I think this guy I'm talking-to is copying all my interests?

[Anonymous]

I've been in the 'talking stage' with this guy not for long. For about a month or so. I kinda like him but there's something I can't quite put my finger on, which holds me back.

I've noticed that he likes every single thing I say I like. Every hobby, every interest, even the music I like. And I'm a weird person.

Like he never disagrees with me or has a different opinion than me. He's also mirrors the way I talk when we text. For instance, I like to talk about philosophy and I tend to rant on about it sometimes. It's an annoying habit I have but my friends put up with it. But this guy, who wasn't really into philosophy before, has now started going on huge philosophical rants of his own.

I'm also into a very specific, niche religion, and he now keeps talking about how much he loves and is a part of this religion too (which I don't think he was before.)

He also likes the food I like. On his instagram, it shows him eating meat. Now I'm a vegetarian, but I wouldn't mind dating a meat eater. But this guy just told me that he is also a vegetarian and keeps sending me pictures of the vegetarian food he's eating.

These are only a few examples, by the way. But he never disagrees with me and we seem to have every single thing in common.

I don't know why, but the fact that he likes EVERYTHING I like and never has any opinions of his own kind of weirds me out. Should this be a red flag or am I being too judgmental?

[Violet_78]

That’s a bit much isn’t it.

people tend to take a genuine interest in people they like and their interests - even in things that they might not have been interested before - that seems to be completely normal

even mirroring of language etc and a lot of that is being done subconsciously so the person doing it might not even be aware of it

but what you are describing seems very forced and over the top to me. More than what would be expected for people crushing on someone…

[Asker]

Thanks, it is weird and it skeevs me out a bit. He's a nice guy just this whole thing is too much.

[stark04]

Fake few of them. Like drinking, partying, shoplifting, not wearing a seatbelt.

[Asker]

Good idea. Unfortunately I've already told him a lot about myself so he knows quite a bit by now. I guess I could make some other interests up and see if he mimics them as well.

[stark04]

You can say you have some not so good interests too. Drinking and partying all weekend with friends is usually not considered a good habit. You owe no one any explanation or anything so relax and stop worrying about it. 😀

[laly520]

he is very sus

[Asker]

Thanks. Would you break it off if it were you?

[laly520]

yes
looks like he likes lying just to fit in

[Asker]

Ok, thank you :)