Is there an age where you don't have the ability to be infatuated (fall in love) with new people anymore?

[Anonymous]

The single time I've felt that sensation once again recently but briefly (I'm now 36) was when I spoke with my old HS crush on FB in Dec. Once in a while, I think about him even though things never worked out and we were both equally at fault.

I just feel too bored and tired of the ''oh he brought me roses, oh I have butterflies in my stomach'' dating stage. I think I don't have the ability to fall head over heels for a new man ever again. That only happened once in a lifetime but I was much younger, for only two men. Even when I was younger, I rarely would feel that way for a guy. Very, very few times. It's very hard for me to really be moved that much. So it happened, it was a miracle.

Is there an age where you lose the ability of falling in love with new people?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah dang, I can understand that feeling of not being able to get the butterflies like you used to. Sometimes as you get older it can be harder to open up like that, especially if you've been hurt before. But I don't think there's really an age limit on love!

A few thoughts - Don't give up just yet. Even if those head over heels feelings don't happen right away, real connections can still grow over time. And you never know, maybe someday you'll meet someone who really sweeps you off your feet again.

Also, remember when you were younger it was all new, so everything felt more intense. Now you've had experiences to learn from. Maybe try not putting so much pressure on yourself or a new guy to be "the one" right away. Just go with the flow and see where it leads.

The other thing is, as you get to know someone better, what you feel for them can still be really strong - it just might look different than that initial infatuation. The butterflies fade but a deeper caring grows.

So don't count yourself out of the game! You never know who could come into your life. And just because it's not the same as when you were 16 doesn't mean it can't be amazing in its own way. Keep your heart open if someone great comes along. You never know what could happen!

[DannyUk2017]

Yes! When you "really" open your eyes, and see that life around you is not that "pink" as you imagined. 🤷‍♂️

[laly520]

no there isn't

some just had too many trauma n bad experiences growing up n it affected em badly

n others got more serious when they grew older

[Asker]

What makes it harder for me is that I've always been a demisexual woman. Very rare have I desired a man romantically and sexually. It does happens but some type of specific bond has to formed and just seeing an attractive man isn't enough to motivate me either.

[laly520]

oh now it makes more sense
then age has nth to do with it in this case

[Asker]

yeah I think my case is difficult, rare and unique

[jahaims]

Infatuation and love are different things

[Asker]

I've experience both things on a rare moment. That's why I called once in a lifetime. For instance even if I were to meet a man I'm attracted to (I can still feel attraction towards men and see Justin Timberlake as cute even though he's much older now), that's not enough for me to really fall for him and desire him so much.

[Asker]

It has happened yes it has (I'm still a sexual woman with sex drives) but rare times.