How do I know the difference between he‘s into me and he just wants to nail me?

[spacystacy]

• First date he picked me up and drove me home in his car - Pro
• We spent 7hrs talking & laughing nonstop - Pro
• he didn‘t try to force a kiss or anything like that but said he‘d like us to consider that first date as a date- kinda pro?
• We chat daily and he always texts me good night and good morning - Pro
• We got another date planned - pro

CON - we talk on Snapchat and during that first date I‘ve seen him getting snaps from two other girls, one of which I know is a very good friend of his but still. A friend also texted him on Snap comfortably talking about how he wants to „just“ nail one girl. BUT my guy let me watch the whole convo and everything he wrote to that friend.

but generally speaking - what are warning signs to watch out for?

Updates

2 mo

Ohh, another pro: he brought me my favorite coffee to work even though I told him he didn‘t have to

[sawno]

There is not necessarily a difference between those two, so ill change to "Serious about committing to me" to better answer your question.

I'd say that looking for warning signs isn't the right approach, he may be good at hiding them or you may otherwise see to many things as a warning sign and turn him off.

So what should you do? Find out what kind of person he truly is. Is he obsessed with sex? Is he trying to win you over by catering to what you think? My ex tested on me by showing me something she knew I wouldn't like and asking my honest opinion. It was an obvious test that revealed she was in to me since I knew every trick she was pulling, but simultaneously I still answered honestly and with integrity. She loved that and it was a sign for her I was the right kind of serious guy.

And its those "Green flags" that I would dig for, not trying to find out reg flags but give him opportunities to be honest. See if he is an honest man, and if he is ask him what his intentions are. If he is dishonest then you can't trust he will never use you for more than sex.

[Billlewis]

You may not know for a while, so you'll have to decide if you're going to let him nail you.

[Crimsyjo]

Of course he wants to nail you. It would just be friendship and nothing more otherwise. The key is not what he wants but what you want. If you want more then don't let him nail you. The longer you hold out the more he will get to know you and like you more than just a girl to have sex with. Or, if that is his main intention, he won't be able to keep up the fascade to win you over very long and he will disappear. Which might suck but you will have ur integrity and not feel used. So, hold out for like at least a month I'd say!

[spacystacy]

Thanks, that’s actually a very good advice! I‘ll see how he deals with a month of not getting the „cookie“.

[laly520]

seems like he is into both
but its up to u in the end whether u will let him nail u or not

[Anonymous]

He wants both.

[sandstorm07]

He wants both is what I feel