How do you keep things fresh after talking to someone every day?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this girl for awhile and I feel like I’ve gotten to know her pretty well but now I’m kind of board. she’s a great person but I feel like the excitement is gone. Does this happen to anyone else? How can I keep things fresh?

[Mr_twoface]

Keeping conversations fresh and engaging when talking to someone every day can be a challenge, but it's possible with some creativity and effort.

For instance, try new activities or hobbies together and discuss your experiences. This can provide fresh topics for conversation. Another example is Instead of asking yes-or-no questions, ask open-ended questions that invite more in-depth responses and discussions. Open up about your emotions, experiences, and opinions. Vulnerability can lead to meaningful conversations. Alternatively discuss recent news, movies, books, or events to keep your conversations topical and relevant. Recommend and discuss movies, TV shows, music, or articles that you've recently enjoyed. Perhaps discuss upcoming plans, trips, or goals, and share your excitement and ideas.

Keep in mind to show genuine interest in the other person's life and experiences. Ask about their day and inquire about their interests and goals. It's also okay to have days when you don't talk as much. It can create anticipation and make your conversations more meaningful when you do connect. Focus on the quality of your interactions rather than the frequency. Meaningful conversations can be more fulfilling than constant small talk.

Remember that it's natural for conversations to ebb and flow in any relationship. What's most important is maintaining a sense of connection, trust, and mutual respect as you continue to communicate regularly.

I communicated with my wife over a course of 7 months before we met physically. We went through 1000s of questions online and never seem to get bored of each other or have nothing to talk about. The last 3-4 months we talked like 4-5 hours daily and it seemed so fresh as the first day.

Best of luck to you!

[OlderAndWiser]

"Talking." Actually talking or texting? Messaging? Trading emails? Calling and having actual voice-to-voice conversations? Skyping/Facetiming? Meeting in person and having conversations?

[DizzyDesii]

We just get eachother for the most part so we always have something to talk about. And the chemistry is insane so we also turn one another on constantly even if by accident. Then we can give into one another or laugh it off. We enjoy playing pool together. He knows im passionate about film so we enjoy watching eachothers favorite movies and all. I like to hear about his day at work and the planes he's worked on. I love seeing the photos he’s taken since he's into photorgraphy. I don't know we’ve made it work this long. We’ve had mostly ups with about 1 good down/difficult discussion once a month. our honeymoon phase probably only lasted the first month. We’re about to enter month 6 now. I try to stay hopeful and optimistic though i already find myself not liking him (despite loving him) at times. I dont get bored easily and he does but he is also easily entertained. Find a way to entertain yourself dude or tell her what you need so that things keep working

[Asker]

Haha same same we turn each other on all the time too. I don’t even know where it comes from XD but i love it. All and all I really like her this is just a small thing we need to work through but thanks for all your input! I’m glad to hear your relationship is going well :)

[DizzyDesii]

Im wishing the best for yours as well :)

[Asker]

Thanks Desii!

[Katebfun]

Nice sounds fun and intellectually stimulating. I hope to meet another like this 😅

[bobalife]

Is it the chase of excitement or looking for an actual connection and stability? If you want a real connection, then you continue to build on it and make it fun for the both of you. Maybe also learning to appreciate each other and the daily communication/time.

[Asker]

It’s not really the excitement. we live pretty different lives and i enjoyed getting to know her even the things that are different but I want to feel more connected because we don’t have a ton in common. I always enjoy spending time with her. It’s just that recently I feel like we stopped learning about each other because we talk about the same things every day and I just feel like we are at a dead end

[bobalife]

That’s great some guys value that connection. Maybe you can tell her you wanna connect more and see what she says. And find more ways to build that connection. Maybe it’s like talking about songs, quotes, movies, etc.

[Asker]

That’s a good idea. I’ll ask her, thanks :)

[DreamLife7]

He talks to her everyday there's no mystery nor excitement in that. He's learned all he needs to know about her.

[bobalife]

Please ignore @dreamlife7 comment, a person decides on what they wanna do and he seemed open to communicating and exploring other ways to build connections. Best of luck, asker!

[DreamLife7]

She's alone and overweight don't listen to her

[bobalife]

Lol I pity you. Best of luck tryna be a mean girl 😌

[DreamLife7]

I pity you stop stuffing you face

[bobalife]

I enjoy that you care so much, hope someday you learn to be a good person.

[Asker]

Thanks bobalife I appreciate your words :)

[Asker]

@Dreamlife7 I want to know her. I talk to her everyday because we have built love together and what I crave most is to be so intimately close that we feel no separation. I want our hearts to be one. I can’t even desire another woman. Looks, newness, allure it all pales in comparison.

[CozyCoffin]

Try asking questions that encourage the other person to share more about themselves or their thoughts.
Share a personal story or experience that relates to the topic of conversation. This can help to create a deeper connection and encourage the other person to open up more.
Start something new together, like a new interest, hobby, or long term goal, like a trip. A new interest, such as chess or Scrabble or a hobby like bird watching or painting can bring up a lot of memories together and spark conversations. Take Scrabble for instance, come up with funny phrases from the words.

[Katebfun]

First off it's spelled *Bored. Don't be so available! That's the first rule in dating 🤣 keep some distance don't talk everyday. Have more fun Daye activities and do new things together. You both should have hobbies and or friends to go explore and have fun. Then you have fresh new things to talk about when you were apart. If this does not work maybe she's not intellectual challenging enough and you need to move on to another?

[HawkPerception]

It's all about doing different activities and being creative. Also having space is crucial. You should both enjoy your own hobbies and places of interest. Then when you talk about your day, there's stuff to catch up on that interests each other.

[Ms_Facesitter]

We just have the same outlook on things and interests so it doesn't really get old.

[Asker]

That’s nice, the more you have in common the better.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes! That way it's not really boring or stale ever :)

[Asker]

I think I found the issue. We normally have a grand time but it turns out we are both introverted and we over did it and needed some time to recharge :)

[love_conquers_lust]

You could spend some time away from her and learn how to spell “bored”.

You should learn to be comfortable with silence. You don’t always have to be filling the air with conversation.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/f1E2cYCcn64

[lightbulb27]

focus on enjoying what you can.

If you require excitement, then find ways to add that. maybe you need constant challenge.

the other option: Meditate... for the problem is in your head?

a change of scenery...

[Asker]

I do enjoy talking to her it’s just that we’ve spent so much time together I feel that we stopped learning about each other. We find ourselves going through the same patters and I wanna get keep away from the mundane so that we are always getting to know each other better. I know every day won’t be perfect but I just don’t want things to dry up.

[laly520]

its about the vibe

if to suitable then it will keep on being fresh

if vibe didn't pass then there is no use

[HappyWoman34]

Yes, apparently that’s what mature love involves. A deeper, more sensible, less lustful love.

[sheikalana]

I guess you were too invested too soon. Give each other some space and see if you miss each other.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Know how to have a conversation. Always have topics to discuss and have your intentions set on getting to know them

[rosemilk]

do you guys not go out and do fun things together in person? no fun dates? that's how you keep things good

[Truthatanycost]

It's possible when you have lots of interests but there is no need to talk every day.

[Zestyassmf1997]

You don’t. Get it out of your head that every day is gonna be fun and exciting.

[red324]

Exactly. The idea is to find someone that doesn't annoy the hell out of you, but you can't expect everyday to be a fairytale

[The_Canddyman]

Relationships change if you don't keep up with the change then your just asking to have a rotating door of partners because you can move on.

[Anonymous]

Have you seen her in person?

[DreamLife7]

Move on

[Asker]

I don’t wanna give up lol

[DreamLife7]

Talking to her everyday there's no mystery nor excitement in that. He's learned all he needs to know about her. Have you two even met?