Is this clingy behaviour or normal for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Background info:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months. During Christmas break we were able to see each other a lot more and I didn't have university to go to either so I had my down time after seeing him. Now that my schedules back to normal, I'm busier than ever, I have barely any free time and it all ends up being dates with him. I like him a lot but I was my own person before our relationship, an introvert. I need time by myself.

Problem: The other day he met with me after uni, bearing in mind I'd had 8 hours there already. He was supposed to catch the bus with me and then get off at his stop but he told me he'd walk me home and I didn't mind. But instead he suggested while he was there that he come inside, "why not spend a few hours since I'm here and not working tomorrow". I told him I wasn't sure, that it wasn't the plan. But he insisted until I really told him I didn't want him to. I just needed to charge my social battery after uni.

We have planned to meet for drinks tomorrow night and then spend a few hours at mine, it will probably end up being 6 hours. I feel ill tonight, it's been a long week and I have a assessment to prep for. He said he didn't mins just sitting and cuddling with me. We spend nearly 6 hours with each other or more every date. We have a whole Valentine's day planned. Can he not take a hint or is this what it should be like?

TDLR: He wants to spend 6+ hours together every time we meet up. I'm introverted and have a low social battery and am incredibly busy university recently. I told him this but he can't seem to take a hint. Is this what a relationship in the early stages are like or can't he take a hint?

[Jessica405]

University and boyfriends don't really mix. It is exhausting work, and the further you go, the harder it gets. Your guy obviously just does not appreciate how a uni works if you want to succeed

[Asker]

That is true, it's getting harder to maintain a good work ethic and relationship. I just don't know how to explain it to him. In the past when people have told me they were too busy for dates constantly I told them that maybe they were too busy for a relationship.

[Jessica405]

I spent all my time at school and 4 years at uni without a single date. Met my guy at the start of the 5th year. We were both post grad research students, doing similar work. So we both knew work came first.

[Truthatanycost]

It's possible he just does not have a life or know his life purpose. I am not at university and I barely have time for a 20 minute talk on the phone. But I know my lie purpose and spent a lot of time working on that. You mentioned him wanting to spend 6 hours with you each time you met. I couldn't even spend more than 20 minutes ha.

[madpete1111]

It wasn't the plan... You don't have a boyfriend. You are friends with a guy but not dating and you know it. You don't want to date him and he knows it but he's a friend and human and wanted a minute to chill before going all the way back home. You are too self involved to understand this

[Asker]

Very dramatic 😂, he is my boyfriend, I love spending time with him. He didn't want a minute to chill, he suggested spending several hours because he "didn't need to get home til 11pm for work". As much as I appreciate a range of opinions you seem like your speculating to extremes, like maybe your a little irritated even. You should work on that.

[Lara_Croft]

Do you say it in a 'do you think we should spend less time?' tone or more just as sternly as you wrote that message? Tonality and honest open communication matter- the opposite of that is what breaks marriages and relationships. God bless you!