True or False: Men fall in love with what they see... women fall in love with what they hear... which is why women wear make up and men lie?

[coachTanthony]

Yes true

No false

[BigODonor]

Men use love to get sex and women use sex to get love.

Whether it's witty conversation, a macho display of muscles and bravado, or just asking enough women to fuck and finding the low hanging fruit, most males can find a woman to have sex with whenever they want.

Guys that are "players" learn what to say to women to get them into bed, have their fun with them, and then dump them when the woman gets too clingy or when a new hottie / target has caught their eye and they want to move on. An average looking guy with good game can score a lot of chicks just by picking out the vulnerable ones and working them with words.

Most females are basically stupid in most regards when it comes to procreation. They are genetically programmed to mate with as many partners as they can to enhance the odds of getting knocked up by different DNA donors, just as males are genetically programmed to "spread their seed" to as many receptive females as possible to enhance the odds of having offspring with the "right" female to carry their DNA to the next generation.

My last two partners had a total of five husbands between them, with five children, one to each husband. None of them were mine because I ended up with the woman after the children were born.

The claim to fame of a friend who was a horn dog in college is that he nailed three different women on the same day, one in the morning that had spent the night with him, one in the afternoon after classes and one later that night at a party.

Look at how many "single / unwed mothers" there are out there (ones that got knocked up but the sperm donor father is now out of the picture) or women raising their children without the presence of the biological father for one reason or another. It's an epidemic if there ever was one.

When women hit 40 and are still childless, many finally hear their biological clock ticking and seek out a male to "give them a baby" whether they are married to the male or not.

That's why IVF is so common now. When a female is stuck / partnered with a man that can't get them pregnant but they are in a "committed" relationship and they want to have a child together they can conceive one outside the womb. Or, when a single woman just wants to have a child but not a husband or live-in partner, they can use a sperm bank to get the necessary XY baby batter to become pregnant, and their inherent desire to procreate can be satisfied and they can begin to raise the child on their own and maybe find a suitable de facto father later that doesn't mind raising the product of another man's sperm.

With the availability of reliable birth control (and abortion for those "didn't mean to get pregnant right now" outcomes) young women these days can rack up a "body count" as high as they want to in order to satisfy their sexual needs and curiosity, and when they've found a guy that they "love" and want to "settle down" with and start a family, or at least get knocked up and have that fuck trophy that they always wanted, they can.

It's the birds and the bees folks. It's how the species survives from generation to generation. "Love" has less to do with it these days than before the "Sexual Revolution" and "Free Love" movements of the 1960s and 70s.

The world is full of children being raised without a father present in their life every day or in "blended" families, so to those kids that's "normal" and when they reachsexual maturity, they have less inclination to have a "traditional family" and society continues to slide into the abyss of "Who's your daddy?" conversations between third graders.

Fuck around and find out how expensive it is to raise a child today, and how hard it is for women to "keep a man" around when his desire to impregnate another willing female leads him away from the child he's already got.

[Rosexøxø]

DNA donors? And we wonder why we have to find cures for STDs and why there’s so many diseases and genetic mutations.

If they’re both equally programmed to do something in regards to sex and procreation, then women aren’t stupid in that case but that logic and men aren’t smart.

Both are “programmed,” and following an instinctual habit,

And a lot of adults these days who live more civilized don’t live 100% by instinct or impulse.

[HawkPerception]

It's an old saying, but I don't think it was ever true. Maybe it's true for some men and women.

But I think most men aren't just in love with what they see, but their character as well.
Sure we're usually more interested in girls that are physically attractive and catch our eye. But if we find out she has a shitty personality, most of us abort that operation.

And sure girls will always like flattery, but they can get sick of it, as it's sometimes hard to tell who's telling the truth or not. And they are attracted to many more aspects of a guy.

So maybe if the saying changed to "Men fall in love with what they see and women fall in love with what they hear... INITIALLY. That's why men lie and women wear makeup." then that would make more sense.

[HawkPerception]

But it definitely doesn't apply to everyone, so it's just an inaccurate saying overall

[Rosexøxø]

I give it 50/50 in the question

and each individual woman and each individual set/pair of a couple.

Women like conversation more while guys like the visuals, but about lying more? I must’ve lied like 4-7 times in my life maybe in between than nothing more than 8.

All spread out by years and most of it in my childhood era.

I just HATE lying now as an independent adult who doesn’t cower and all I simply will never lie. Either speak or don’t. That’s the beauty of it but lies are just so nauseating and not beneficial to progress and the wellbeing of others.

Its regressive, it delays, it’s just not right.

I personally don’t always like or make what I hear a deal breaker. I also weigh actions. A word should be bond and words should explain the actions before they happen. They almost go hand in hand, and even men use some audios… it’s not all visual.

Well anyways, I gotta say 50/50. 🤷‍♀️

[Rosexøxø]

Couldn’t vote

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

No, women fall in love with eyes too… It’s just some guys are too stupid and believe in fairytales…

[coachTanthony]

lol.

[kitten_man]

Thank god

[Summeroflove]

I think for some people it’s true. I think people should be honest. I think lying is the wrong thing to do. Because at some point or another the truths going to come out. You want someone to love you for you not a false representation of yourself that at some point they will find out about. When someone finds out you’re lying they are going to be rightfully angry.

At the same time. If someone’s super judgmental and superficial. They are doing you a favor rejecting you. Because you will be absolutely miserable long term with a man or woman whose like this. You will never be good enough for them. They will hold you to standards and expectations they will never hold themselves to.

[Avicenna]

That's too simplistic. If a guy likes a woman for reasons other than her looks, she'll appear more attractive to him and women often wear makeup for themselves.

[Flatmanlewis]

I agree with the observation but disagree with the equating of a persons lying - or actual lack of integrity - with a woman enhancing her beauty by any means. Make up, eye lashes, nails, hair extensions, and so on are socially acceptable and even desirable in some circles. A lying man is not. In my craft we have a saying we provide to the FNGs. “You lie, you die.” Not literally but if you get caught in a lie at work - no matter how small, you are terminated and generally cut out of the herd unceremoniously and quickly.

[Biancam13]

It's way more complex than that. I would say that both genders fall in love with a combination or the "whole package" of a person. For myself as a woman, I fall in love with their personality and values, but I need to find them physically attractive to even like them.

[Joshydavid25]

Generally, yeah it's true.. A man would be ready to lose it all just for a woman he thinks is fine.. I've also had a lot of women compliment me in my looks, but it didn't go anywhere... But like everything in life, it's not cut and dry, it's complex and multifaceted..

[lightbulb27]

Women fall in love with what they feel. They can deceive themselves or be deceived based upon their minds eye. They should fall in respect, a lot simpler and required in time.

[superchan2011]

I think that is really one of those things that depends on the people more than the gender. I'm sure there are men out there that fall in love with what they see and women that fall in love with what they here, but I'm sure the opposite also can ring true as well. It just really depends on the person. It's more subjective.

[atiquahbby]

I, a woman, fall in love with what I see and hear. I care about looks, values and personality

[msc545]

Don't forget money and height.

[atiquahbby]

@msc545 Nope I don't care about money, but height may be important.

[msc545]

There it is.

[msc545]

Since you don't care about money just send me all of yours. I won't hold my breath waiting for you to do that.

[atiquahbby]

@msc545 I literally don't care about the guy's money at all, believe it if you want, idc

[msc545]

So since you don't care, you will send me yours, right?

[atiquahbby]

@msc545 Sounds like you're the one who wants women's money, not the other way round lol

[msc545]

get your brain checked.

[msc545]

Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with men's wallets.

[coachTanthony]

lol.

[Likes2drive]

It varies but yeah guys can sound really good if they add in some lies just like when women look better with makeup which is like lying in looks

[Twalli]

A lot of girls I went to school with liked me as a person. They didn't want to date me, but loved how I acted towards everyone. I can't count the number who told me that they wished their boyfriend treated them the way I did. So my personality and the way I treated people clearly wasn't the reason I was single. The only conclusion that made sense is that I wasn't physically attractive. So they obviously cared about looks.

[dragoblack]

Each of us are different. Many of us are visual attention people, but so are many women. Some of us look for more emotional and mental chemistry & compatibility... but from experience it's a whole lot of people finding visual attraction and wanting to fuck. Not very many look for a genuine conversation and see if you both have interest you both share, then see where it goes from there.

[dustybiker2]

I disagree. A large portion of the population is like this. But the other huge percentage is not. Either flipped or mixed. Attraction is biological. We have little to no say in what we like.

[katiesmuff]

I would have to vote false! It's a combination of what you see and what you hear that forms the beginnings of falling in love.

[IslaTheWitch]

false... most men I know don't lie... they are more prone to avoiding some topics than openly lying.

and I don't wear make-up... being a redhead makes me visible enough...

[Med_guy1978]

I agree that many women can fall in love with what they hear and some men lie and tell them what they want to hear. Guys are very physical, show him your attributes and he's conquered.

[Derrimar]

totally false for me. I like a lot to hear things from woman, specially when it comes to sex, seduction and physical attraction. Brain it's a big part. It can change what I see. Not the other way around

[FreyaRed]

When the look causes cognitive dissonance there is no way some positive words will change anything

[Purpleronnie]

That would be ridiculous and also false. Could never be as simplistic.

[coachTanthony]

lol.

[strateguy632]

false n false. gals like my looks n attitude. i prefer natural so not fall in love by addition.