How many kids does a single parent need to have for you to NOT be interested in dating them?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I prefer a person without kids. but if you meet someone and you start to like them you can THEN consider being with someone with kids regardless of how many but other factors like if there's a dangerous situation with the ex etc. I love kids and I hate people who get into relationships and mistreat the kids because they are not theirs, or mistreat their OWN kids because of someone they are dating. I hate those types of people.

if you have kids and want to date people YOUR kids come first ALWAYS.
if you're a person dating a person with kids, you should accept the children if you want to really be with that person and not treat those kids wrong in any way.

XXblack88 · Accepted Answer

4+ would they have time for us if they are caring for that many kids. I definitely think a parent of that many kids needs to focus on their kids and not a partner.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

What would cause me to lose interest is not the number of kids (unless it is 5+.) I woud be interested in the age of the children, whether any were special needs children, the involvement of their father, whether the parents are adequately supporting the kids or mom needs another guy to rescue her, and whether there was any history of drama between the parents.

Paul09 · Accepted Answer

Any kids is my no go. But maybe, just maybe I'd go for a 1 kid single woman. If she's super interesting and attractive, I have to try and see where it goes. But 2, for sure no.

Avicenna · Answer

Being a single parent is an automatic disqualifier, unless her kids are adults and supporting themselves.

madewithingredients · Answer

For a single parent all it takes is one kid to make me lose interest, sorry. However, for a parent who isn't single? No number of kids would cause me to lose interest.

A single parent would make me think they are looking for a father for their children. A parent who isn't single would make me think they are in a dead-end, loveless, possibly emotionally abusive marriage and they can't get out. And if I found them attractive, I would hit that. And by hit that I mean do it with them but also like, I would feel for them and would be open to an illicit relationship.

Crimsyjo · Answer

At my age and with kids who are teens I'm happy if a guy also has similar or older aged kiss. Cos then we on same level and looking to have something special as a couple (no need to parent eachothers kids). And in fact I would find it difficult now to date a guy without at least one kid of his own as I don't want more kids and I wouldn't want to take the opportunity away from him. So if he already has then that is good. Young kids are a bit harder. Tho not impossible. My new boyfriend has a 3 year old. Which is a little tough to get my head round. But will see what happens. Its prob easier that he has the younger kid rather than me. Cos dad's tend to be more free than a woman despite having a kid with an ex. It's sad but true.

Anonymous · Answer

Largely depends on the mother. I dated a single mother one time. She was plenty hot but she really had very little time to date, sex etc normal couple stuff because all her time was eaten up by her kids. And kids don't want no step daddy, they want their father which is even more crappy for them if you were the other guy their mummy was cheating with and why they don't see their daddy half the time.

Blitterflicker · Answer

I meant to say 1 kid but I tapped no amount of kids would make me lose interest..
I like the idea of starting a family with someone together, at this stage I am not interested in dating anyone who is already a parent or being a parent to anyone else’s kids but my own

Berethor · Answer

One is enough, I don't want to raise another man's child, I don't want date a single mom.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Although I'm not thrilled at the prospect of becoming an instant daddy, I don't know that I'd care how many she's got, as long as she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and have more kids with me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I have 2 young kids. If I were ever single I'd date a single mum. Not sure how many kids. Anything more than 3 probably needs thinking about

PeachyPie93 · Answer

1 or 2 is fine but 3 seems a bit too much. Since I would also like to have kids.

JHAYES317 · Answer

right now, them having any kids is a dealbreaker since I’m interested in relationships not hookups. Once I’m 45+ though it won’t matter as long as I’m not responsible for them.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Depends on how many fathers there are and the circumstances of her being a single mom. Age of the woman and the children matter too. It’s not a simple matter of just a number.

art84 · Answer

3 kids or more would make me not interested in them.

Anonymous · Answer

More than two, especially if it's with different men.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Be more interested in how many fathers there were. More of a birth control issue.

LiamJHayden · Answer

The ages/behavior of the kids can be more important than how many, especially if the kids are grown.

Nikki1989 · Answer

He can have 10 kids for all I care.

CVNT5 · Answer

especially if the kid is African American and the mom is white. then you have a roastie in your hands.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

It would only take 1

Dongie · Answer

The truth shall set us free. Love conquers all. 💖

Anonymous · Answer

1. i don't date people with kids.

Anonymous · Answer

If u truly like or live the person the this doesn't matter

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

One lol

electromagnetic · Answer

3. But if he also had 3 baby mamas 😬

Anonymous · Answer

1 would do the job.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Any number of kids

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Any at all.

handsomelad70 · Answer

One !!!

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