Almost 3 years ago, I dated this one lady for almost 2 months. It went well, and I thought at the time I was gonna be with her for a while. She then ends that with me, saying she didn't feel the magic or the pull. We have remained friends and dated other people since then, although with me, she's the last person I have gone on more than 1 date with. She's had more success than I have, but she also dated some pretty bad guys. Fast forward to a few weeks ago, during that time, I thought I was over her, and I thought about it a lot one night, and I realized I still thought a lot about when I dated her, where I could've done better, and even when I was about to date some other lady, I'd think to myself, "She had her chance." Since I constantly thought that, it made me realize that I'm not entirely over her. I wanted to be, but at the same time, I felt like we had something really good going then. Before anyone comments saying, "Dude, move on", I don't think it's that easy for me. I tried dating other people and moving on. I got ghosted by 2 women, had a huge disagreement/misunderstanding (long story) with another one, and a few others that it just didn't click, either on my end or theirs. I haven't had that same great feeling since this woman. I trust her completely, and I knew that even if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't judge me. I was right about that part after telling her. She says maybe, and might be open to trying it again, but it was after she had a nasty breakup. I wasn't trying to rebound, it was just bad timing. She knew all about this, and went on another date yesterday, she got ghosted right afterwards. I am in belief that means she doesn't want to date me again. I didn't directly say it like that to her, but, in her words, "I'm not completely not wanting something to happen with you, but it's not the same fire magic I've had with some people (most of which were no good)." More details below as I'm almost out of room here.
Man, this is a tough situation. On one hand, I can understand still having feelings after all this time, since you really connected with this girl. But some of the signs do make it seem like she may not be into trying again.
A few things that stand out to me - her saying she didn't feel the "magic" when you dated before is usually a good sign it won't work out. And now saying it's not the same fire connection with you. Plus the fact she's still actively dating others.
At the same time though, she hasn't totally shut the door either by saying "maybe." And maybe the timing is just off since she's still recovering from that last bad breakup.
My advice would be to try distancing yourself emotionally for now. Focus on your own life and other women. But also keep an open line of casual communication with her. See how things play out over the next few months - if she starts coming around more or brings up trying again, great. But don't wait around or obsess over it either.
Sometimes people realize what they had after it's gone. But protect your heart too, you know? Stay positive either way man, you'll find someone to have that magic with! Just may not be her in the end.
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she just isn't that into you, time to move on.
Be the dumper and move on.
u aren’t man enough to propose her and claim her u are a wuss obviously she doesn’t want u
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