in brides where a woman who would otherwise not marry them marries them because of their financial situation.
s well as the history of Asian war brides which also resulted in the abuse of Asian women which led to the harmful racist stereotype of them being more submissive
I was talking about myself. I'm attracted to black guys and guys of other races but I'm mostly attracted to white guys. I feel bad sometimes... What you said about Asian women is absolutely true and it's disgusting. I get your point.
That's sad shit, and I really do not like the expressions on their faces if that's what they're talking about. I can't make myself hit play on that because I just don't want to vomit, right now, or ever, actually. They're just weak-assed misogynists who don't have anything good to say about anything, at all. It's embarrassing that anyone listens to their shit, so that they get space in front of a camera to do that. Anyone building themselves up on putting others down is totally revealing their own cowardice and weakness. It's a form of bullying and it's just not good in any way. The only positive aspect is that the fools make themselves so obvious, they're easy to avoid, like they come with their own built-in repellent.
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Ya know. That’s a great question.. I understand people have “preferences” but to sit there and talk down on black woman as a reason they date WW is just messed up and honestly those men probably don’t even like us WW like that either. Or even woman at all.
The sooner you stop trying to figure that out, the better off you'll be. Black men that exclusively date white women will always down black women to uplift their "preference". I don't even pay those types any mind. And you shouldn't either.
Probably to justify what they want. Yea, I don’t like people who have preference for other races and mock the women/men of their race. You like what you like and it should be kept to yoursef. I agree with the self-hating issue. It is mostly like a reflection of yourself.
Your viewpoint on this is way too narrow. People are under no obligation to date within their race and given the complexity of attractiveness and partnering off with another person, no one person, there is going to be a huge variety of motivations. To give you one anecdotal example, when I was a teenager, a black male I knew told me he "dated white women because my pockets are full with them and empty when I am with a black girl".
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You clearly didn’t read what I was saying.. I never said you’re obligated to date anyone. I’m saying if you exclude an entire race from your dating pool it’s because of prejudice. None of what you’re saying refutes that claim and what your friend said literally proves my point. Your black friend is placing negative and harmful stereotypes on to black women
You'd have much better discussions on here if you would actually listen to what others are saying instead of reflexively telling someone that yours is the only explanation for something (this isn't the first time you've done exactly that, by the way) and having to be "right" all the time. People's motivations vary is my point and, furthermore, there can be multiple motivations to do something
As for what was told to me, it was based on his experience (he was 20 at the time and had had girlfriends since he was 13), and ironically the context was me having a black girlfriend at the time. I didn't (and don't now) see it as a matter of negative stereotyping.
I never said mine was the only explanation.. you’re the one trying to refute my explanation without even addressing what I was saying. No one cares if YOU don’t think your friend was self hating or fetishizing. You’re a white man and as such it’s easy for you to ignore racism in society since it doesn’t effect you
@Avicenna You're not listening to her, at all. And the controlling tone of your advice for better discussions is not helpful, either. And your anecdotal example offers absolutely nothing that suggest discussion improvement. In fact, you're the one with the narrow viewpoint. Do you listen to yourself?
You don't have to outright say yours is the entire (and therefore the only) explanation, your comments clearly indicate that you do, especially since you think someone is "trying to prove you wrong", an obvious projection on your part, and that you go out of your way to claim "no one cares what you think". There will always be differing opinions and perspectives.
You may one day also learn that racism can affect anyone, including in the US. And you shouldn't make assumptions without knowing someone's background and experiences.
Not that it matters to you, but I'm Hispanic and Jewish. While I personally do prefer an East Asian partner, it's because they're more likely to have similar views on childrearing and familial relationships. I think you place way too much emphasis on physical appearance when looking at interracial relationships.
You saying your Hispanic and Jewish literally doesn’t say anything? Hispanic is an ethnicity so you can be a white hispanic. And Jewish is a ethno-religion..
None of those are a race. And again your explanation doesn’t even make any sense, any woman of any race can share your views f family relationships.. whatever that might be. So I’m not buying the fact that you only prefer East Asians because of that?
If that was truly the truth, your preference wouldn’t be about race and would just be chucked down to sharing similar values.
@caitycat21 I'm kind of bored with the dull argumentation coming from Avicenna, so I'm out. I applaud your willingness to try to make an impression there, but I think you're wasting your time on this one. If you say one thing, whatever about whatever, he'll insist that you're wrong, without ever coming up with a cogent argument as to why because 1) he doesn't have any such thing in his bag of tricks, and 2) he has decided that you are his target, for now. He's just doing that thing that people who haven't examined their own anger always do, seeking out opportunities to bully others as much as they themselves feel bullied. Maybe I lack your faith that people will respond, eventually, to the idea that to bluntly, and absent of any reasonable argument, dismiss the opinions of others as null and void is the exact opposite of living as if you were free, because any idea of freedom has to include and not exclude respectful discussion that requires better than just, alone, silly pointless personal attacks about such as the breadth of one's viewpoint, of which this guy, in your case, is entirely unqualified to measure, not to mention to judge. I know that I have far better things to do with my time. I kinda think that so do you, but, hey, your life, your time.
@caitycat2: I couldn't care less what you "buy" or not. I was kind enough to answer your question, but I'm not surprised in the least that you can't believe anything that doesn't fit your very narrowminded views. I suggest that you seek therapy to deal with the anger you have regarding race. In addition, people aren't just going to kiss your ass in life and agree with everything you say- disagreement is a part of life and generally isn't a bad thing.
@Buntyp- Congratulations on completely embarrassing yourself.
@Avicenna I have a strong feeling that you were arguing with her burner account which is @Buntyp. This isn't the first time this 15 year old little girl made multiple accounts
@Avicenna Yup, confirmed. It is her duplicate account. If you check this girl's posts (caitycat), you can see that she constantly complains about anonymous replies. And the first question (and only) @Buntyp asks is how to block anonymous accounts on posts. Not to forget to mention the identical level as well caitycat being that account's only follower. This is clearly a duplicate account.
@TruthBringer do you gain something about lying? I deleted my old account so I could take a break. Deleting a old account and making an a new one isn’t the same as making a duplicate account
@ Avicenna disagreement is apart of life yet when I try to challenge your views you automatically go on the defensive and try to back track by saying I’m narrow minded? You’re a liar
because they watch too many TVs and are naive a fuck. they need to come to my hood for a day or two so they can find out how chaotic white women can be
The reason black women are not considered attractive is because they have high amounts of testosterone, which makes them look masculine. While black men, this favors them, because it makes them look masculine.
Still, black men are the race that most prefers women of their own race.
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You don’t even link where you got these statistics from..
And that also doesn’t even answer my fucking question. Black women are always denied our femininity because if white supremacies beauty standards denying us feminity. I don’t give a shit about looking feminine or masculine because those terms are created by a white supremacist patriarchal standard that oppressed women and people of color
You clearly said why is it when self hating black men are asked why they date black girls they have something self hatred to say about dating black women, so clearly it says you think all black men who date white girls are self hating & i also just read a comment of your claiming if anyone whose white actually likes black girls it's a fetish? Your ignorant choice to self isolate and self-segregate in 2022 is your your OWN choice. You're a HUMAN, get over it. Also Fresh and Fit are nerds and are only watched for entertainment purposes by most clearly they're huge losers and always have been, but are only right about somethings.
And no, I said that most white guys that date black girls have a fetish. This might sound ignorant but I believe this based on hearing other black womens experiences dating where men as well as this a few studies I’ve read on the topic. I can link you one if you’d like to view them ^
I believe it to some point, but that don't mean everyone has a fetish. That's like saying my dad had a fetish cause he's mexican and my moms black lol like that is the norm in California i can see it being a played on fetish in other states but that's not always the case. Some people see Humans as Humans. I just hate to see people feel they need to self segregate themselves over the negative views of the weirdos who live in weirdo states when it's 2022. Let the ignorant be ignorant and the smart forever have power on the dumb asses, at least you know in the future those men won't be in your dating pool, because you can't fix stupid.
I’m confused. You’re not getting what I’m saying, there’s nothing wrong with interracial marriage or dating. My issue is with racial preferences since racial preferences are based on stereotypes of people and in the case of black men putting black women down when they date white women that comes from a place of self hate
I think the exact same way for dark skin black men that hate dark skin black women and only date light skins, only difference is that specifically is rooted in colorism where as the latter is internalized self hate
If you’re white of course you wouldn’t be sure, because systemic racism doesn’t effect you. It benefits you and hurts racialized minorities. It has been for several years.
@onyxianghostslove She has no interest in talking to you professionally. This is a girl who complains about racism, yet has no issues being racist herself. Hypocrisy at its finest. Guess inferiority complex does that with you.
@TruthBringer She never actually contacted me So I would agree with you.
I am more than happy to discuss these topics, but I could see from her unwillingness to answer my first question.. She is less interested in discussion, and more interested in spreading hatred. Its likely I could provide her studies from the FBI, Pew, or other groups and she would ignore it. So I am afraid you are correct. likely not worth the effort.
not really because theyre self hating. more because theyre stereotypical and dont know how to word things better.
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It is possible for some people to not feel a strong physical attraction to their own race, and have a stronger attraction towards other races. They shouldn't put down their race though, that's what probably irritates people.
If you have vanilla and chocolate icecream and people ask you specifically why you are eating vanilla, expecting you to be eating chocolate, of course you're gonna compare them. I'm white though, so fuck if I know.
While I don't support the racialized generalization in those quotes (as what they mean to regard is certainly cultures, not a race/sex), they don't indicate they're self-hating at all.
Quite frankly, suggesting that a black man saying they don't like the quality of being ratchet, ghetto, or having attitude implies that is it "black" to be ratchet, ghetto, and have an attitude. Which, ironically, is racist to suggest. Certainly cultures may incline that behavior, but it is not "black" to be ghetto, ratchet, etc. There are plenty of black people who aren't.
As you said they are "Self-hating" so that would include anyone that looks like them (Black). It's their issue, you cannot fix it... Sad how society can get people so Twisted...
i dunno if its fetish more like preference for some, some might have fetish but then what is a fetish? like lets say a white guy likes white girls who are thin, is that a fetish? cos he prefers thin girls? i dont think its always a fetish but i guess ik what u mean
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