Would you date a widow who has 3 children?

Question

No fault of their own. Their partner died and wants to be loved just like anyone else.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

I almost did long ago in the case of a widow of two. The only problem is that I didn't really like the mother that way, I just loved her kids.

They were biracial white/Japanese mix like me. The mother was Japanese but her husband was American and died fighting in Afghanistan.

First time I met them, the mother brought them to a bar and I scooted far into a corner to avoid being a bad influence to them drinking with my buds. But the kids somehow singled me out among my friends and kept talking to me, then later wanted me to hold them, then I'm giving them both piggyback rides. After that we went to Karaoke so I bought a Spiderman outfit at a costume store and wore that and sang Spiderman songs to the kids: "Ladies and gentleman, please put your hands together for... Spiderman! Spiderman, spiderman, does whatever a spider can!"

Anyway, I really fell in love with the kids. But the mother and I were completely different characters and not very compatible that way even though the boy even asked me to start dating his mother. She started to drop them off at my place though to babysit them when she went on dates.

She's now married to a very good guy. They're teenagers now -- grew up so quickly.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Personally I would. But I can’t blame someone who wouldn’t. Some people aren’t ready to have kids or whatever the reason is. Doesn’t mean they judge someone for their situation, it means they don’t see them as compatible. As long as someone is honest in a nice way. We all are looking for what we want and need.

If someone is rejected. It’s really not as personal as a lot of people think it is.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Maybe if the children were on their own because it's hard taking over the care of children whether it's your own or not. That father needs governement and family help (both from his side as well as his wife's side), not be dating. I guess it would also depend on how long it's been since his wife died. But I honestly at this point in my life, I don't know if I'd be ready to be a step mom. I can't even get my finances together at the moment. He needs grief and family counseling with his kids. He needs to spend time LOVING and being their for his kids. He shouldn't be dating right now, especially if the loss was still fresh.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Would you?
I would date a guy with three children if he can handle those children without much of my participation. Of course I could play occasionally the sunshine mother for them if I had whim for that but I wouldn't sacrifice my energy for children which aren't mine.
I think single parent with average income, who is incapable to hire professional 24x7 help, can't handle three kids without lot of support from family and possible partners.

Avicenna · Answer

Assuming these aren't grown children who are financially independent, hell no.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nah I kinda tweaked my preferences and changed my mind, before I saw nothing wrong with it but personally I no longer believe thats functional for me, it's not just cause the kids aren't mine cause it's life and they are precious for that reason but Id feel some type of way about my woman leaving me behind with the life accomplishments, having all these life experiences and I haven't even started a actual life yet, I know it would be something weighing on me and knowing That, I might as well not start a relationship knowing that.

steveusna · Answer

Widow, yes. Divorcee, never. However, as offensive as it might sound, I think any woman with three children who wants a man to marry her must give the man a sizable dowry. I am thinking a home without a mortgage. Something of substantial monetary value.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

If the children are already adults and moved out, then yes I could date her. Otherwise no; I can't see a match. I just prefer not to have children, and I especially do not want kids around every day who aren't my own.

Ofcourse the above would only be valid if I was single myself; I am happily married, so I am currently not dating at all (except with my wife).

Anonymous · Answer

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Likes2drive · Answer

Depends on their age but I did marry her with 2 boys already way back when they were young, surprised I did that but she treated me well. I’m divorced now but we also had 3 more girls before that. Most times you want to have your own children with them also if you do get involved

HighValue · Answer

I wouldn't want to date a widow, regardless of the kids. I am Christian and believe in an after life eventually and in my opinion that would mean they would eventually have to choose one partner or the other and I don't like that idea.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I didn't answer because my answer is "depends on their ages" Talking about 17-year-old triplets? Sure. Talking about 2-4-6 year olds? Hard pass.

IAMRIA · Answer

This seriously depends on my age. I’m 27. Right now I would absolutely not. Not even a man with a single child. But if I have kids and I’m older then yeah

NobodyXox · Answer

Depends on my age I think. Right now, no, I'm not ready for kids and I do not enjoy young kids. But when I'm for example 40 and their kids are a little older I wouldn't mind it.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Not a problem if kids would accept me as their father's partner.

HawkPerception · Answer

I would not. Even if I was 40 plus and without kids of my own, I'd rather not raise another man's kids. Just my preference. I might just die alone 😂

LiamJHayden · Answer

Possibly. Is she self-sufficient? How old are the children? Are they well-behaved.

Bricealan · Answer

If I liked her, I would date a woman with 10 children, Coach.

Paris13 · Answer

C.. Maybe. Depending On How Well I May Like Him? xxoo

CozyCoffin · Answer

Hell yeah. I'll take on the challenge as long as she's got time for me, we can communicate, and she's still interested in making more.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Although I'm not completely thrilled with the instant daddy thing, as long as she was nice, I'd still go for it.

Berethor · Answer

Not her fault, but also not my fault, but she in better place than other single moms.

aceleon · Answer

nope, iam not dating at all let alone a fucked one and let alone that has 3 kids

only possible scenario is she has 3 daughters that is near my age range and i can be with them too while they are only mine.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Maybe in the future but ATM I think I can find someone with no children that's reasonably attractive.

ritxi · Answer

Yes, especially if I get on with the children.

DJB72 · Answer

Why not? If her husband died of natural causes or anything except her killing him then definitely.

exitseven · Answer

I can sympathise but I have no desire to raise somebody else;s kids.

magiusX26 · Answer

sorry but i would want any children to biologically my own.

MrMore1 · Answer

It depends on how compatible we are. If she has qualities that most women lack then YES.

Wiredone · Answer

At my age, no I wouldn't. I raised my 2 kids.

Pohjolan · Answer

Possibly but she would have to be top tier otherwise.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

Probably not, because I have my own kids and don't feel comfortable taking any more on

Anonymous · Answer

That widow can keep loving her children and not look love for another romance

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course, I would.

sean1234 · Answer

Yes, it's not against what is said in the bible.

DaGhostuwany · Answer

I would do anything for a chance beautiful hit me up if u want a true friend / partner/ whatever u truly desire

Anonymous · Answer

If she was a widower I would. Otherwise not likely.

msc545 · Answer

I might. I love kids!

LazerBean · Answer

I might if I were also a widow.

californianjoe · Answer

of course no

azgınteke · Answer

yes of course

jahaims · Answer

Nope

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