Is there a stage in every young man’s life when they fall for an older woman?

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Just read about a mother of a 19 yo asking an advice for her son living with 51 yo woman.  And I feel like every man has that stage when they are into older women.  Is that so?

Mr_twoface · Accepted Answer

I believe the influence of social media and free internet adult content has made a lot of boys/men fall for older women, that including myself. I don't think necessarily most wish to end up dating elderly women or wanting longer relationship, its more about experiencing older women in bed. Many believe the older, the more experience, which I did also when I was younger.

I used to "fall" for older mature women in periods but never ended up wanting to have relationship with anyone. It was just the pure lust of sexiness in combination of how they went about themselves and how adult and mature they were that made me fall for them.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Not for me. I can think of only one situation when I was 16 where a young wife across the street became widowed when her husband died climbing El Capitan. She was about 30, petite, and having a backyard swimming pool, spent a lot of time in bikinis on the weekend. Whatever attraction I felt was really just a combination of general teenage horniness and her close proximity.

I've always dated younger women and I don't see why that would ever change. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that less than 20% of men have dated an older woman (dated, not just a random one night stand).

lolilola · Accepted Answer

In some cases, men who go for older women wants her for the "maturity" to avoid "drama/fights" incase she caught him cheating (he wants the freedom to cheat and be forgiven), and maybe she knows he's cheating but she won't even bother cause she's too old to look for another guy and just turns a blind eye. Also, she may be his sugar mama and he loves the feeling of having a 2nd mummy. Just my observation.

laly520 · Accepted Answer

from what I seen its mostly teen boys then they grow out of it

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I definitely had my phase but it was mostly during childhood. I was the type crushing on my teachers who were often in their 20s or 30s even though I might only be 9 years old.

They just seemed so much smarter and far more sophisticated than girls my age back then as well as more physically developed.

Once I started to reach university though, I started to find some classmates my own age that I liked really well. Then by mid-20s or so, I just started to like women my own age.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that's true of all young men, or even many. For me it sort of happened when I was 16 and had a sexual fling with a married 30-something neighbor. But I can't say I was necessarilly attracted to her before she basically asked me to have sex with her, lol. I did have feelings for her for a while but I grew out of that.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn’t “fall” for older woman. But in my early 20s there was a time I had so little patience for young female dingbat personalities that I felt a lot more comfortable interacting with older woman. I was more serious and mature than most guys in their early 20s at that time. I also didn’t understand “the game”. I did however figure that out in my late 20s. But that’s a different thread.

Anyway they say women mature faster than men. That’s definitely true for teenagers. The average 16 year old girl is way beyond the average 16 year old boy when it comes to emotional intelligence.

But I dunno about that for young guys vs girls in their early 20s. It seems that some young women discover the full power of their sexuality in their early 20s and abuse it for lots of short term gains and thrills. Mature young men in their 20s get fed up with that real quick.

RingOfFire · Answer

Could be. When I was in my early 20s I dated and fell in love with a 42 year old woman. When I met her I thought she was much younger though. She looked it. She told me she had two kids.

She invited me to her apartment. When I was there I was looking around for signs of kids... toys and so forth. It took a while for her to tell me that her daughter was 19 and her son was 21 ! I couldn't believe it! We dated for a year or two and remained friends for many years after until I met a girl that didn't want me to have contact with her anymore so we said goodbye.

By the time I was in my late 20s and after I only wanted to date younger girls and at 29 my girlfriend was 19.

molonski2 · Answer

I think in this instance , and I saw this with one of my friends ( good looking guy ) he always used these older women as a mother , mind you he was NEVER faithful , coz he didn't care if she left. his father did the same thing ( with my mother funnily enough ) you can probably guess his knickname? ( Rude )

These find of people don't want to take responsibility , so they palm it onto Mum , who makes herself look extremely stupid in this situation.

ArcticMonarch · Answer

Well I like this woman who is 10 years older. I like her caring aspect she has, life experience that makes her wiser, lets me feel comfortable to be vulnerable around her.

Maybe it’s because most woman around my age are not mature and I fear if I get in a committed relationship it would be a bad investment, life is hard while young and I fear relationships will end rather grow together while young.

now back to this girl, if she was my age yeah I’d have no chance with her when she was 21. So it’s also weird how life has us meet now when the time is right. And I love that, plus if we become serious I’ll still be young enough to be the dad I want for my children.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel like older women are more appealing because they don’t bring the bullshit that younger women in this day and age bring. Some do, but most actually care about a man and his needs and want to take care of them. Younger women are usually looking out for themselves, get caught up in the feminist bullshit wave and will do what they can for that. It’s sad. There is more appeal to older women. Maybe not 51 but older than me.

Lonelydudewantsagirl · Answer

Older women are more open minded and don’t care for all the little baggage like shallow millennial and gen z women do. I briefly entered a long distance relationship with a woman 13 years older than me.

Berethor · Answer

Never been into women who had hit the wall, especially not in real life so I would say no.

DJB72 · Answer

That's an extreme situation, but it happens.

My first crushes were all celebrities in their 20s when I was in my early teens. Most guys gro out of it by 20 but there's always a few for cougars to chew on

RandomUser1000 · Answer

I think most guys at some point been attracted to someone older then themself. But not necessarily by over 30 year age difference and attraction doesn't necessarily need to dating or relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I was into older women throughout my teenage and early 20s , I even made out with the mom of a female classmate in high school

The idea that single women in their late 30s or early 40s didn't have a chance to have good sex and intimacy for years or even decades and their reaction when the young hot man gives them what they crave for is mesmerizing... Like an extremely thirsty cute cat getting cold milk

Fireguy17 · Answer

not saying that I fell in love but yes there were many older women that I was attracted to, and they knew stuff, and weren't afraid to ask for it, or knew what to do.
all a plus when you are young and dumb.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not every guy and 19 to 51 is nuts. I wouldn't mind getting with a 45 year old if she was everything I wanted in a girl, but a 32 year difference is nuts.

AmeerX · Answer

Honestly that's too extreme but I will let you know that I am praised by older women quite a lot. They always say they would have married their daughters with me. I don't know what to make of this 😅.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I know I’ve fantasized about older women before. But that’s more carnal. As far as committing to a relationship with an older woman, I can’t really comment having never been in one.

NathanDavis · Answer

I didn't fall in love... but I've definitely been into older women

Massageman · Answer

Yup. I had this teacher in third grade, tall, willowy, looked just like Bess Myerson (50's Miss America).

Anonymous · Answer

I've only dated older women and will stick with it because they are less likely to be liberal and understand life I've only dated women a few years older by do flirt with women sometimes double my age

Anonymous · Answer

I think that only happens when guys are young, like 16 - 19, when older girls seem more mature and interesting. Once we pass that age it's more about girls our own age, and then younger once we pass maybe 25 or so.

OtterMan68 · Answer

Yes. Didn't you watch  American Pie ?

magiusX26 · Answer

every guy, no. some guys get into that but not all of us.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My stage started when I was 14 and has not ended yet.

Anonymous · Answer

Older? Sure. But like a girl in her 30s maybe when you're in your 20s. 51? No. That rarely even happens when the dude is in his 50s.

FenixG45 · Answer

No idea, but I dated a woman 5 years older than me.

msc545 · Answer

Maybe a little

TenderFantasy · Answer

Maybe if he had mommy issues.

Lynx122 · Answer

Nah never happened for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Same as girls attract to older man

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Yes. It starts with your mother.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

dudeinohio · Answer

Not me

loveslongnails · Answer

I believe so.

eagle1951 · Answer

nope

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