Girl, don't be so hard on yourself! Dating and crushes are complicated, and it sounds like you've got a lot going on. A few thoughts:
- With your longtime crush, it's normal to still have feelings, but hiding from him isn't going to change the situation. I'd say either you need to muster up the courage to talk to him and see if there's a chance, or really start moving on. Pining secretly will just prolong the pain.
- As for the recent guy, physical attraction is important. If you're not feeling it with him looks-wise, that's a sign it may not work long term. Rushing things could also be a red flag.
- Don't be so hard on yourself for having mixed feelings - we can't control who we're attracted to! Just don't string either of them along if your hearts not fully in it.
My advice would be take some time for yourself. Don't force anything. Maybe let both of them know you need space to sort your head out. Then you can get some perspective on what you really want without all the pressure. It's okay if you're not ready to date seriously yet. But hiding and secretly pining will only make you feel worse. Focus on you, and the right fit will come. Chin up - you'll figure it out!
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Lets dissect this. You want the guy that doesn't want you.. right? Have you considered the reason why that is? I could easily tell you, but you need to come to the conclusion yourself.
Human beings have a general flaw. It is natural to want we cannot have. Some people can cope better than others.
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U need to get with your long time crush forget the rest. talk
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