Why is that when someone is nice to me I fall inlove with them?

Question

I never felt love. Like when I meet a guy online or irl and he is nice to me I tend to fall inlove. I imagine myself dating him. Like the what ifs

Todd9612 · Accepted Answer

Because you’ve never been treated the way lady should be, you’ve obviously never dated a good man. Also it’s human nature to be drawn to kindness, everyone likes being treated well.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

I’d probably self reflect to get the answer to your question. If you never felt love, then i suspect you grew up in a family which did not set that example for you

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Slow down and start being nice to yourself.

Altheavas · Answer

That’s not normal, is it because you never get any man being nice to you?
I am naturally polite, sweet, and docile, soft, but I’ve been mistreated so much because of my soft side, and now I’m mostly the total opposite of that.
I have traveled go to other places, I’ve always met some of the nicest, handsome men ever, the way we communicate in the plane, helping each other etc. At the airport, get random handsome helpers with luggages, some people even think we were married couples etc. Even anywhere, not just when traveling. At the end of our journeys there are some nice follow-ups, and I never gave them my number. I was sweet and polite cause I was treated with respect and care by a man who act as a gentlemen.
I surely wasn’t in love 🫤 .
Are you sure you actually think you’re in love? Maybe you should interact with men, and narrow what would want in a men, so you play pass or smash in your head lol! 😂😂

Some men understand that every soft interaction is flirting and I laugh, and let them think of it however they wish, I’m too specific with what I want.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Well this a better problem than the opposite. Most young women admit to falling in love with asshole guys. At least you are responding appropriately to how you are being treated. Which in itself is a good thing.

The only dangers with this are 1) a guy could play you by being disingenuously nice. 2). a guy might not express bad things you need to hear despite not wanting to hear.

But again this isn’t a bad thing overall. There are plenty of genuine nice guys out there who will be truly nice and appreciative of you.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Some people fall in love easily. Some people might claim it's not real love, that it's an infatuation. I don't know if I agree. Maybe it is, maybe it's not. But I do know they feel much the same. Time will tell.

Are you lonely? Is there maybe a hole to fill, even if you don't think there is? Are you just looking for someone to fill that hole?

Are you only seeing one part of these people, then filling in the blanks for the rest?

Are you looking for someone to give yourself to? To give your all?

If the answers are yes, I think it just means you are normal.

Valdemort · Answer

So relatable.
Even though I automatically don't allow myself to actually fall in love, I almost instantly feel attracted to someone who is nice and want to date them.
Whatever it is, it feels very unpleasant. Let me know if you ever find an answer hah.

Arush9 · Answer

May be because u have no one who makes u feel special everyday or ur not surrounded with peoples who behave nice with u. So someone behaves good with u. U think like to fall in ther love. So that u will get treated nice daily in same way by that person.

Unit1 · Answer

I know what you mean. I had this feeling too when girls were nice to me.

Don't let others tell you " that's not normal " like what? Catching feelings from nice persons IS NOT NORMAL? then what is the new normal? Catching feelings from being mistreated or ignored or what? What have people degraded themselves into?

KillinItHard · Answer

That's called infatuation and/desperation. You need to learn to take a couple steps back before you smother the hell out of the people who are nice to you. Learn to breathe and just accept kindness without thinking every little thing has to mean something. I tell you... if I open the door for you and see you humping my leg, I'm spraying you with a water bottle, that's for damn sure.

SunnyRS · Answer

First of all It's not wrong to get attracted towards nice guys.
But I think in your case this is because you maybe single right now and want to be in a relationship, but you are not feeling confident enough to talk approach anyone, so you should start liking them in your mind and create these what ifs scenarios.
I think you are not in love with these people you just want to be in love.

2_beHappy · Answer

It happens to me a lot too😅I guess it s something normal, everybody likes when somebody is nice to them. Although you should be careful , some people act like that just to gain some benefits, or whatever.

rigmarole · Answer

I suppose you want to be treated well. That's a pretty common standard... It takes quite a bit more than that to fall in love over time, but respect and good chemistry is a good starting point.

Nik1hil · Answer

🤣It's Cute and normal😂🤣

It's actually good, you don't fall or Chase toxic Guys..

It means you are hopeless Romantic..

I suffer from same condition. It will take time, you will grow out of it...

serious · Answer

It could be that you are a very open minded person and you like people a chance or you are very emotional and you see the good in people very soon. I suppose only you will know better.

Amara_09 · Answer

You like people with nice qualities, that’s why you fall for it. It’s what you cannot resist……I hope you find someone with such qualities

catiecatie · Answer

I agree to this. Certain guys there is a turn off but then again there are others that I can see the what ifs. It’s a catch 180.

boggboss · Answer

Because u have never felt love and attach to the first thing u feel is a act of kindness because it can be seen as love I would guess

jshm2 · Answer

You mean you get infatuated, not "fall in love". You are the epitome of the crazy clingy ex-girlfriend, it seems.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Sounds to me like you just love the idea of them real love doesn’t work like what your describing nor does it happen that often as quickly.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't know, but I wish women would stop mistaking being nice for interest. I'm nice to everyone who has not given me reason not to be.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Its not just being nice, its how unique they treat me from others and show attention

jahaims · Answer

You lacked love so you don't have a healthy relationship for it now. You cope for the lack of love by falling in love easy. Which isn't actually love. Just lust and infatuation.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You have to be careful being that way, people will take advantage of you for that.

sheikalana · Answer

That's not falling in love. That's not what love is. It takes time to Love someone.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You have unrealistic expectations or no sort of boundaries on yourself to where you just fall for anything

91bryce91 · Answer

well that means you're safe from me.
Pretty sure I've never been nice.
If i like a young lady i try to slap her across the face with my dick as soon as possible.
So she understands the situation
Maybe im old fashioned that way

Likes2drive · Answer

I get like that too when a woman likes me like that then I feel like that too because it’s so rare

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

You become infatuated with the person. It doesn’t sound like love and it’s most likely from abandonment issues.

ienjoylookingatgreen · Answer

You're allowing yourself to be in a relationship simple as that

litty736 · Answer

That is because you see being nice as a form of love.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I’m the EXACT same way. When I’m talking to a girl and she gives me some sort of attention I tend to fall for them.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's not love

Sonorous · Answer

Because you're human.

laly520 · Answer

thats u being desperate

DreamLife7 · Answer

Bc you are unattractive with low self esteem

Squatting_Slav · Answer

You need to start loving yourself

Anonymous · Answer

You are desperate for some love

Guido · Answer

That is the lust infatuation phase.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you're a woman.

Anonymous · Answer

Even if he's ugly?

Anonymous · Answer

That seems natural to me.

jimmy2 · Answer

Ohhh bless you

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