Why do some guys avoid certain women after entering a serious relationship?

[Anonymous]

He knows that I like him and he used to like me too but we never dated. Now that he found himself a girlfriend whenever I look at him he looks away on purpose and seems tense and uncomfortable. He also unfollowed some of his former crushes he used to admire for years on instagram. Why does he do this? Does he only do it for his girlfriend? Or does he do it to avoid temptation? Or is it the opposite and he is completely over them?

He is over you/He doesn't want to lead you on

He wants to avoid temptation/drama because he still likes you

Both

Other

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2 mo

Just noticed that the first two options contradict each other, sorry for that :D

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Probably out of respect for his partner with the Western mindset that men and women can't be friends.

We don't do this here in Japan though or believe in such a thing. For example, when I got a girlfriend and I had a close female friend, I introduced the two of them to each other. Then they usually become friends and we all hang out. If my female friend has a boyfriend, she introduces him and we all hang out.

I think the reason Western people have problems with this is that they keep "private friends" that they don't share with their partners. That can become awkward and disrespectful to an SO. Yet we don't do this in Japan. We share our friends with our SOs and that prevents things from being disrespectful or awkward.

[boggboss]

I think the bigger thing here is nit the just being friendly but it being a girl that he liked and he knows has a crush on him I do think the western idea of genders not being friends is silly tho

[Asker]

he was into me a month ago and staring but all of a sudden stopped. do you think he just lost interest in me?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@boggboss Oh I see! I thought maybe now that he has a girlfriend that things would have changed.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

@Asker I am not sure. I assumed that since he knows you like him, he wanted to keep a distance out of respect for his new girl.

[boggboss]

Its impossible to know why he is doing it my best guess wpuld be yo respect his partner

[Asker]

yes of course but is it more likely he still likes the girl or that he is over her? I mean instead of avoiding you could also act normally with other women

[boggboss]

Impossible to answer why he is doing it without knowing him would u be happy if u got a boyfriend that was still talking to a girl that likes him and he had a crush on her

[Asker]

Not talking. But looking away on purpose is kinda weird

[boggboss]

How is it weird he is ensuring u know where he stands and showing no intrest in you I think u are taking it personal because u like him but he is doing nothing wrong here

[Asker]

that is super weird and in a professional context very rude.

[boggboss]

Why are u pretending it has anything to do with being g professional when u only care because u like him all he is doing is being respectful to his partner why are u effected by him not looking at you

[laly520]

my boyfriend avoiding all women n only keeping the professional ones which is very limited
I can't talk about all guys but I can talk about one of em
according to him he thinks he doesn't need or want any other woman around him

[Asker]

this is interesting because in my case the same guy kept staring at me a month ago

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean.