Women fall in love with what they hear, men, what they see, so that’s why men lie and women wear makeup. Your thoughts on this?

[Anonymous]

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To my knowledge, this is quite an old saying.

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For men, I think it is especially true.

You’ll notice that men’s behavior changes rather drastically when in the company of a beautiful woman, especially one where they are actually/intimately involved with.

Lots of half-truths and full blown lies are told to these women. I’ve noticed it in myself and other men.

It makes total sense though, from nearly all perspectives (biological, societal, emotional, etc).

Men will tolerate A LOT for a woman they fancy very much.

Women will too, but

[MikeInHawaii]

I’m not sure how true it is. I think if women hear the same load of BS from a guy who is 6’ 3”, muscular and driving a Porsche, it will be far more believable than it would have been from a man who is 5’ 6”, chubby and driving a Chevy Spark. She is acting on visuals.

I also wonder if men lie to women as much as they lie to themselves. They want to believe the silly little myth that women are sweet, innocent little angels seduced and corrupted by men.

If she is a college senior having a drunken one night stand, she will say “He got me drunk” and “He took advantage of me” as if it was a naive mistake, even though it is the 137th time the same thing is happened.

And, when a man she has been dating for years promises to “forsake all others” at the altar of a church, there is only a 30% to 50% chance he’ll keep that promise. So when a man says “this time is different” piss drunk at 2:00 AM, after meeting a woman at midnight, why in the hell would she have any serious expectation that he is telling the truth?

[Lookingforthetruth]

For many women in modern dating they want the guy that other woman want , which is why we see so many men left out in the dust for sex/relationship in their 20's, while the vast majority of women have healthy sex life and get access to relationship. Pearl here talks about how many women want the guy that other women want to be their man. And when I say other woman, I mean women she respects and considers on her level or better.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/isvWEha18u0

This is why many men notice a spike in their attention from women if they got an attractive girl, if they wear a wedding ring or even using an escort and carrying her to a social event. Women by in large a re more hive mind than men and tend to go after a small group of men. These men often have a wide range to pick from and therefore will only commit to the best girl and thus we get the narrative of women always saying that men only want sex or men don't want to commit.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I'd say courtship in general, people are deceiving at first, as a way to get their foot in the door. Otherwise women without make up don't get asked out and men lie to get their attention, both hoping to make a good impression and thus moving beyond all that.

As it does seem that getting a date with someone and making it past that seems to be the hardest part right there, when in reality... making a relationship work is by far the hardest part.

Everyone to an extend is not their true self until they let their guard down.

[MikeInHawaii]

I’ve always just acted like myself. This makes a first date a rarity. In the even more rare event of a second date, the woman might be thinking “I know he doesn’t act like that all the time, I’ll give him one more chance.” A third date is a marriage scare.

[Aerissa_Jade]

@MikeInHawaii See and I think it takes at least a dozen dates to get through the façade and barriers, and ofc there is no way to know who is like you and who is faking it... until such time.

[RandomGuy1030]

Its in what u dont say that makes u look good

[MikeInHawaii]

Back when I was your age, or younger…. a long, long time ago, women were always telling my I reminded them of their fathers, brothers or uncles. I concluded that I reminded them of the men who act like themselves around them.

[MikeInHawaii]

@RandomGuy1030 There are definitely things I don’t say. My brother and my best friend of 35 years don’t know my income.

[RandomGuy1030]

@MikeInHawaii yea. . What about dont say irrelevant and stupid shit. "I hate skinny jeans" who cares

[QuietVerbena]

Maybe. But at least falling in love with what you hear gives you some insight into someone’s personality, especially if you’re very intuitive and can usually see through bullshit. Falling in love with what you see tells you nothing about who a person really is.

[OlderAndWiser]

I hope every other guy is not out there telling lies. Most women wear makeup but they pay attention to their appearance mostly to boost their own self-confidence.

[Lookingforthetruth]

would you not consider wearing makeup, heels, corsets, push up bras, getting fake tits as false advertisement seeing that men are visual creatures?

[MrsTurkleton]

@Lookingforthetruth his point was that many women do those things to make themselves feel good.
Everyone likes to feel sexy, or confident…. even in the comfort of their own home.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MrsTurkleton Except women don't. They do those things to improve their attractiveness for men and to make other women jealous. Hence, why you have girls saying they feel like "Assholes" with a face full of make up only to get ghosted by men.

[MrsTurkleton]

@Lookingforthetruth I’m a woman, and I have to feel confident in myself before I can even think about trying to impress anyone else.
Unless woman are actively looking for a hookup or a date we aren’t looking for approval. We just want to feel good:
If we go out to enjoy ourselves with our friends, we aren’t going to look like shit just because we aren’t looking for man that day/night/week/year.

I don’t want to date again, at least not for a few years because I’m still getting over a very toxic situation, but it doesn’t mean I want to turn into a slob.

In the nicest possible way, you cannot speak for us:

We will make extra effort for a particular guy we are interested in, but don’t assume it’s for everyone else all of the time.
Everyone likes to feel good about themselves.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MrsTurkleton Except women say this but most men with common sense know it's BS. In fact a girl even tried to use this line and a tv host called her out saying she was full of shit and the male equivalent to that was a guy putting on a condom on at night just because it makes him feel good.

"In the nicest possible way, you cannot speak for us:"

Ah you can't speak for most women only yourself and can hold to your belief. Men will common sense know though that women do wear makeup, revealing outfits and have an addiction to social media due to wanting attention from people (men and women).

[MrsTurkleton]

@Lookingforthetruth When you feel like crap any motivation for most things kind of dwindles: That’s the case for many people.
The better you feel about yourself, the better you perform at life in general.

If a woman wants to look good for herself and a man doesn’t believe her, there is nothing to be done about it: she has nothing to prove.

A woman can have her confidence severely knocked, such as having an abusive spouse or from being treated poorly, or bullied at school & she wants to get herself a new hairstyle/pair of boobs/better body to feel good about herself again, it’s nobody’s place to question it.

I can’t speak for all women, you’re right. Neither can you.

Remember we aren’t in your heads as much as you aren’t in ours. You can tell us everyday that men are visual, but don’t actually know how strong that feeling is for you:

When I was 18, I went through this “boho” phase of wearing asymmetrical poncho type tops with long summer pants and boots. I was pretty much covered from head to toe apart from one shoulder and guys still spoke to me….
We don’t think as deeply about it as you maybe think we do.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

@Lookingforthetruth @OlderAndWiser @mrsturkleton Self-confidence is an inside job. If you need makeup to get there then you're ignorant of your power of thought and you have a limiting belief about yourself on top of that. If you need makeup to feel confident then you don't really have confidence on a deep level.

@mrsturkleton What do I personally think? I think people want to feel like the person they want to BE and so they where MAKEUP to accomplish that. However you don't need anything outside of yourself to get that feeling and make it permanent. I speak from experience. Nothing wrong with makeup whatever the motive is. People deserve some happiness on this planet.

[OlderAndWiser]

@BUTIMRIGHTTHO You have the right to persist in maintaining that attitude and you can feel very self-righteous about your level of "perceptiveness." But you need to ask yourself, "Is this attitude helping me or hurting me?"

Frankly, my attitude has served me well. I would much rather understand women than see them as the enemy, and I would much rather be a lover than a fighter.

[MzAsh]

Infatuation, maybe. Men are infatuated with what they see, and women what they hear.

[ethanallen]

Wearing makeup is the least of what women do. You forgot to mention

1. Hair stylist regularly

2. Hair extensions

3. Hair highlights

4. Colored contacts

5. Esthetician - skin, facial hair removal

6. waxing

7. botox when over 40

8. vaginal rejuvination when over 50

9. teeth whitening, teeth bonding

10. cosmetic surgery of face (mouth, nose, eyes, hairline), breasts, abdomen and buttocks

11. clothing purchases far beyond what is required for her job or her lifestyle. she is dressing to attract a men in a much higher lifestyle

12. Excessive attention devoted to curating photos of herself for social media

13. Attends college to find a man to marry and get her MRS degree.

[Pinay_ako]

When I was young, I used to be swept off my feet with flattery and romantic words.
🤣 now? Oh please 🙄.

Actions! I need actions and consistency.
When words don’t match their actions… then their words are empty to me.

[furki3]

You are right

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Why do you think there are a bunch of old sayings like:
1. Actions speak louder than words
2. Tell them what you intend to do but show it first

You can find 1000s of sayings with just as much meaning and even deeper about life but we all think they are clichés but actually they hold all the wisdom pasted down from the ages.

Anyone that has tried to truly change... You understand words mean nothing. You can say something in one moment and truly mean it but your actions can be in disharmony still. Not because you lied but because one doesn't understand conditioning and how to alter it.

[litty]

That's a sexist saying. Women will lie too if they know what they say or do is going to hurt (e. g. cheating).

For guys, it's very common for men to want to appear taller before a date. A friend told me that on her dates several guys have insisted their measurements like 5'10 or how they were taller than her. Not to mention people wear elevator shoes.

[NathanDavis]

stupidest thing I've seen today here at G@G (still early though)

did that Andrew Tate guy came up with it? lol...

[Haha456]

It is true. But not for all women.

A ugly guy who is funny can still manage to get women. But if you are a ugly but funny, you won't be able to get any guy.

Women are more flexible with what they are attracted to.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If they are more flexible then what about an attractive guy but not funny? It's still a lose-lose if you're also talking about an ugly woman who is funny

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

its easier to date as an ugly man than an ugly woman.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then I can also say it's easier to date an unfunny girl then an unfunny guy. And do I also have to mention that it's easier to date a broke girl than a broke guy?

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

its also easier to date as a older man than an older woman.

its also easier to have kids as an older man than an older woman.

its also easier for a fat guy to date than a fat girl.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then I can also say it's easier to date as an underqualified woman.

It's easier to have kids that's an underqualified woman.

It's also easier to date as a skinny girl than a skinny guy.

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

its harder to date as a fat girl than a fat guy.

its easier to date as an ugly guy than ugly girl.

its easier to get hired as a man than a woman.

its easier to get respect as a man than as a woman.

it is cheaper to exist as a man than a woman.

Even having kids as a man is easier on career than a woman.

It is also easier to make money as a man than a woman.

It is easier to get a job as a man than a woman.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I can also say the opposite otherwise. You haven't gave any prove however.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I'm talking about
"its harder to date as a fat girl than a fat guy."
"its easier to get respect as a man than as a woman."
"Even having kids as a man is easier on career than a woman."

You have no proof on that.

But the wage which had been debunked by the way is another agenda you're talking about and has nothing to do with dating.

Respect? Tell me is there even a phenomenon called "men are wonderful" effect? Because there is something called "women re wonderful effect" you can google which explains those double standards where society just lets women abuse a man while it's not ok if a man abuses a woman. Another fact would be homeless women are more likely to get supports to start over as they also have women's shelter available while having men's shelter closed due to the lack of funding. Now if you say i didn't present something to backup my claims, neither do you so I don't have to. Unless you can provide me a real data about all your claims, then so will I

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

Women get less credit than men in the workplace

"In sum, we find that when men speak up with ideas on how to change their team for the better they gain the respect of their teammates -- since speaking up indicates knowledge of the task at hand and concern for the wellbeing of the team," Emich said. "Then, when it comes time to replace the team's leader, those men are more likely to be nominated to do so. Alternatively, when women speak up with ideas on how to change the team for the better, they are not given any more respect than women who do not speak up at all, and thus are not seen as viable leadership options."

www.sciencedaily.com/.../171213130252.htm

[Aiko_E_Lara]

https://youtu.be/5nmX3R0qHUg it is also shown that men negotiate and perseveres more. Or even in times when a man don't get a credit for something he did, he still tries hard to find another way to get him credited and to climb up the corporate ladder. The risks they do to get credited and to climb up in the corporate ladder can cost him to be fired and get homeless which is why there are more men fired and homeless than women. Those men who made it on top of the corporate ladder has faced hardships only a few people faced and they don't benefit the average man in any meaningful way.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And that reasoning can also be applied as to why men get paid more on average

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

men get paid more because a woman needs to quit her job to become a mother.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Except nobody forced you to become a mother.

I can also say the reason why men get paid more is because they needed the job because they are fathers who pays for tge mother and babies. So if men on average get paid more, that also mean men have to pay more than women.

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara

[Except nobody forced you to become a mother.]

So why do men get to become fathers while still getting to hold onto their jobs?
nobody forced me to become a mother? you wouldn't exist if women didn't become mothers.

[I can also say the reason why men get paid more is because they needed the job because they are fathers who pays for tge mother and babies. So if men on average get paid more, that also mean men have to pay more than women.]

men get paid more because men tend to promote other men. studies have proven that men prefer ot mentor other men. people tend to promote those who are like them.

men also get paid more because women tend to have children drag down their careers. women have less time to work on their jobs due to child rearing duties.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Yeah i wouldn't exist if it wasn't for my mom and also if it wasn't for my dad. You seem to forgot that a man also made me. It takes a mother and a father to concieve a child. And they don't do it because they're forced. They do it because they want to. If you don't like to have a child then again nobody is forcing you. It is still your decision to make children just like how most moms decide. The video i gave you debunking tge wage gap still stands by the way. Really if it's legal to pay women less because theyre women, then wouldn't companies just hire women to save money? Really you think that corporates are such boys clubs that gender is more important than the profits one can make

[Haha456]

@Aiko_E_Lara [Yeah i wouldn't exist if it wasn't for my mom and also if it wasn't for my dad. You seem to forgot that a man also made me. It takes a mother and a father to concieve a child. And they don't do it because they're forced. They do it because they want to. If you don't like to have a child then again nobody is forcing you. ]

it does not require a dad to conceive a child. Plenty of women get impregnated by men who ditch and run off. It doesn't disprove the fact that many women need to GIVE UP THEIR CAREERS just to have children while men still get to hold onto their careers. Plain sexism right there.

[It is still your decision to make children just like how most moms decide. The video i gave you debunking tge wage gap still stands by the way. Really if it's legal to pay women less because theyre women, then wouldn't companies just hire women to save money? Really you think that corporates are such boys clubs that gender is more important than the profits one can make]

corporate boys clubs tend to promote other boys. this is why there is a huge gender pay gap.

along with the fact that many women need to give up their careers to raise children.

whenever the child is sick, it is always the woman taking time off her work to care for the child. Never the man. Men don't care about their children.

this is why men get paid more. they have more time to focus on careers. and boys clubs tend to like to promote other boys

[Aiko_E_Lara]

They are still men however and considered their dad biologically speaking and there are also women who gets sperm from sperm bank which still came from Men in the first place or they can steal a man's sperm and get them pregnant with it by raping them and still sue them for child support.

It also doesn't disprove the fact that many women gives up their careers by choice when nobody is still forcing them to be a mother in the first place. You looking for excuses to call someone a sexist also makes your sexist.

Just like there are corporate Girls Club that tend to promote other girls especially if they're companies about girls stuff or girl products or whatever. But generally speaking companies aren't a gender thing. That's why that video said that even a female employer is willing to pay a woman less if she's also willing to work less. When she takes her time off to take care of a child who is sick then then that is a part of her commitment when she decided to make a child in the first place when again nobody is forcing her to. They are usually done by choice so why complain? Even guys who made a commitment to be the one to take care of the child while the girls work would still do that but most of the time it's the girl who likes to make the decision to stay home not the guy so yeah if you like to work then work and look for Modern Men who would look after the kids instead of looking for traditional hot guys which you just like to complain later about how "patriarchal" they are. You're still ignoring the fact that guys also pay more because they are the ones who get sued for child support, pay for the house bills, the cars an so on so they are the ones who have more debts for the family. So if you modern women like to complain about that then look for Modern Men not traditional men like what most of you would look for.

[jh16896]

I wear makeup for me. I feel put together with it on- but I can feel confident without it. I've made it a point that all my 'guy friends ' have seen my naked face so the know the real me- not just me with makeup. As for the guy thing, I don't know why a man would lie🤷🏼‍♀️ I'm not one. but I as a woman feel like I fall in love with actions as well as words. you can't lie through actions nearly as long.

[Guy13]

Funny and accurate plus women feel emotionally and men feel physically then emotionally. Add the lying and visual components on the proper side of Ledger then it is "Dating" ;-)

[JDavid25]

In simplistic terms.. Yes.. Men, will go crazy and even stay with a woman for a while because of what he sees.. For a woman, it's more like the actions the make her fall in love..

[dustybiker]

Where do you dig these warped topics up? You always post them as fact.

[Asker]

So, you’ve never heard of this saying before?

[dustybiker]

Variations. Usually non-doctor self-help books.

[Asker]

I feel like a lot of people are in denial about a lot of stuff.

Whenever it comes to the natures of men and women especially, I’ve seen a lot of people have a hesitation over believing

Because to be frank, a lot of it isn’t romantic.

It can definitely come off as being inhuman, metal, cold, etc.

This is why many naturally recline from such topics

[dustybiker]

What you describe is just lack of communication. People refuse to ask each other questions. They’d rather come to GaG and ask here what he or she is thinking. It’s not a male/female thing.

[Asker]

I do both, so …..

[Apple1996]

Isn't wearing makeup just considered lying too?

[NathanDavis]

you don't need any makeup to be as pretty as you are...

[Apple1996]

@NathanDavis awhh thank you! ❤

[Asker]

And here folks is the simp in his natural habitat.

Observe the beautiful spots and pandering to the women…..

[Apple1996]

Oh stop he is my friend

[Asker]

He panders to women a lot I’ve noticed.

I know you like the compliment and being nice, but maybe you’ve noticed this as well.

I used to kind of be like this

In middle school.

[Apple1996]

There is nothing wrong if he wants to give women compliments

[NathanDavis]

@Apple1996 it's no compliment... it is just the truth, lol

[Asker]

Okay, I see what’s going on here haha.

You’re too kind @Apple1996

Also, you are right, she is attractive @NathanDavis

But this isn’t my point lol

I’m going to leave now.
This will become a useless convo

[Apple1996]

@NathanDavis the truth and a compliment. It's definitely both

[Apple1996]

Yess I am a bit too nice to some people but I have just have no reason to be mad about a compliment. And thank you for saying I'm attractive 😊

[TommyWiseau69]

No that's not true. Most women don't like short guys or skinny guys

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

disagree with the skinny part.

[coachTanthony]

It is an old saying but you what they say about sayings. There is always some truth to them.

[abc3643]

That's horseshit and that should be self-explanatory as to why.

[DS_Madking]

can only speak for me but either way personality and looks are both importand looks attracts and personality catches

[TroyDT]

"Fall in love" to me is based upon lust or infatuation. I avoid basing my decision on either.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Isn't that what life is basically about? You do the things you do because you love those things. People love Harry Potter so they read the books over and over and watch the movies and talk about it etc etc. That doesn't have it bad. It is neither bad nor good. Lust is purely biological but without it humanity might not be here. If you don't do what you love you lived someone else's life or the life of a coward. I'm not about to safely walk to my death. What is the point?

And if none of that is what you meant then what do you base your decisions around? Stats lol. Basically mass conditioning.

[Rockstarrrrr]

No, everyone wants a good looking partner who would spoil them...

[BurntKeyboard]

I look bad in makeup, and I'd hope a man is honest since compliments feel good, just not if they aren't true.

[RiseofArtemis]

If I see someone wearing a shitton of Makeup I have to think the Grinch has to be under that mask. Make Up is deception and no one wants to be decieved. I can asure you that most guys get bothered with a girl wearing excesive Makeup. Try to be more Natural and confident without makeup. And Show your more feminine side to a guy. You will know what gets them hooked to you is how you act to them. The more motherly traits you show the more likely you get a guy.

[Jltakk]

Extremely accurate take. I'm glad I'm not the only one thats observed this in society.