I’ve been going on dates with a guy and it’s now been about 3 weeks. Usually around the 1-2 month mark I would sleep with the guy if I really liked him but I want to take my time with this one. For starters, I’m about to be 26 and I’m taking dating more seriously now, so I have no desire to jump in bed with someone so quickly. Secondly, I had a stroke a little over a month ago and he’s been so great about everything but I want to be sure (or as close to sure as possible) that’s he’s someone who’s going to want to stick around in the long run. I just can’t imagine sleeping with someone who I’ve been going on dates with for a significant portion of my recovery, only to then discover that he’s not looking for something serious. I want to be 100% sure about him before sleeping with him, and I’m not sure how long that’s going to take.
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Guys, How long would you be willing to wait to have sex with a girl you really liked?
What Guys Said
Depends on what she would be willing to do. I completely understand not wanting to do penetration, but I do expect some form of sexual intimacy before I go in a relationship with someone. I want to know we are compatible after all before I commit (I take relationships as serious as marriage).
So is only penetration off limits? After 2 years I personally consider our relationship serious enough to where she shouldn't have a problem with it.
Handjobs / Mutual masturbation only couple of months into the relationship.
Nothing at all I wouldn't begin the relationship since I don't see the point in making myself sexually exclusive to someone who isn't willing to fulfill my sexual needs in any way.
For me personally the earliest is till we can both honestly say I love you or all the way to married. I know many don't have that patience or standards that I have but that is how long I plan on waiting myself.
I’d wait as long as she wanted I’d be no good anyway I’m so small she wouldn’t feel me and I can’t control my premature ejection