Is third date the "universal" making out or sex date for guys on the social timeline?
I'm asking about this because I've read that someone had sex with a guy on third date. My ex initiated and we made out on third date as well (but no sex: no penetrative sex, no oral sex, etc.)
On my third date with a guy recently, at one point he kissed me intensely. I told him that I don't sleep with a guy until I'm in a relationship with him (even though I would sleep with him if he had expressed willingness to commit in a monogamous & long-term relationship, but I'm not in a hurry to jump into a relationship so whenever we're both ready). He said he wasn't asking me to sleep with him.
So, what's with third dates, guys? 🤷🏻♀️
I'm asking about this because I've read that someone had sex with a guy on third date. My ex initiated and we made out on third date as well (but no sex: no penetrative sex, no oral sex, etc.)
On my third date with a guy recently, at one point he kissed me intensely. I told him that I don't sleep with a guy until I'm in a relationship with him (even though I would sleep with him if he had expressed willingness to commit in a monogamous & long-term relationship, but I'm not in a hurry to jump into a relationship so whenever we're both ready). He said he wasn't asking me to sleep with him.
So, what's with third dates, guys? 🤷🏻♀️
What Guys Said
The "third date rule" originated in major cities among very active 20-something daters - the kind who are out almost every night either at a local bar or club or hanging out at someone's house. These people often have 20 partners a year.
The third date rule acknowledges that both people want sex ASAP but also want to protect their (mostly her) reputation. The Rule requires that he wait a little while to protect her reputation but not so long that he will give up and move on.
But this really only ever applied to those very active urban daters, and even then, only those who chose to participate.
But the Rule found it's way into movies and TV shows, so people outside those circles know about it and some have adopted it - mostly the minority who actively date.
You are not obligated to adopt this rule. Instead, set whatever reasonable boundaries you want at the beginning of any relationship so that the guy knows what your expectations are, so he can decide to accept them or move on. That's the adult thing to do.
Yes, I know that I don't need to follow that "third date rule." I was just asking if there is such a thing, but it seems that there is.
I told this guy that I was not sleeping with a guy until I'm in a relationship with him, and he said that he wasn't asking me to sleep with him. We did enjoy a nice kissing time.